Atheist With a Christian spouse

[Warpy]

135. That's a great story from someone who's been there

I established boundaries with my ex early on, and my boundary was that nothing would persuade me into a church of any denomination but a wedding or funeral. He was cool with that, having been raised New England Congregationalist (UCC in the rest of the country) and was a closet Deist with a healthy skepticism, himself. If he had been religious, there would have been no way I'd have tagged along to church or tried to dissuade him from his religion. Boundaries are boundaries and they work both ways.

Religion was never our problem. If he hadn't fallen in love with booze, I'd still be there.

That's the basis for the advice to the OP. Keep your boundaries but respect your partner's boundaries. My own marriage lasted 15 years, booze and all, because we achieved that much mutual respect.