Meet the Man Who Was Deported From Saudi Arabia for Being Too Handsome

[Xithras]

232. Attraction is not a conscious decision.

First, you're conflating dating with wanting to have sex with someone. I've met lots of people in my life that I'd sleep with, but that I'd never consider dating. There's a difference between physical attraction and actually seeking a mate. One is a physical response. The other requires actual thinking.

You're right though in that the tattoo scenario wasn't apt. A better one would be hair color. It's a physical trait, no different than skin color. I personally don't find blond hair attractive. Never have. Couldn't tell you why, but I don't find it pretty and have never dated with, slept with, or flirted with a blonde in my life. And I'll admit that it's a little weird, as my own mother is a strawberry blonde. Intellectually I have no problem with blondes. I love my mother (and my two blonde sisters), and I hold no stereotypes or biases against them (my mother is a highly intelligent attorney who would quickly make anyone telling blonde jokes regret it).

It's just unattractive to me. No more, no less. That's not racist, or superior, or bigoted. There are merely some physical features that I'm attracted to, and some that I'm not.

Skin color is just another physical feature when it comes to sexual attraction. Nothing more, nothing less. I happen to find dark skin sexy. Some don't. Whatever. Our fires are lit by different things. To freak out and call it "racist" is a wildly over the top response.