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In reply to the discussion: Women in public, no matter how they're dressed, are not "inviting" ANYTHING. [View all]Atman
(31,464 posts)207. If a woman walked down the street without pants, she'd be "inviting rape."
If a man walked down the street without pants, he'd be inviting a life-long sex-offender status and would have to register with the government everywhere he moved. Hmmm.
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Women in public, no matter how they're dressed, are not "inviting" ANYTHING. [View all]
redqueen
May 2013
OP
Not Worth Arguing About, Ma'am: Those Who See Will See, Those Who Will Not Will Not
The Magistrate
May 2013
#290
lmfao.. ya. i just typed a whole post on that swooosh, then deleted. why bother. so funny. nt
seabeyond
May 2013
#13
i find hypocritical views on gender endlessly fascinating because I don't see it.
galileoreloaded
May 2013
#173
im what women call "attractive", outspoken, and have no fear of judgement..
galileoreloaded
May 2013
#205
It doesn't matter if they are or not. People naturally don't act so disrespectfully towards them
redqueen
May 2013
#35
Using perceived ownership of the women by big strong-looking men as defense of your point is odd.
lumberjack_jeff
May 2013
#125
This isn't about a court proceeding. Even if you don't get caught, you should feel like an asshole
redqueen
May 2013
#271
at·trac·tive /əˈtraktiv/ Adjective (of a person) Appealing to look at; sexually alluring:
lumberjack_jeff
May 2013
#226
In fact, please stare at every big, strong looking man who attracts any attention from you.
redqueen
May 2013
#7
I am a big boy and am thus able to control whether I stare at something or not. (nt)
Posteritatis
May 2013
#265
If a woman wears clothing in public that expose practically all of her bare breasts,
lumpy
May 2013
#67
Celebrities on the red carpet posing for pictures are SO FUCKING OBVIOUSLY not the subject of the OP
redqueen
May 2013
#56
Have you ever considered how annoying it might be to be accosted by strangers
Warren Stupidity
May 2013
#347
Yes, it is strange. Because even if a poster understands this issue, there is no reason
Zorra
May 2013
#431
sorry, it ain't just men. your op was a silly generalization full of self-righteous shit
cali
May 2013
#294
"Biology" is not an excuse to harass or bother women because of how they are dressed. (n/t)
MadrasT
May 2013
#112
Some people, I think, know how to relate only antagonistically with others.
closeupready
May 2013
#139
well you started the stupid game and you play it quite a bit here. little late to demur.
cali
May 2013
#295
What I meant was, are those who think it's immodest encouraged to make comments to the wearer?
Gormy Cuss
May 2013
#105
Anyone with half a brain knows that most people like to look nice and get compliments for it.
Dawgs
May 2013
#33
No, I simply used it as an example of a situation where women were routinely sexually harassed,
redqueen
May 2013
#115
Perhaps because Scandinavian countries have fewer problems with sexual repression...
Sekhmets Daughter
May 2013
#130
Fine. But I'm sure you don't mind getting a compliment if something thinks you look nice. n/t
Dawgs
May 2013
#84
Cheer up! You could just look at this thread as a safe outlet for some people to safely let out
Zorra
May 2013
#81
No, not just a song at all. Men usually buy me drinks in bars because they want me
Zorra
May 2013
#268
That's one beauty of art, people often have different interpretations of a work of art.
Zorra
May 2013
#281
This woman, because of how she is dressed, is inviting people to ask her for bus fare.
Electric Monk
May 2013
#47
No. And since some seem to need an explanation for this, too, I will explain.
redqueen
May 2013
#385
I see a lot of these tactless, demanding OPs, then only when the author gets negative feedback
pacalo
May 2013
#421
"The fact that I don't get cheesy cat-calls is the result of dressing appropriately & my attitude."
redqueen
May 2013
#422
whether or not they're "inviting" anything, clothes communicate, clothes make a statement.
unblock
May 2013
#60
hey, if you've never seen "breaking bad", you should. or visited manhattan for that matter....
unblock
May 2013
#211
The OP talks about being stared at, or holding opinions about someone. Not rape.
uppityperson
May 2013
#114
the statements that clothes make can be misinterpreted or ignored (sometimes deliberately)
unblock
May 2013
#261
Some people are just pointing out situations where the OP doesn't apply (e.g. protesters)...
redqueen
May 2013
#79
Utter nonsense. Some women dress to attract stares, opinions, and interactions.
msanthrope
May 2013
#82
Some do, does this make it ok? I wear a short skirt or shorts on a hot day, and NOT to
MillennialDem
May 2013
#117
I don't know... I just try not to make people uncomfortable, out in public.
nomorenomore08
May 2013
#260
My hubby and I differ on this. I don't think "inviting" is the correct word though.
SleeplessinSoCal
May 2013
#100
How long of a look is a stare? It varies from area to area. It is the vagueness and over broadness
uppityperson
May 2013
#126
However long you'd stare at someone you were intentionally avoiding disrespecting is the right
redqueen
May 2013
#141
I see a lot of it here as a communication issue. Word and phrases have different meanings, depending
uppityperson
May 2013
#179
You disagree "Harassment is just wrong"? or that words can have different meanings?
uppityperson
May 2013
#186
How one is attired does indeed invite opinions and/or looks. Often, opinions about the appearance
bike man
May 2013
#119
And once more I am reminded of the need to use legalese when addressing *certain* feminist issues.
redqueen
May 2013
#155
"Looking" IS included in the OP, by the use of one word in upper case in that OP
bike man
May 2013
#415
And bodybuilders (men and women) wearing bikinis/thongs while posing. People not only
bike man
May 2013
#342
This entire thread is a scream and a welcome break from the focus on scandal
badtoworse
May 2013
#161
I am thinking there is something to the whole lack of carrots thing for some....
The Straight Story
May 2013
#240
Glad you managed to get your handful of posts in before dramatically announcing you're trashing it.
redqueen
May 2013
#200
"Mental illness" or "diabetic crisis" is actually what most people, and all first responders, would
Nay
May 2013
#357
Not diabetes per se, but a severe hypoglycemic episode. And not in all cases, of course.
Nay
May 2013
#391
And as always, people overreact with the "What am I supposed to look at???"
nomorenomore08
May 2013
#217
Hell, I'm as socially awkward as they come, and I still manage to be polite and discreet
nomorenomore08
May 2013
#233
I made a post some time back on here that showed that a lot of men AND women watch porn regularly...
Locut0s
May 2013
#235
And therefore every woman is the same? And men should feel free to assume that's the case?
redqueen
May 2013
#273
LOL, by that logic you had no grounds to be mad at Seth MacFarlane. You get that, right?
redqueen
May 2013
#284
Not sure about "no stares" (Courtney Stodden, anyone?!). But as for speaking or touching? Hell, no!
WinkyDink
May 2013
#285
No shit! And the quote doesn't even say what she somehow seems to think it says.
redqueen
May 2013
#308
"Encoded in [your] genes"? Nothing wrong with your post otherwise, but that part kind of
nomorenomore08
May 2013
#429
LOL, no shit... and now I hear that I'm misandrying men on threads about kittens!!!!1!
redqueen
May 2013
#377
To be honest, when I wear my Super Bowl Champions: Green Bay Packers Tshirt, I'm
ScreamingMeemie
May 2013
#407