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Nuclear Unicorn

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32. I never claimed it was easy.

Thu Apr 25, 2013, 03:38 PM

Apr 2013

I want whatever it takes to keep people safe. I may be wrong but it seems restraining orders are barely worth the paper they are written on. What the hell's the point of going through convoluted legal processes if the abusers can flout the law with impunity. I understand the system is lethargic and whatnot but NOT imposing serious jail time on people who violate ROs almost seems an invitation for them to do so.

If silence is consent the courts have been silent far too long.

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Shut Up or Get Out: PA City Punishes Domestic Violence Victims Who Call the Police [View all] dixiegrrrrl Apr 2013 OP

So, why isn't this guy in jail...? nt Grey Apr 2013 #1

It's not a life sentence, and jail time won't fix this pediatricmedic Apr 2013 #25

Therapists don't help abusers. Zoeisright Apr 2013 #27

Nice of you to give up on fellow human beings pediatricmedic Apr 2013 #34

Except for the fact that the person doing the hitting is committing a crime and deserves jail time. Sivafae Apr 2013 #44

Never said they didn't deserve jail time, but how long do you want to lock them up? pediatricmedic Apr 2013 #50

"how long do you want to lock them up?" Heywood J Apr 2013 #58

24% of all relationships have some violence. lumberjack_jeff Apr 2013 #41

Actual statistics Progressive dog Apr 2013 #52

this country has become so mean barbtries Apr 2013 #2

Why doesn't this surprise me, because I grew up in life long demo Apr 2013 #3

Left as an infant, but I was born there. Posteritatis Apr 2013 #7

To me it looks like defacto7 Apr 2013 #16

Get rid of the abuser and no more domestic calls. Nuclear Unicorn Apr 2013 #4

how will that help if the abusee keeps letting the abuser back in leftyohiolib Apr 2013 #5

It won't but I'm a big believer in personal empowerment, particularly for women Nuclear Unicorn Apr 2013 #6

They make things called "prisons" which theoretically prevent that. (nt) Posteritatis Apr 2013 #8

yup that is an issue, many calls for service end up with not wanting charges loli phabay Apr 2013 #21

Those women live in fear. redqueen Apr 2013 #28

I never claimed it was easy. Nuclear Unicorn Apr 2013 #32

Agreed on all points. redqueen Apr 2013 #35

Just once in my life IrishAyes Apr 2013 #46

Similar to my initial thought too, but sometimes women are unable to leave octothorpe Apr 2013 #40

That's why the authorities need to step forward, i.e. enforce ROs with felony sentences Nuclear Unicorn Apr 2013 #42

Taking out an RO IrishAyes Apr 2013 #47

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Hey! IrishAyes Apr 2013 #13

Message auto-removed Name removed Apr 2013 #23

Really? HappyMe Apr 2013 #29

No, it isn't that the enraged man doesn't know how to control himself. He could if he was around raccoon Apr 2013 #36

Point well taken IrishAyes Apr 2013 #43

'Usually' 'Many'. Cite some data, peer reviewed please. AtheistCrusader Apr 2013 #15

That's shocking! IrishAyes Apr 2013 #10

It has to be AsahinaKimi Apr 2013 #57

That silly woman should stopped getting abused. Simple! Orrex Apr 2013 #11

I have heard more than once, that cops' #1 least favorite call is for domestic violence. Quantess Apr 2013 #12

they are, for one they are dangerous with high emotiond loli phabay Apr 2013 #22

Another example of the republican's war on women nakocal Apr 2013 #14

The police are forcing SCVDem Apr 2013 #17

bad solution to a very real problem KT2000 Apr 2013 #18

In the dysfunctional relationships you describe, there is no "abuser" lumberjack_jeff Apr 2013 #20

"Mos domestic violence is reciprocal--" I didn't know that! Where's the state where most raccoon Apr 2013 #37

Now you do. lumberjack_jeff Apr 2013 #39

Whoa there..... dixiegrrrrl Apr 2013 #53

Wow... far too many problems with your math to know where to start.... opiate69 Apr 2013 #54

Look at it another way. lumberjack_jeff Apr 2013 #55

I see your point KT2000 Apr 2013 #38

Injuries are usually the culmination of mutual violence. lumberjack_jeff Apr 2013 #45

Minneapolis has a similar law it does not say domestic abuse specifically azurnoir Apr 2013 #19

Looks like a way to enable abusive boyfriends... jmowreader Apr 2013 #24

Well he could save the police any more aggravation if he just kills her next time lunatica Apr 2013 #33

Get MARRIED HockeyMom Apr 2013 #26

Every time I think I've hit the limit of outrage with lawmakers, PDJane Apr 2013 #30

So when women start getting murdered will the landord have to be arrested? lunatica Apr 2013 #31

Well, it does remind me IrishAyes Apr 2013 #48

Does anyone know IrishAyes Apr 2013 #49

"Message auto removed" means the poster has been banned. lumberjack_jeff Apr 2013 #51

Thank you. IrishAyes Apr 2013 #56