"Why I rejected Plan B after my disabled daughter was raped"

[lumberjack_jeff]

145. When a man hears "boys will be boys" he hears a different message than a woman does.

Boys will be boys. To men, "boy" isn't a slur. In general, boys will wrestle, boast, run, shout, compete, and do risky and/or stupid things to attract attention.

But women often (and I don't think it's a stretch to say that at DU this means usually) take "boys will be boys" to be someone's defense of their stereotypes of men. The anecdote above is a good example. Your grandmother obviously didn't say this to defend the adult who was abusing your sister, but that was the apparent takeaway.

In dating relationships, it is necessary to communicate expectations clearly. In the case of victimization, it is incumbent on a victim to speak up, if for no other reason than to protect the next victim.

Let me leave you with something to think about; do you think it's my prerogative to decide which characteristics of womanhood should be bred out of humans? Should my personal definition of what qualifies as passive aggression, mean-girl cliquishness or personal risk aversion be the one we're going to use, or should it be up to a male consensus?

Most men (myself included) have been in "actual fistfights with the intent to hurt the other person". Violent? Probably.

Eugenics-worthy? Let's just say that the society who loses the capacity for self defense is at risk.