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riderinthestorm

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75. I posted about the FIRST time we had a "car argument" and my 14 yr old daughter drove off on me!

Tue Feb 7, 2012, 02:23 AM

Feb 2012

She was 14 years old and I got out of the car to cool off. She's a farm kid though and has been driving ALL of our vehicles on our property since she was 10 years old. When I got out of the car and walked away, she simply shifted into the drivers seat and drove off for a couple of hours, leaving me stranded in nowheresville farmland USA....

My 23 yr older girl is a straight arrow, brilliant, and can't stand the taste or sensation of alcohol or drugs. She was afraid to drive. I count her as one of my best friends in life.

My younger girl is similarly brilliant but is fearless and can't wait to "get off mom's hip". Honestly, I have always LOVED her joie de vivre but lately she's taken that to new and dangerous levels.

Thanks for "getting it" seabeyond....

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What say you...my boss' ex-wife just threw their daughter out of the car and drove off... [View all] joeybee12 Feb 2012 OP

heck, my dad used to do that to me. provis99 Feb 2012 #1

In Vegas? joeybee12 Feb 2012 #5

Vegas would have been a lot better. provis99 Feb 2012 #17

Was this close to home? joeybee12 Feb 2012 #19

I have to admit, it was never more than 10 miles from home. provis99 Feb 2012 #23

This happened to me a few times too. Lunacee2012 Feb 2012 #48

Insufficient information to form an opinion. WillowTree Feb 2012 #2

What are you talking about... This is DU MattBaggins Feb 2012 #40

Just wait right? Broderick Feb 2012 #47

I agree. We need more information. juajen Feb 2012 #109

It can be abuse, but isn't necessarily, IMO. Brickbat Feb 2012 #3

there was an incident almost exactly like this a year or so ago--made the news--mom arrested librechik Feb 2012 #4

The charges were, rightly, dropped obamanut2012 Feb 2012 #118

thx for the update-- librechik Feb 2012 #121

I hope she stopped the car first DJ13 Feb 2012 #6

That was my thought as well slackmaster Feb 2012 #57

Yes, that's definitely abuse. TheWraith Feb 2012 #7

Really? blueamy66 Feb 2012 #64

Kid could get picked up by a predator Shankapotomus Feb 2012 #79

Or kid could learn a valuable lesson. blueamy66 Feb 2012 #86

Not at all Shankapotomus Feb 2012 #103

My son has a 10 month old daughter whom he loves desperately. stufl Feb 2012 #8

when it is my turn (my daughter is 5) Maine-ah Feb 2012 #56

When you say 'threw their daughter out of the car' you mean the mother stopped first, right? tawadi Feb 2012 #9

Figuratively threw...stopped the car I assumed... joeybee12 Feb 2012 #14

That could have ended badly tawadi Feb 2012 #21

I don't think you want to leave a 14-year-old girl alone joeybee12 Feb 2012 #24

Yeah, maybe. But in the middle of the day, if just a few blocks from home..maybe tawadi Feb 2012 #31

NYC kids walk around the city and or take public transportation all the time at 14! Geeze. bettyellen Feb 2012 #76

Dr. Phil ( I know, I know) obamanut2012 Feb 2012 #99

Please don't buy into that hysteria. Codeine Feb 2012 #84

Me too Dorian Gray Feb 2012 #89

I'd need to know a little more before I called it child abuse. Arkansas Granny Feb 2012 #119

Depends where treestar Feb 2012 #10

Las Vegas, and no... joeybee12 Feb 2012 #11

Where did the mom kick her out of the car? enlightenment Feb 2012 #22

+1 nt riderinthestorm Feb 2012 #30

Were there sidewalks, a library, a store, an Applebee's? obamanut2012 Feb 2012 #101

The last sentence treestar Feb 2012 #115

Exactly, one-sided and filtered through two sources obamanut2012 Feb 2012 #117

Second hand gossip. Quantess Feb 2012 #12

I would have been too afraid liberal N proud Feb 2012 #13

Maybe she saw it on TV last night Tsiyu Feb 2012 #15

I saw that, too...Modern Family... joeybee12 Feb 2012 #20

Ah..that age does make a difference Tsiyu Feb 2012 #36

Makes you wonder why she is his X wife? OffWithTheirHeads Feb 2012 #16

Oh, the stories.... joeybee12 Feb 2012 #18

it's abandonment and possibly child endangerment. notadmblnd Feb 2012 #25

Depends MoonRiver Feb 2012 #26

Did she 'throw her out of the car' while it was still moving Rex Feb 2012 #27

If not abuse, it's dangerous to the kid. n/t Cleita Feb 2012 #28

I have a 15 year old daughter and we are going through a very, very difficult year riderinthestorm Feb 2012 #29

All the best to you and your daughter tawadi Feb 2012 #34

There are no right answers and parenting does not come with a manual. riderinthestorm Feb 2012 #35

Please do whatever it takes to stop her from going down this path nobodyspecial Feb 2012 #41

Oh my god, can I pm you? I would really love to talk if you are willing riderinthestorm Feb 2012 #44

Find an APG fast elehhhhna Feb 2012 #54

I honestly didn't mean to thread derail, I just wanted the OP to understand he prob does not have riderinthestorm Feb 2012 #55

This message was self-deleted by its author seaglass Feb 2012 #95

what a post. that is interesting seabeyond Feb 2012 #73

Not a flame, but frankly I'm not going to say you did the right thing. TheWraith Feb 2012 #42

Read post #44 and get back to me. She was dealing drugs, prostituting herself. Its way beyond pot riderinthestorm Feb 2012 #45

my son is a cross country runner. he runs 11, 12 or more miles ALL over town. since 14. seabeyond Feb 2012 #72

I know -- very weird replies to this to me, too obamanut2012 Feb 2012 #107

any other thread about child, posters all over overprotecting "little darlins" seabeyond Feb 2012 #113

Peace to you and your family mrs_p Feb 2012 #50

Thks. I didn't mean to thread derail but the OP really prob does not have all the info to judge this riderinthestorm Feb 2012 #58

Your story is a good reminder that it is easy mrs_p Feb 2012 #74

anywhere in our town, i would be comfortable pulling over and telling either sons, 14 and 16, to get seabeyond Feb 2012 #52

Thanks seabeyond. She had an hour walk home and was fine. Yeah, it does suck tho...nt riderinthestorm Feb 2012 #59

Great example of maturity there. tabasco Feb 2012 #61

Do you have any statistics on this? blueamy66 Feb 2012 #65

That's fine. Nobody has walked in my shoes, I was simply pointing out to the OP, they may not have riderinthestorm Feb 2012 #70

a 15 yr old? really? in a year she will have her own car. at what point is she off moms hip. seabeyond Feb 2012 #71

I posted about the FIRST time we had a "car argument" and my 14 yr old daughter drove off on me! riderinthestorm Feb 2012 #75

there, but for the grace of god go ..... all parents. seabeyond Feb 2012 #81

No it wasn't obamanut2012 Feb 2012 #108

I think you did the right thing at the time. HappyMe Feb 2012 #80

In that case you were just weighing Shankapotomus Feb 2012 #82

at 14 my son started running cross country. running 11, 12, or more miles all over town. 15 is a seabeyond Feb 2012 #87

The difference here is Shankapotomus Feb 2012 #104

oh, bull. you were talking danger. no more so than other kids. kid KNOWING you are angry. good. seabeyond Feb 2012 #106

I'm still talking danger Shankapotomus Feb 2012 #123

wow. lol. all kids and teen stay in parents view at all times cause they ALL display all this shit seabeyond Feb 2012 #124

seabeyond Shankapotomus Feb 2012 #125

It wasn't "by the side of the road" obamanut2012 Feb 2012 #111

But it is a behavior that employs Shankapotomus Feb 2012 #126

You have my sympathies. Codeine Feb 2012 #85

Oh Gosh Dorian Gray Feb 2012 #91

I want to give you a big hug. unapatriciated Feb 2012 #94

This message was self-deleted by its author unapatriciated Feb 2012 #97

No flames from me obamanut2012 Feb 2012 #105

Well, teenagers can be horrible, I'm sure mrs_p Feb 2012 #32

my mom did that irisblue Feb 2012 #33

Probably not if she is 14 Nikia Feb 2012 #37

My mother never ever through me out of a car. Or out of the house. Jennicut Feb 2012 #38

Bad parenting, yes nobodyspecial Feb 2012 #39

Not enough information to form a judgement Marrah_G Feb 2012 #43

Same here. I wouldn't take what a teen said in an emotional state as gospel... Honeycombe8 Feb 2012 #53

Sometimes teens need a lesson. Codeine Feb 2012 #46

The weather was lovely today Nevernose Feb 2012 #49

A better lesson would be to act like a fucking adult tabasco Feb 2012 #63

and what would that "example" be? blueamy66 Feb 2012 #66

I'd always find a safe place to stop... hunter Feb 2012 #51

I did that the 1st time. I got out + forgot the keys in my agitation. She changed seats + drove off riderinthestorm Feb 2012 #69

oh my god. How'd she turn out? mainer Feb 2012 #93

This just happened last year. She's just 15 now. Your question was so poignant for me though riderinthestorm Feb 2012 #114

My sincere wishes that all turns out OK mainer Feb 2012 #116

Not abuse at all. blueamy66 Feb 2012 #60

At 14, anything less than 4 or 5 miles and I'd rather walk than be driven bhikkhu Feb 2012 #62

+1. We walked everywhere as kids. Not much chance of being thrown out SammyWinstonJack Feb 2012 #98

My mom threw me out of the house at 16... being thrown out of a car and being told to walk home is Luciferous Feb 2012 #67

define "threw" Motown_Johnny Feb 2012 #68

If the girl got run over while walking home I suspect the ex-wife would end up in some trouble.. Fumesucker Feb 2012 #77

Really, there isn't enough info here to say. HappyMe Feb 2012 #78

I don't like it. Are_grits_groceries Feb 2012 #83

It depends Dorian Gray Feb 2012 #88

she could be a lousy parent. i dont know. i have no problem PULLING OVER and letting a kid seabeyond Feb 2012 #90

Ah, I remember those days... mainer Feb 2012 #92

That's how we got each of my nieces. Iggo Feb 2012 #96

I'm replying to the OP rather than individual posts, because there are a couple of themes Ms. Toad Feb 2012 #100

depends on what you mean by 'threw their daughter out of the car'... WI_DEM Feb 2012 #102

The OP says upthread she wasn't "thrown" out of teh car obamanut2012 Feb 2012 #112

Not nearly enough information. Mira Feb 2012 #110

i'd have to know a lot more. barbtries Feb 2012 #120

Mine were much younger when I put them out of the car. I stayed close without them knowing. appleannie1 Feb 2012 #122