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boston bean

(36,951 posts) Sat May 18, 2013, 12:15 PM May 2013

So, I guess you only want to talk to people who agree with you [View all]

Traditional greeting of people really pissed off you don't agree with them...

I see this ALL OF THE TIME. It gets trotted out the second someone with privilege feels you are not being appropriately deferential to their opinions. It takes remarkably little to spur this accusation because it comes from people who feel remarkably entitled to get their way and see any impediment as an act of oppression and totalitarianism.

What really sucks for them is that sometimes they are right. And so what?

So what if people just want to talk to people who agree with them? So what if people want to talk about their beliefs with those they can gain emotional and intellectual support from? How is that the greatest crime ever visited upon someone? What these people are really saying is “So, I guess you don’t want to put up with my constant derailment, auditing of your beliefs, and demands that you justify your existence!”

No one has any obligation to make social justice easier for you. No one has any obligation to hold your hand. And especially no one has any obligation to suffer constant nitpicking and recriminations from people who love accusing others of acting in bad faith almost as much as they love acting in bad faith themselves.

Read the rest here... good read!

http://red3blog.tumblr.com/post/50525262754/i-see-this-all-of-the-time-it-gets-trotted-out?utm_source=feedly

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So, I guess you only want to talk to people who agree with you [View all] boston bean May 2013 OP

So if I disagree with this op tblue May 2013 #1

here on DU zerosumgame0005 May 2013 #35

Seriously? lumberjack_jeff May 2013 #2

Pot-kettle-black BainsBane May 2013 #18

self delete lumberjack_jeff May 2013 #24

I have nothing to do with blocking people BainsBane May 2013 #28

Apologies lumberjack_jeff May 2013 #30

In fact BainsBane May 2013 #31

apology accepted BainsBane May 2013 #32

^ THIS ^ Occulus May 2013 #43

on a democratic site,that supports Pres. Obama, I would expect the people to support the president graham4anything May 2013 #3

Expectations are nice. As long as you don't expect others to live up to them. magellan May 2013 #37

a little quote for you hobbit709 May 2013 #54

teddy roosevelt was talking about drones when he said"Walk softly & carry a big stick" graham4anything May 2013 #56

Once again you change the subject. You're incabable of responding directly to a post. hobbit709 May 2013 #57

Nobody complained or whined about Clinton on DU when he was president? Oh, right. MNBrewer May 2013 #63

You've got it wrong. On a Democratic site, you can expect posters to support Democratic principles. AnotherMcIntosh May 2013 #76

If you never hear any dissenting voices, how do you know when you're wrong? Major Nikon May 2013 #4

Shining example. Thank you! nt boston bean May 2013 #6

If you want to pin that on me, you'd best pack a lunch Major Nikon May 2013 #8

There's another group that is getting close and CokeMachine May 2013 #10

I'm not familiar with the group Major Nikon May 2013 #11

That list should actually be shorter, since some of the Gun Trolls on it have since been banned. Electric Monk May 2013 #12

Yes, just a matter of when they carry enough water for the NRA and ALEC Major Nikon May 2013 #14

all completely justified BainsBane May 2013 #33

No comparison--four is not thirty two. nt MADem May 2013 #51

Huh?? CokeMachine May 2013 #73

Did I miscount from the wrong list? nt MADem May 2013 #75

They have blocked 25 posters. nt hack89 May 2013 #82

Well, that's way more than four. MADem May 2013 #83

Groups like that don't bother me - they bore me. hack89 May 2013 #86

You banned me BainsBane May 2013 #19

I'm not sure how you get there Major Nikon May 2013 #22

Oh, so you banned me BainsBane May 2013 #29

I forgot Major Nikon May 2013 #34

So you did ban me for that reason or you don't remember? BainsBane May 2013 #36

Neither Major Nikon May 2013 #38

Yeah, asparagus is funny that way. Warren DeMontague May 2013 #41

eggs are the worst BainsBane May 2013 #44

Believe it or not my farts smell like potpourri Major Nikon May 2013 #47

A one! A two! A one-two-three-four! Warren DeMontague May 2013 #48

bitter greens do have lots o' vitamins. Warren DeMontague May 2013 #40

If you'd like to be unbanned, ask. n/t lumberjack_jeff May 2013 #25

Oh please, there are some DUers who love to sufrommich May 2013 #52

I'm not sure you've paid much attention to what constitutes a banable offense over there Major Nikon May 2013 #55

Wasn't someone banned from there that had never posted there? hobbit709 May 2013 #64

I don't know that to be true Major Nikon May 2013 #66

Who? BainsBane May 2013 #78

Insisting he should be able to call women BainsBane May 2013 #77

You really should give it a rest Major Nikon May 2013 #79

Let's clarify BainsBane May 2013 #80

BainBain! snooper2 May 2013 #85

......... sufrommich May 2013 #87

+100000000 redqueen May 2013 #91

Well certainly if it weren't for the men's group nobody would have a beef with HoF Major Nikon May 2013 #92

No, but if not for HOF BainsBane May 2013 #93

Sounds a bit like delusions of grandeur Major Nikon May 2013 #94

Ah, but you see... opiate69 May 2013 #96

I've never been wrong. MattBaggins May 2013 #16

Aint often right, but Warren DeMontague May 2013 #42

there's a difference between dissenting voices and outright stupidity datasuspect May 2013 #58

Perhaps Major Nikon May 2013 #60

that's why i stay out of DUs rancid identity politics ghettoes datasuspect May 2013 #61

I see these very words on DU a lot. LuvNewcastle May 2013 #5

It is one thing to create a functional community. lumberjack_jeff May 2013 #15

That's true. LuvNewcastle May 2013 #21

I think argumentation is central to *every* useful discussion. lumberjack_jeff May 2013 #26

I thought this was going to be about the DU Ignore function. (nt) Nye Bevan May 2013 #7

If I only did that I'd end up Generic Other May 2013 #9

It's likely that you are the only person who agrees with you all the time Major Nikon May 2013 #13

I clearly do not have that problem these days Generic Other May 2013 #17

but, you say "it was easier when we just all hated Bush"... graham4anything May 2013 #49

I never expected to be lectured with a full on rant for disliking Bush Generic Other May 2013 #62

you lost me at your name calling of President Obama. graham4anything May 2013 #72

You host a forum with 32 blocked DU members. Rex May 2013 #20

She didn't intend it as irony but as moral justification. n/t lumberjack_jeff May 2013 #27

not all opinions are equal. criminally insane and criminally malignant are not fruitful opinions. NuttyFluffers May 2013 #23

The problem is, not everyone who thinks they're lecturing from a position of "moral authority", IS. Warren DeMontague May 2013 #39

This guy might be Major Nikon May 2013 #45

Indeed. Warren DeMontague May 2013 #46

and this is a BAD thing? YeahSureRight May 2013 #50

well, as to SC zerosumgame0005 May 2013 #65

Welcome to DU Major Nikon May 2013 #67

I think that people only talking to people who agree with them is incredibly harmful. Donald Ian Rankin May 2013 #53

Sometimes you just don't want Shankapotomus May 2013 #59

I'm not sure the opposite extreme is all that much better Major Nikon May 2013 #68

That is not my point Shankapotomus May 2013 #69

It depends. Are they amenable to persuasion? If not, it's a waste of time. alarimer May 2013 #70

Not limited to talk. There are people who cannot abide a different opinion on internet bike man May 2013 #71

There's disagreement, and then there are lies. Zoeisright May 2013 #74

I see it all the time on DU. nt LWolf May 2013 #81

...and sometimes... not even then. The cases of misreading posts are increasing ScreamingMeemie May 2013 #84

I hate talking to people who agree with me.... cbdo2007 May 2013 #88

best post yet, i am friends with all sorts. the stuff we do together transcends my views loli phabay May 2013 #95

On some issues, yes. I will not entertain willful ignorance or hate. morningfog May 2013 #89

It's no big deal I guess. rrneck May 2013 #90