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Tien1985

(920 posts)
110. I wonder what
Wed May 15, 2013, 02:41 PM
May 2013

All these women "who want stares and opinions" do when know no one notices. Are people frightened that women are going to start running up to them and shaking their shoulders "hey, hey you! Pay attention to me!!!"

Got to love the poutrage. If you don't stare (staring is not the same as being aware of), suggestively whistle, catcall or harass strangers the call out in the OP doesn't even apply to you. If you do those things, you're an asshole.

Cold Truth, Ma'm The Magistrate May 2013 #1
not even remotely the 'cold truth', sir. cali May 2013 #288
Not Worth Arguing About, Ma'am: Those Who See Will See, Those Who Will Not Will Not The Magistrate May 2013 #290
"Not Worth Arguing About, Ma'am" redqueen May 2013 #296
An Old Campaigner, Ma'am The Magistrate May 2013 #301
stares... stklurker May 2013 #2
Please do so to women who are accompanied by large, strong-looking men. redqueen May 2013 #3
because those men are the ones you value? how pre-historicly caveman galileoreloaded May 2013 #4
... redqueen May 2013 #11
lmfao.. ya. i just typed a whole post on that swooosh, then deleted. why bother. so funny. nt seabeyond May 2013 #13
nah, i got it pretty clear, ergo my post. galileoreloaded May 2013 #34
Don't bother...not worth the effort Roland99 May 2013 #102
No, she suggested he should try it BainsBane May 2013 #147
Cat call != stare. AtheistCrusader May 2013 #160
There is a difference between looking and staring BainsBane May 2013 #168
Absolutely. AtheistCrusader May 2013 #174
I just got home from shopping. Starry Messenger May 2013 #210
I agree. AtheistCrusader May 2013 #215
i find hypocritical views on gender endlessly fascinating because I don't see it. galileoreloaded May 2013 #173
Now you're back to not seeing gender? BainsBane May 2013 #175
reading comprehension galileoreloaded May 2013 #176
Yes,.no one can comprehend your secret code BainsBane May 2013 #183
What little there is of it! chervilant May 2013 #322
Twist & distort & ignore intentions lark May 2013 #196
Well I don't know if you live in flyover country, but in New York, closeupready May 2013 #204
im what women call "attractive", outspoken, and have no fear of judgement.. galileoreloaded May 2013 #205
cool story, bro redqueen May 2013 #221
Not getting it. lark May 2013 #419
Do you really not get that post? chervilant May 2013 #321
ah yes, the "freeze" zazen May 2013 #353
Excellent post. redqueen May 2013 #355
why are you stereotyping large, strong-looking men? datasuspect May 2013 #30
It doesn't matter if they are or not. People naturally don't act so disrespectfully towards them redqueen May 2013 #35
that's a very sexist characterization datasuspect May 2013 #42
that behavior is sexist, yes BainsBane May 2013 #151
You have to wonder if it's intentional? sufrommich May 2013 #70
Good point. nt redqueen May 2013 #75
After claiming they don't see gender BainsBane May 2013 #154
i dated a woman who communicated like you once. galileoreloaded May 2013 #182
Please BainsBane May 2013 #184
but i'm large and strong looking!!! seems all the rage down here. nt galileoreloaded May 2013 #191
go back and reread my post BainsBane May 2013 #193
Ah. Rational boy and emotional woman... Democracyinkind May 2013 #440
Definitely or hootinholler May 2013 #188
You cannot stop people from staring question everything May 2013 #62
You are actually defending rude behavior. Wow. nt redqueen May 2013 #68
no...it's human nature Roland99 May 2013 #104
it's still rude to stare ... we are capable of overcoming our "human nature" Scout May 2013 #113
depends on the situation doesn't it? Roland99 May 2013 #116
... and we can OVERCOME the base nature Scout May 2013 #396
Exactly get the red out May 2013 #213
Of course, you can stop staring wryter2000 May 2013 #406
Using perceived ownership of the women by big strong-looking men as defense of your point is odd. lumberjack_jeff May 2013 #125
You would be surprised at how rare that is in America LittleBlue May 2013 #140
I notice none of the usual suspects are addressing post 7. redqueen May 2013 #150
I will address it if you want LittleBlue May 2013 #153
I would be delighted. redqueen May 2013 #159
Ah, I see what you mean LittleBlue May 2013 #189
If it's absent minded that's one thing. redqueen May 2013 #195
How do you discern if it is absent minded since we can't read minds adigal May 2013 #267
This isn't about a court proceeding. Even if you don't get caught, you should feel like an asshole redqueen May 2013 #271
I think some people want to be stared at, and I do agree with you adigal May 2013 #278
You present yet another rdiculous example. Why? redqueen May 2013 #282
at·trac·tive /əˈtraktiv/ Adjective (of a person) Appealing to look at; sexually alluring: lumberjack_jeff May 2013 #226
In fact, please stare at every big, strong looking man who attracts any attention from you. redqueen May 2013 #7
What am I supposed to say? LittleBlue May 2013 #156
A 'stare' is in the eye of the beholder. AtheistCrusader May 2013 #170
Ah, the legendary Post #7. Here it is! Warren DeMontague May 2013 #316
I am a big boy and am thus able to control whether I stare at something or not. (nt) Posteritatis May 2013 #265
I respectfully disagree. Body glitter on cleavage invites looks NightWatcher May 2013 #5
Staring is disrespectful. This is a fact. redqueen May 2013 #14
Sorry, I simply cannot agree leftynyc May 2013 #32
Well then an extra special thank you to you and everyone else redqueen May 2013 #41
Like you did with my post? pintobean May 2013 #51
If a woman wears clothing in public that expose practically all of her bare breasts, lumpy May 2013 #67
It doesn't matter leftynyc May 2013 #73
But the OP wasn't about touching, was it? adigal May 2013 #270
like the big strong men you seem to ogle? galileoreloaded May 2013 #49
Who made you the arbiter of this?? cliffordu May 2013 #425
Define staring? 30 seconds? 10 seconds? n-t Logical May 2013 #430
Link to what the OP is apparently about. pintobean May 2013 #6
Profiles can lie. randome May 2013 #10
Okay, I just double checked pintobean May 2013 #20
lol woolldog May 2013 #55
you had to check.... keroro gunsou May 2013 #354
What about someone wearing something like this? woolldog May 2013 #8
OK, that pic on the right? That's inviting stares. siligut May 2013 #45
Celebrities on the red carpet posing for pictures are SO FUCKING OBVIOUSLY not the subject of the OP redqueen May 2013 #56
I understand and agree with your OP redqueen siligut May 2013 #88
I figured... redqueen May 2013 #95
Wise choice siligut May 2013 #99
The language in your OP woolldog May 2013 #146
What about how these ordinary people are dressed, then... pacalo May 2013 #332
heh woolldog May 2013 #152
Bet the shoe make your toes go numb Half-Century Man May 2013 #134
So men should only speak when spoken to? randome May 2013 #9
yes appropriate behavior for setting would be appropriate behavior Warren Stupidity May 2013 #38
And saying "hello" is not a pickup line. Bonobo May 2013 #338
So it is a pick up line. Warren Stupidity May 2013 #344
No, it's a greeting. Bonobo May 2013 #345
Have you ever considered how annoying it might be to be accosted by strangers Warren Stupidity May 2013 #347
She can talk or not talk. Bonobo May 2013 #351
Some people on this board who fancy themselves smart closeupready May 2013 #360
I think you kinda nailed it. Bonobo May 2013 #362
Equally messed up that 60 people have recced this thread. closeupready May 2013 #365
For 367 replies, 60 is not much. nt Bonobo May 2013 #368
While true in a relative sense, are there really closeupready May 2013 #389
LOL, just now I realized, that T-Mobile Frankenstein commercial! closeupready May 2013 #416
This message was self-deleted by its author seaglass May 2013 #386
You know what's truly revealing, to me... redqueen May 2013 #390
Yes, it is strange. Because even if a poster understands this issue, there is no reason Zorra May 2013 #431
I do hope that with every outburst of tantrums redqueen May 2013 #437
Way more defensiveness (on their part, not yours) than necessary. nomorenomore08 May 2013 #433
Who we are pintobean May 2013 #434
Maybe you're right. I don't know. nomorenomore08 May 2013 #435
See my response to her. Tl:dr version is, context is appropriate, Dash87 May 2013 #383
I personally don't see any harm in "hello." Dash87 May 2013 #380
Did you read the 'Can I buy you a cup of coffee' blog post? redqueen May 2013 #388
No I grew up in the 70's with a lot of great radical women. Warren Stupidity May 2013 #395
"It really isn't rocket science." redqueen May 2013 #402
Okay, I'll confess, I'm not clear on this. Dr. Strange May 2013 #12
Oh for fuck's sake. redqueen May 2013 #18
Then stop instigating the game with transparent crap OP'S like this one. cliffordu May 2013 #436
I'm totally staring at you right now. Orrex May 2013 #234
Well, in that case... Dr. Strange May 2013 #241
This post is so full of funny I can't breathe. I'm dying here... Inkfreak May 2013 #279
HAHAHAHAHAHAH..... Nay May 2013 #392
I really don't understand how this isn't clear. Dash87 May 2013 #15
Look at this thread full of men tying themselves in knots redqueen May 2013 #19
sorry, it ain't just men. your op was a silly generalization full of self-righteous shit cali May 2013 #294
Read more. nt redqueen May 2013 #297
Be offensive and condescending less. nt EOTE May 2013 #361
LOL! Oh, the irony. nt redqueen May 2013 #363
I know, right? EOTE May 2013 #371
Back to your insult and attack routine, I see. redqueen May 2013 #372
And nearly every issue brings out your tried and true insult and attack routine. EOTE May 2013 #373
Cali I have to say.... redgreenandblue May 2013 #346
^^^this^^^ Puzzledtraveller May 2013 #397
Ignoring, chervilant May 2013 #325
I've been on this site a long ass time Blue_Tires May 2013 #59
I'm not sure I agree with this. As a disclaimer, closeupready May 2013 #16
I disagree completely. nt redqueen May 2013 #22
I don't get it. Sexuality is an essential part of the human psychology closeupready May 2013 #25
This is about respect. NOT sexuality. redqueen May 2013 #27
Yeah, fuck biology. Dawgs May 2013 #37
"Biology" is not an excuse to harass or bother women because of how they are dressed. (n/t) MadrasT May 2013 #112
Being an asshole is a choice, not biology. geek tragedy May 2013 #223
then why do you insist on continually playing it? Roland99 May 2013 #107
Some people, I think, know how to relate only antagonistically with others. closeupready May 2013 #139
well you started the stupid game and you play it quite a bit here. little late to demur. cali May 2013 #295
Read more. I suggest you at least read post 282. redqueen May 2013 #299
Who defines "immodestly"? Gormy Cuss May 2013 #71
Some people DO think a short skirt is immodest; thus, for THEM, closeupready May 2013 #85
What I meant was, are those who think it's immodest encouraged to make comments to the wearer? Gormy Cuss May 2013 #105
People who think a short skirt is immodest should shut the fuck up geek tragedy May 2013 #138
You are wrong, and always will be. closeupready May 2013 #145
Nope. Unwelcome commentary to strangers based on their clothing geek tragedy May 2013 #149
Yep, wrong as the day is long. closeupready May 2013 #163
I disagree with you and the Saudi Virtue Police and the creeps geek tragedy May 2013 #177
It's a free country. Enjoy the freedom to be wrong. closeupready May 2013 #201
People who object to street harassment are not the ones who are wrong. geek tragedy May 2013 #202
If at some point you want to get back to the topic in the OP, closeupready May 2013 #208
I have been talking about the topic. geek tragedy May 2013 #214
No, you're talking about Saudi Arabia and burkas. Meanwhile, closeupready May 2013 #220
Yes, the topic is whether women who dress 'immodestly' are inviting geek tragedy May 2013 #222
You're going to get bored talking to yourself. closeupready May 2013 #225
I'll have a better time than the person to whom geek tragedy May 2013 #228
You still here? closeupready May 2013 #232
Actually, that's what GT has been telling you jberryhill May 2013 #370
Whatever. This discussion is so yesterday. closeupready May 2013 #387
"if you are dressed immodestly" geek tragedy May 2013 #121
FYI, "immodest" IS - in fact - a real word. closeupready May 2013 #135
Yes, and it has an entirely subjective meaning. nt geek tragedy May 2013 #136
Not entirely, no. closeupready May 2013 #143
Why do so many men EC May 2013 #17
It's all the people who don't call it out. redqueen May 2013 #21
I guess they'd rather hide the women than conform their behavior Lex May 2013 #23
Disagree. Dawgs May 2013 #24
Oh, you've asked them all? redqueen May 2013 #26
Anyone with half a brain knows that most people like to look nice and get compliments for it. Dawgs May 2013 #33
i wonder if it's just insecurity run rampant. its fascinating. nt galileoreloaded May 2013 #54
Considering the number of choices to be had in clothing, Sekhmets Daughter May 2013 #57
You are seriously ... "stare, whistle, hit on me" redqueen May 2013 #61
You don't think some women dress for just that effect? Sekhmets Daughter May 2013 #69
Sure, *some* do. redqueen May 2013 #72
No, I don't... Sekhmets Daughter May 2013 #89
That's the point. You don't know, so don't assume. redqueen May 2013 #98
Ah, so now we're talking the workplace. Sekhmets Daughter May 2013 #108
No, I simply used it as an example of a situation where women were routinely sexually harassed, redqueen May 2013 #115
Perhaps because Scandinavian countries have fewer problems with sexual repression... Sekhmets Daughter May 2013 #130
Seabeyond's_cartoon.jpg Dash87 May 2013 #36
Post removed Post removed May 2013 #40
I'm part of HoF ismnotwasm May 2013 #66
Amazing how some just can't help themselves. nt geek tragedy May 2013 #180
some of us EC May 2013 #77
Fine. But I'm sure you don't mind getting a compliment if something thinks you look nice. n/t Dawgs May 2013 #84
? EC May 2013 #86
Pretending that sexual harassment is okay is what' stupid. nt geek tragedy May 2013 #123
where on this site are posters still not clear on this? Blue_Tires May 2013 #28
Are you joking? redqueen May 2013 #31
Yes. The other responses pretty much agree with me. n/t Dawgs May 2013 #39
Somewhere there is a horse, and it is screaming... cherokeeprogressive May 2013 #53
you mean the thread by boston bean? Blue_Tires May 2013 #64
I thouught the OP made it clear that I'm talkong about harassment. redqueen May 2013 #83
I like to say it with Pink. Zorra May 2013 #29
I almost wish I hadn't posted this. redqueen May 2013 #46
We wish it had not been posted as well. cherokeeprogressive May 2013 #58
Almost The2ndWheel May 2013 #76
No. I WANT people to stop making excuses for harassment. redqueen May 2013 #80
shit, i want a million dollars datasuspect May 2013 #93
If everyone responding just said "yes, I agree" The2ndWheel May 2013 #101
you sound a little Fed Up snooper2 May 2013 #129
That's what the "trash this thread" button is for. pacalo May 2013 #335
Cheer up! You could just look at this thread as a safe outlet for some people to safely let out Zorra May 2013 #81
why would you "almost" wish that? datasuspect May 2013 #90
Yeah, I'm with you on that. NaturalHigh May 2013 #381
Never heard this song before Half-Century Man May 2013 #167
No, not just a song at all. Men usually buy me drinks in bars because they want me Zorra May 2013 #268
If you wrote that song Ms. Zorra Half-Century Man May 2013 #275
That's one beauty of art, people often have different interpretations of a work of art. Zorra May 2013 #281
Everyone has a musical talent Half-Century Man May 2013 #302
No. Fucking. Shit. cherokeeprogressive May 2013 #43
[View All] Dash87 May 2013 #44
Really? redqueen May 2013 #50
+100! n/t zappaman May 2013 #87
This woman, because of how she is dressed, is inviting people to ask her for bus fare. Electric Monk May 2013 #47
Jerry Seinfeld: "Looking at cleavage is like looking at the sun." Nye Bevan May 2013 #48
Common sense, from "Seinfeld" of all places... nomorenomore08 May 2013 #256
Woot! Right on! polly7 May 2013 #52
Those breasts are patriarchy! msanthrope May 2013 #74
From the comments at your link: RC May 2013 #96
lolwut redqueen May 2013 #106
Does that also apply to the OP? pacalo May 2013 #336
No. And since some seem to need an explanation for this, too, I will explain. redqueen May 2013 #385
I see a lot of these tactless, demanding OPs, then only when the author gets negative feedback pacalo May 2013 #421
"The fact that I don't get cheesy cat-calls is the result of dressing appropriately & my attitude." redqueen May 2013 #422
"Some just want to argue." pacalo May 2013 #427
Did you really mean to post that? That's quite funny, but not msanthrope May 2013 #349
There's that irony again. EOTE May 2013 #376
whether or not they're "inviting" anything, clothes communicate, clothes make a statement. unblock May 2013 #60
I wish I could recommend your reply. Thank you for it. uppityperson May 2013 #78
You obviously know exactly what I mean. redqueen May 2013 #92
hey, if you've never seen "breaking bad", you should. or visited manhattan for that matter.... unblock May 2013 #211
Do DIAPERS make a statement? HockeyMom May 2013 #97
The OP did NOT discuss RAPE. closeupready May 2013 #103
The OP talks about being stared at, or holding opinions about someone. Not rape. uppityperson May 2013 #114
OK, my experience as a 13 year old Catholic School Girl HockeyMom May 2013 #124
Yup, it can be and it sucks. uppityperson May 2013 #127
the statements that clothes make can be misinterpreted or ignored (sometimes deliberately) unblock May 2013 #261
underwear doesn't make a statement, unless worn as outerwear. unblock May 2013 #230
I agree with uppityperson, this is perfectly stated. Amimnoch May 2013 #166
nonsense. bowens43 May 2013 #63
Yes I get it and for some reason allways have. olddots May 2013 #65
Some people are just pointing out situations where the OP doesn't apply (e.g. protesters)... redqueen May 2013 #79
Well ........ polly7 May 2013 #91
Utter nonsense. Some women dress to attract stares, opinions, and interactions. msanthrope May 2013 #82
Some do, does this make it ok? I wear a short skirt or shorts on a hot day, and NOT to MillennialDem May 2013 #117
Are you really asking me if that's okay? What a silly question. nt msanthrope May 2013 #162
I agree. woolldog May 2013 #178
um.... one_voice May 2013 #203
Hmm - I like the bottom half; you can keep closeupready May 2013 #216
those briefs are NOT woolldog May 2013 #255
How LONG does something have to be to be considered a stare? The Straight Story May 2013 #238
I don't know... I just try not to make people uncomfortable, out in public. nomorenomore08 May 2013 #260
Post removed Post removed May 2013 #245
stop staring woolldog May 2013 #252
Well, I'm a lesbian so I'm not :) MillennialDem May 2013 #254
And the point is that you shouldn't make assumptions Scootaloo May 2013 #197
Oh sweet jeebus...I gotta go rewatch the ABC afterschool special msanthrope May 2013 #209
Well, you seem to have completely misread the OP Scootaloo May 2013 #219
Who, precisely, on this board do you think is at a first-grade level? msanthrope May 2013 #229
Just from this thread? Scootaloo May 2013 #244
+ infinity. Apophis May 2013 #340
what brought this on? has it been a week already? snooper2 May 2013 #94
My hubby and I differ on this. I don't think "inviting" is the correct word though. SleeplessinSoCal May 2013 #100
No one is "inviting" harassment, no matter how they dress. uppityperson May 2013 #109
I assumed people would not defend rude behavior redqueen May 2013 #120
How long of a look is a stare? It varies from area to area. It is the vagueness and over broadness uppityperson May 2013 #126
However long you'd stare at someone you were intentionally avoiding disrespecting is the right redqueen May 2013 #141
I see a lot of it here as a communication issue. Word and phrases have different meanings, depending uppityperson May 2013 #179
Agree to disagree. nt redqueen May 2013 #185
You disagree "Harassment is just wrong"? or that words can have different meanings? uppityperson May 2013 #186
I disagree that all the arguing is due to misunderstandings. redqueen May 2013 #192
That's why I say "flirting with disaster" SleeplessinSoCal May 2013 #253
I wonder what Tien1985 May 2013 #110
I'm surprised by the 'but how long is a stare?' comments, too. redqueen May 2013 #181
rq JustAnotherGen May 2013 #111
You key someone's car because you get whistled at? adigal May 2013 #277
So is asking JustAnotherGen May 2013 #324
Pretty sure you could be arrested for keying the vehicles. NaturalHigh May 2013 #394
Good one BeyondGeography May 2013 #118
How one is attired does indeed invite opinions and/or looks. Often, opinions about the appearance bike man May 2013 #119
Don't stare, sure, but looking is Human Nature maxsolomon May 2013 #122
Notice that the word "look" is absent from the OP. redqueen May 2013 #128
I noticed. maxsolomon May 2013 #131
And once more I am reminded of the need to use legalese when addressing *certain* feminist issues. redqueen May 2013 #155
It's not just feminist issues. Jim Lane May 2013 #258
Agreed on all points. redqueen May 2013 #262
"Looking" IS included in the OP, by the use of one word in upper case in that OP bike man May 2013 #415
The word anything is captitalized though The2ndWheel May 2013 #142
Indeed Orrex May 2013 #172
This is an interesting question el_bryanto May 2013 #132
I dunno... Inkfreak May 2013 #283
Stares? Lol LittleBlue May 2013 #133
Emotionally mature men learn to not stare at women. geek tragedy May 2013 #144
No, they just get better at it LittleBlue May 2013 #148
there is a difference between looking and staring BainsBane May 2013 #157
True LittleBlue May 2013 #165
The difference is in the maturity and decorum BainsBane May 2013 #171
If you're not getting noticed, you're not staring. geek tragedy May 2013 #169
This post says so much. redqueen May 2013 #198
Better go tell the Street Walkers on the backside of the French Quarter... bvar22 May 2013 #137
so true Tumbulu May 2013 #187
And bodybuilders (men and women) wearing bikinis/thongs while posing. People not only bike man May 2013 #342
What would you say to a woman who believes that her clothes are an invitation? Orrex May 2013 #158
This entire thread is a scream and a welcome break from the focus on scandal badtoworse May 2013 #161
Oh goody, flamebait. 99Forever May 2013 #164
Actually, it is more like Farming The Straight Story May 2013 #190
The discord daisies and conflict carrots won't water themselves! lumberjack_jeff May 2013 #237
I am thinking there is something to the whole lack of carrots thing for some.... The Straight Story May 2013 #240
Well put as always. And, RIGHT on the money. n/t cherokeeprogressive May 2013 #319
Glad you managed to get your handful of posts in before dramatically announcing you're trashing it. redqueen May 2013 #200
One post. 99Forever May 2013 #246
Got you mixed up with Roland99, you have the same style on some issues. redqueen May 2013 #248
I'd try to educate you as to the... 99Forever May 2013 #250
Awwwwwwww... aren't you just precious! redqueen May 2013 #251
Shocking, isn't it? Apophis May 2013 #341
I agree with your sentiment redqueen Tumbulu May 2013 #194
I used to work in a place where we were often on call. hunter May 2013 #199
you seem very angry Bully Taw May 2013 #206
If a woman walked down the street without pants, she'd be "inviting rape." Atman May 2013 #207
Wow. nt redqueen May 2013 #212
I agree. Wow. Atman May 2013 #239
She could also be mentally ill or the recent victim of a rape. Invitation - kiranon May 2013 #242
But wait...wouldn't the man also be considered "mentally ill?" Atman May 2013 #247
Acutally, Tien1985 May 2013 #274
"Mental illness" or "diabetic crisis" is actually what most people, and all first responders, would Nay May 2013 #357
Diabeties causes you to walk around naked? Atman May 2013 #358
Not diabetes per se, but a severe hypoglycemic episode. And not in all cases, of course. Nay May 2013 #391
I'm surprised you think that isn't the immediate assumption. KitSileya May 2013 #439
And as always, people overreact with the "What am I supposed to look at???" nomorenomore08 May 2013 #217
Wow, you make it sound so simple! redqueen May 2013 #227
Hell, I'm as socially awkward as they come, and I still manage to be polite and discreet nomorenomore08 May 2013 #233
I always try to not get my drool on her breasts. Warren Stupidity May 2013 #350
Heh, not like I was claiming to be better than anyone else. nomorenomore08 May 2013 #420
I met a women who missed cat calls /whistles... Locut0s May 2013 #218
Remember Edith Cresson? closeupready May 2013 #224
Former French prime minister: 'one in four Englishmen might be gay' closeupready May 2013 #231
I made a post some time back on here that showed that a lot of men AND women watch porn regularly... Locut0s May 2013 #235
All the staring and cat calls seemed more predatory than kind. Don't kiranon May 2013 #236
I think to each her own is kind of the point we are trying to make... Locut0s May 2013 #243
Completely ass-backwards. See posts 72 and 98. nt redqueen May 2013 #249
Where do people get this? gollygee May 2013 #259
A few have protested that its all just a simple misunderstanding. redqueen May 2013 #264
Men also!! Enough of the comments ladies.... cbdo2007 May 2013 #257
I completely disagree. Megalo_Man May 2013 #263
I don't know what world you live in Summer Hathaway May 2013 #266
I'm not at all clear on it. I absolutely dressed to invite reactions cali May 2013 #269
And therefore every woman is the same? And men should feel free to assume that's the case? redqueen May 2013 #273
I didn't say that. YOU made the absolutes in your op. cali May 2013 #280
LOL, by that logic you had no grounds to be mad at Seth MacFarlane. You get that, right? redqueen May 2013 #284
pathetic. You don't speak for me- either as a woman or a feminist cali May 2013 #306
How else are we going to know you're a whore if you don't dress the part? Sivafae May 2013 #272
LOL... you juat reminded me of an incident... redqueen May 2013 #276
I used to get that alot when I was very young BainsBane May 2013 #289
At that age I only got honked at, followed, invited into cars, etc. nt redqueen May 2013 #293
Too bad you didnt have a big boyfriend to prevent that stuff.... cliffordu May 2013 #438
Not sure about "no stares" (Courtney Stodden, anyone?!). But as for speaking or touching? Hell, no! WinkyDink May 2013 #285
The irony BainsBane May 2013 #286
this type of dishonest crap doesn't serve feminists cali May 2013 #287
Where does the OP say there is something wrong with it? BainsBane May 2013 #291
try fucking reading the op cali May 2013 #300
You are misreading it BainsBane May 2013 #303
No, she is not misreading it Summer Hathaway May 2013 #326
redqueen explained what she meant BainsBane May 2013 #327
If Redqueen didn't mean what she said in her OP Summer Hathaway May 2013 #328
She explained herself BainsBane May 2013 #330
I didn't misunderstand the OP as written Summer Hathaway May 2013 #331
Most people got it the first time. redqueen May 2013 #364
Yes, most people 'got it' the first time Summer Hathaway May 2013 #403
Do you believe BainsBane May 2013 #305
It is ridiculous pintobean May 2013 #314
What's ridiculous is your 'Who, me?' act. redqueen May 2013 #367
I didn't read any of the Angelina Jolie threads. pintobean May 2013 #393
Everyone has opinions about all kinds of shit. Nobody cares. redqueen May 2013 #409
Wat redqueen May 2013 #292
But women who don't dress to suit you should be subject to your polly7 May 2013 #298
That is A QUOTE FROM A MUSLIM WOMAN. redqueen May 2013 #304
snork BainsBane May 2013 #307
No shit! And the quote doesn't even say what she somehow seems to think it says. redqueen May 2013 #308
but BainsBane May 2013 #309
Previous obsession? polly7 May 2013 #310
Yep. Obsession. QED. nt redqueen May 2013 #312
Lame. nt. polly7 May 2013 #313
Is this a problem on DU? Kingofalldems May 2013 #311
Not that I've seen. zappaman May 2013 #315
See post #6 pintobean May 2013 #317
Shocker. zappaman May 2013 #318
Ideology vs human nature Prism May 2013 #320
Sometimes, I just can't .... oldhippie May 2013 #323
Right. Except when they are. MrSlayer May 2013 #329
Some of the replies here are just incredible. Lunacee_2013 May 2013 #333
"If you think she's attractive, just talk to her!" Bonobo May 2013 #343
It's just my two cents. Lunacee_2013 May 2013 #384
Ah, but wait Warren DeMontague May 2013 #334
That's true. Bonobo May 2013 #337
Yeah, if you're wearing clothes that are revealing, I'm going to look. Apophis May 2013 #339
"Encoded in [your] genes"? Nothing wrong with your post otherwise, but that part kind of nomorenomore08 May 2013 #429
I agree with the majority of your OP, but I strongly disagree Jamastiene May 2013 #348
That is a very good point. redqueen May 2013 #352
It would be a lot worse if we did not have laws protecting us, and if women had Zorra May 2013 #356
Could I please get hour thoughts on post 390? redqueen May 2013 #404
They might dress a certain way to invite stares. Rex May 2013 #359
Everyone likes to get a compliment. cbdo2007 May 2013 #366
It doesn't matter what I'm wearing or doing ~ I still LOOKS. In_The_Wind May 2013 #369
Wearing high fashion, or unusual garments, invites looks. Orsino May 2013 #374
I see the usual suspects have exaggerated the claims being sufrommich May 2013 #375
LOL, no shit... and now I hear that I'm misandrying men on threads about kittens!!!!1! redqueen May 2013 #377
*edit* Marr May 2013 #378
Oh hell, what started this crap? NaturalHigh May 2013 #379
A double take stare is the only thing I was guilty of Ter May 2013 #382
you are ridiculous! lmao! WhaTHellsgoingonhere May 2013 #398
LOL Puzzledtraveller May 2013 #399
I think the next OP is more likely to be Summer Hathaway May 2013 #405
!!! zappaman May 2013 #408
STILL with the "opening doors" redqueen May 2013 #411
400! nt Electric Monk May 2013 #400
Bullshit, when I wear my $%^$ me heels, it's to get a reaction. lol nt clarice May 2013 #401
To be honest, when I wear my Super Bowl Champions: Green Bay Packers Tshirt, I'm ScreamingMeemie May 2013 #407
Thanks for admitting that you get the OP. redqueen May 2013 #410
That's how I took the thread. Dash87 May 2013 #412
Especially if you wear it on S. Lake Shore Drive. Warren DeMontague May 2013 #413
I get sympathetic looks when I wear my Cubs T-shirt! Brigid May 2013 #414
Forgive the levity, but you know that T-Mobile commercial closeupready May 2013 #417
Haven't posted in years. See the crazies are still posting. cottonseed May 2013 #418
Well, duh. cliffordu May 2013 #423
8059 views and goin' strong. Warren DeMontague May 2013 #424
What FANTASY WORLD do you live in????? Uzair May 2013 #426
many years ago i had a friend with very large breasts. DesertFlower May 2013 #428
Kind what I thought was so relevant about FEMEN's naked protests. DirkGently May 2013 #432
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