Do sexual assault victims have an obligation to resist/protest?

[LanternWaste]

129. Holding a position of authority in the office where I work...

Holding a position of authority in the office where I work, I made a pledge to myself some years back that I would not get involved with anyone I worked with-- regardless of whether they work in my department or in a sales office halfway across the country.

Regardless of how innocent a thing may be, regardless of how pure the intentions are, there would always be a nagging doubt in the back of my mind as to whether the young lady would allow things to happen due in part, to my position of authority. And in my world, even a hint of doubt results in nothing happening between her and I, as I've too often seen doubts blossom into concerns and actual issues.

Worst case scenario under this guideline I've established for myself is that I merely miss an opportunity or two to become intimate with a co-worker-- and that's simply not a big deal to me.


Also, as I never get intimate with anyone unless I know them very well, have been around them for some time, and have grown to trust them, I've had zero doubts... and what's more, I've had zero issues in regards to allegations. Although I realize that for many people, it's a very casual encounter done every time the opportunity presents itself, I'd hazard that causes more problems than benefits in the long run.