I had my feelings hurt today

[matt819]

75. I'd say give it a pass

Or go for the guilt.

I've lost about 15 pounds, and the local coffee shop owner observed that I was looking thinner (and, so, better - but that's another issue entirely, isn't it?). Then she gasped and said that she hoped I wasn't ill.

I told her I wasn't ill and thanked her for observing that I had lost weight.

All in all, I was pleased that she noticed the change, and, as I thought about it, it didn't really matter to me what she thought about how I'd done it.

I think you handled it right. Maybe the other woman meant to be an insensitive jerk; maybe it's just the way the words came out. In any case, how much you chose to reveal was entirely up to you, as was the manner in which you delivered the response. She felt guilty, and that's fine. Maybe she'll hold it against you. Maybe she'll learn something from the exchange. Doesn't matter. It's over. No need to retain the anger. You know what's behind the changes, and the prices you've paid, and that's all that matters.