— Homophobia: The fear that another man will treat you like you treat women.

[nomorenomore08]

84. Everyone "projects" in some way. Seems to be an inherent feature of the human psyche.

Here, though, I tend to think that the important thing isn't who's projecting what onto whom, but more the bare fact that violence and abuse are so widespread. Somewhere between 1 in 6 and 1 in 3 women, over a lifetime, will be sexually assaulted. And yes, I know men are far more likely to be murdered than women, but the vast majority of murderers are also men.

The point isn't that all men are to blame for the violent acts of some - I would be the first to object if anyone suggested as much - but simply that there's something wrong with our society. Very, very wrong. I don't pretend to have definitive answers but I would never question the importance of raising these issues.

You seem like a decent person, certainly not violent or abusive. So why do you always seem to object when the subject is brought up? It's hard not to think that you're taking it all personally, when you're so vehement in your responses.