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In reply to the discussion: how would you feel if [View all]MADem
(135,425 posts)No need to get angry or confrontational, or even tell her anything, either--don't give her a role as a "victim." Just be busy. If she calls you, chat for a brief bit, very pleasantly and tell her you're waiting on someone who is picking you up to go somewhere, and then say "Nice talking to you--I've got to run, my ride is here."
Rather than tell her anything about your life, don't give her anything to latch on to and criticize--as far as she is concerned, everything is "fine" with you, even if it isn't. Instead, in these brief conversations (and keep them brief) ask her about herself "How are you? What is new? Isn't that nice....oh gee, gotta run. Nice talking to you." If she calls you to get a little drama going, that'll fix her little red wagon when you refuse to play.
It is sad when a relative has these sorts of issues, but they're not easily fixed. They are never fixed if the person with the problem doesn't see it and doesn't care to be "repaired." Try to remember the good times if there were any, and just press on with your life. Stick with the people who care about you, and don't fritter away time with people who make you feel bad about yourself.