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114. I think it's safe to say that sex wasn't the most important thing in that marriage.

Reply to southernyankeebelle (Reply #110)

Wed Apr 24, 2013, 01:20 PM

Apr 2013

If it were, the marriage probably would not have survived.

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Report: Denying Men Sex Is Like Child Neglect [View all] n2doc Apr 2013 OP

This is not going to end well. stevenleser Apr 2013 #1

No, and the ride there HappyMe Apr 2013 #3

Nope! liberal N proud Apr 2013 #4

Ohhhhhhh, no it's not . . . . HughBeaumont Apr 2013 #5

Study shows that grumpy, overweight, late-to-come-home men are aphrodisiacs for women Orrex Apr 2013 #2

Was about to post something similar... but without the sarcasm. Fawke Em Apr 2013 #6

You did your own study? snooper2 Apr 2013 #11

Millions of men walking around with that description...not so happy looking though. Ninga Apr 2013 #32

What a crappy article MattBaggins Apr 2013 #7

It sure is a crappy article. Again, man blaming his wife or girlfriend because his southernyankeebelle Apr 2013 #65

Did you read the actual WSJ article? Matt_in_STL Apr 2013 #75

No I just got really upset that women are always getting its their fault attitude about southernyankeebelle Apr 2013 #83

Not a problem Matt_in_STL Apr 2013 #85

I read it. I don't find this particularly thought provoking: Squinch Apr 2013 #127

True, it isn't the best article ever written Matt_in_STL Apr 2013 #132

That's why a therapist doesn't take sides MattBaggins Apr 2013 #86

Well it worked. southernyankeebelle Apr 2013 #96

"Go in the restroom and meet 5 fingers Lucy. " HA! bettyellen Apr 2013 #92

Thanks, I needed a laugh. I knew I would get someone to see the humor. You have southernyankeebelle Apr 2013 #99

The NY Mag article is full of dumb quotes... in reality it seems this poor guy was trying hard bettyellen Apr 2013 #101

I went back and read it. I still think women should think twice if sex is the most southernyankeebelle Apr 2013 #110

I think it's safe to say that sex wasn't the most important thing in that marriage. geek tragedy Apr 2013 #114

Maybe. southernyankeebelle Apr 2013 #118

a coworker says "Palmela Anderson" Skittles Apr 2013 #103

Good one, Skittles! bettyellen Apr 2013 #105

LOL Skittles Apr 2013 #107

Ms. Mower had been turned off by the "pressure" to have sex again after a miscarriage rocktivity Apr 2013 #8

+1 redqueen Apr 2013 #14

Is it possible all the facts are not known MattBaggins Apr 2013 #18

I agree. Part of marriage is working through the periods where the two partners geek tragedy Apr 2013 #21

I really meant the comment about counseling being offered MattBaggins Apr 2013 #27

I'm totally with you on it. There's not much in life that prepares a young married geek tragedy Apr 2013 #30

You know geek...I sometimes think your just not up on things. I am wrong. You're quite Katashi_itto Apr 2013 #78

Thank you in return. nt geek tragedy Apr 2013 #80

+1000... opiate69 Apr 2013 #93

Is it possible that he didn't pressure her for sex? redqueen Apr 2013 #119

I really don't know in this case MattBaggins Apr 2013 #123

I finally read through the thread and realized redqueen Apr 2013 #124

Soooooo....... opiate69 Apr 2013 #126

Yeah, when it comes to male-female dyads there is really only one side to any story. Right? leeroysphitz Apr 2013 #38

"Dyads?" I haven't heard that word rocktivity Apr 2013 #43

Same here. n/t leeroysphitz Apr 2013 #46

Amazingly, that isn't what happened Matt_in_STL Apr 2013 #52

So what did the report say on women that are denyed sex? Rex Apr 2013 #9

Yeah, the problem is that this is set up as a man/woman issue geek tragedy Apr 2013 #16

Yes horrible article, but I expect that kind of crap from the WSJ. Rex Apr 2013 #71

Ironically, the content of the article undermined a lot of gender stereotypes geek tragedy Apr 2013 #76

Maybe that is all sex is to the author. Rex Apr 2013 #82

Report: Denying women money is like child neglect eissa Apr 2013 #10

That's funny. HappyMe Apr 2013 #12

love it. n/t leeroysphitz Apr 2013 #40

Don't forget the $125 dinners, a girl needs to feel fed once in a while. Coyotl Apr 2013 #108

Sex is a part of most healthy marriages? Stop the presses. geek tragedy Apr 2013 #13

Agreed Matt_in_STL Apr 2013 #17

They equated the man's need for sexual intimacy with his wife geek tragedy Apr 2013 #26

I agree. HappyMe Apr 2013 #31

Seriously, switch the genders in this article as a thought experiment. geek tragedy Apr 2013 #33

" Is this (a) implausible and (b) something that would merit insulting and mocking the wife?" leeroysphitz Apr 2013 #45

People are basing their view of it on the shitty NY Mag piece. geek tragedy Apr 2013 #48

Agreed. I just like to jerk my knee in a different direction than everybody else... leeroysphitz Apr 2013 #63

I knew a married couple where the man essentially was disinterested in sex. The marriage imploded stevenleser Apr 2013 #50

It's not at all implausible. HappyMe Apr 2013 #56

I don't know about "insulting and mocking," but it would be her fault for getting fat. Sivafae Apr 2013 #70

Wha? nt geek tragedy Apr 2013 #73

Yes somehow they went from MattBaggins Apr 2013 #23

The WSJ is partly to blame by casting it in the traditional gender stereotypes geek tragedy Apr 2013 #25

I agree with that assessment as well MattBaggins Apr 2013 #36

Ironically, a lot of the commentary has embedded partriarchal stereotypes of men. geek tragedy Apr 2013 #39

C'mon ladies! it's 30 seconds that will really change your life! n2doc Apr 2013 #15

If only it was just 30 seconds eissa Apr 2013 #22

If it only lasts 30 seconds.... HappyMe Apr 2013 #24

30 seconds explains the denial... one_voice Apr 2013 #28

This guy sounds like a child himself n/t arcane1 Apr 2013 #19

no shit. Buzz Clik Apr 2013 #51

He sounds like a child MattBaggins Apr 2013 #91

I think when people are in a loving relationship FedUpWithIt All Apr 2013 #20

The selfishness in this thread saddens me joeglow3 Apr 2013 #29

You make a great point Orrex Apr 2013 #34

It's not selfishness, but there's a profound lack of empathy being displayed. geek tragedy Apr 2013 #35

I don't think most people here read the WSJ article Matt_in_STL Apr 2013 #37

Sometimes trying to be clever results in foolishness. nt geek tragedy Apr 2013 #41

And sometimes trying to look insightful results in smug self-righteousness Orrex Apr 2013 #54

You dangerous thinker you MattBaggins Apr 2013 #58

The NY Mag piece was very smug, true. nt geek tragedy Apr 2013 #60

See? We can agree on something. Orrex Apr 2013 #72

That's one interpretation, sure. Orrex Apr 2013 #47

And that number is climbing. n/t leeroysphitz Apr 2013 #59

It was selfish of her to feel so badly about miscarrying rocktivity Apr 2013 #53

Not selfish of her at all MattBaggins Apr 2013 #67

No, she and her husband processed the grief in different ways. geek tragedy Apr 2013 #68

The article doesn't say that at all Matt_in_STL Apr 2013 #69

No one is saying that joeglow3 Apr 2013 #104

If you deny your partner sex, don't be surprised when LittleBlue Apr 2013 #42

Sexual intimacy isn't something that's granted or denied. geek tragedy Apr 2013 #44

OK, then we differ LittleBlue Apr 2013 #62

What do you mean by "deny?" geek tragedy Apr 2013 #64

A close friend of mine is happily married to a man who is unable to have sex... LanternWaste Apr 2013 #106

Why do you assume they are unable to have sex? MattBaggins Apr 2013 #116

Why do you assume she's assuming anything? opiate69 Apr 2013 #125

Still not an excuse for cheating. If you can't tolerate your partner not able or MillennialDem Apr 2013 #130

Good god. Buzz Clik Apr 2013 #49

I guess I'm just what you needed Zorra Apr 2013 #55

Mormon get the red out Apr 2013 #57

Well that explains his diaper fetish Blue Owl Apr 2013 #61

Congratulations Ms. Mower Politicalboi Apr 2013 #66

ROFLMAO!!! Zorra Apr 2013 #74

+1!!! Buzz Clik Apr 2013 #77

There is movie about it nolabels Apr 2013 #111

He needs to grow up. His wife just had a miscarriage and all he can think about is he is not appleannie1 Apr 2013 #79

Ugh. Did you read the actual article? geek tragedy Apr 2013 #87

I have had a very healthy marriage of almost 50 years. My husband voluntarily went without sex appleannie1 Apr 2013 #94

But, is it fair to say that the man in the story didn't love his wife geek tragedy Apr 2013 #95

Did you talk about this? MattBaggins Apr 2013 #117

Take a look at the actual WSJ article Matt_in_STL Apr 2013 #90

What a crock... Sekhmets Daughter Apr 2013 #81

1% of the population is asexual and actually doesn't give a shit about it. MadrasT Apr 2013 #120

When you are talking about 99% that is pretty much everybody. Sekhmets Daughter Apr 2013 #121

Checking Etsy... liberalmuse Apr 2013 #84

Gakk. madamesilverspurs Apr 2013 #88

There are many other was of having sex besides intercourse. cbdo2007 Apr 2013 #89

True, but the way this is presented is the problem Taverner Apr 2013 #97

That's what your hand is for. tridim Apr 2013 #98

Sex is more than ejaculation to men, especialy when it comes to sex with geek tragedy Apr 2013 #100

Really?? tridim Apr 2013 #102

I read a post here on DU that claimed women were turned on by their man doing the dishes panader0 Apr 2013 #109

going a year without sex . . .you don't need a study to predict that will have a negative effect bigtree Apr 2013 #112

Per the WSJ, they did (kids, schtupping, happy ending). nt geek tragedy Apr 2013 #115

Wow that's an Tien1985 Apr 2013 #113

This will be as popular as a fart in a spacesuit... n/t backscatter712 Apr 2013 #122

Bullsh*t Rider3 Apr 2013 #128

I agree. MrSlayer Apr 2013 #129

Zing! undeterred Apr 2013 #131