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Tien1985

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72. Still not an excuse

Mon May 20, 2013, 10:59 PM

May 2013

to physically grab something from someone and destroy it.

I don't need to play Monday morning quarterback about a situation I've been in. I'm not an asshole unable to control myself when someone pisses me off. This guy is. So, apparently, is the woman who was speaking during a show.

It is idiotic and disturbing to lose control over a cellphone at a theatre. These people have the self-control of a tired three year old. I expect more control from my third grader than they collectively showed here.

I am not defending the cell phone user. She should be banned and should have been escorted out immediately. Or better, had the spot light dropped on her and been publicly shamed by the theatre. As it stands she should be charged with assault.

That doesn't excuse his lack of self control.

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Theatergoer praised as hero for smashing woman's cellphone [View all] Liberal_in_LA May 2013 OP

cool story, bro Enrique May 2013 #1

Ya know, Tien1985 May 2013 #76

Took the words right out of my mouth. Arkana May 2013 #126

This. backscatter712 May 2013 #185

He could have gone to the Tien1985 May 2013 #2

he did go to management, before taking action Liberal_in_LA May 2013 #3

He said his date did. But if it bothered Tien1985 May 2013 #9

Yeah. Neither of these two are innocent..... AverageJoe90 May 2013 #19

Oh, for heaven's sake. CBHagman May 2013 #65

Still not an excuse Tien1985 May 2013 #72

he should have sat on it or taken it to the manager. pansypoo53219 May 2013 #177

Yeah, well, I'm also sick of narcissists like Kevin Williamson who think they can do whatever....... AverageJoe90 May 2013 #73

Agreed Mr Dixon May 2013 #105

How much more of the show should the guy miss while leaving to find the management... Silent3 May 2013 #101

He had a few options Tien1985 May 2013 #122

I wouldn't like being interrupted during my movie, either, but Williamson should've been detained. AverageJoe90 May 2013 #4

Did you read the OP? They did go to management .... oldhippie May 2013 #7

Are people lacking in reading comprehension tonight? liberalhistorian May 2013 #8

Well, I wasn't excusing her behavior, either. AverageJoe90 May 2013 #16

Not a movie. The Theater - a musical in NYC - lynne May 2013 #20

I don't think she was talking in it. she said, "then don't look" PeaceNikki May 2013 #21

Still rude, distracting, annoying and against "the rules". RudynJack May 2013 #51

agreed, and saying something is justified. leaving and asking for refund, justified. PeaceNikki May 2013 #56

But they did complain RudynJack May 2013 #66

he's a writer/critic for NRO and I'll eat my hat if he paid a dime for those tickets. PeaceNikki May 2013 #120

So you obviously miss the point. aquart May 2013 #96

You're wrong. PeaceNikki May 2013 #98

So you were not bragging about being rude in a theater? aquart May 2013 #100

I was kidding. PeaceNikki May 2013 #102

Maybe your cat RudynJack May 2013 #123

I told him to mind his own business. PeaceNikki May 2013 #135

Cats mind nothing but their own business RudynJack May 2013 #136

. PeaceNikki May 2013 #138

So someone who doesn't go to the theater thinks it's funny to make a fuss about ... aquart May 2013 #168

Correction: Someone who wasn't *at* the theater made a joke on the internet. PeaceNikki May 2013 #170

lol! Does Gatsby die in the end? Matariki May 2013 #142

Don't know, I was busy beating the shit out of a person who was in a handicapped seat who didn't PeaceNikki May 2013 #145

It's common practice now for employees to not forcibly detain anyone, even for most 'security'. Incitatus May 2013 #172

Yeah, there's a good point there. AverageJoe90 May 2013 #173

my fantasy at a ballet a few yeas ago!!!! lunasun May 2013 #5

last week at college music recital, guy rattled candy wrapper for eternity Liberal_in_LA May 2013 #22

Been there. All my sympathies. aquart May 2013 #97

Sarah Palin was there in her FMPs? Loup Garou May 2013 #6

Not to flegellate a deceased equine SQUEE May 2013 #94

Lighten up Francis RudynJack May 2013 #139

destructive asshole. PeaceNikki May 2013 #10

hers were also aggressive moves. very aggressive to 1) break rule that has just been announced HiPointDem May 2013 #23

Not physically aggressive and not violently destructive. PeaceNikki May 2013 #24

The world isn't a school playground ... Trajan May 2013 #36

talking on a cell phone and having your cell phone on violates the rule the establishment set, HiPointDem May 2013 #40

common decency Trajan May 2013 #42

so what? common decency is more important than law. HiPointDem May 2013 #70

I agree with your assesment and reaction to that woman of privilege. defacto7 May 2013 #82

agreed. if you're not going to enforce the rule, don't pretend you have a rule. i abhor armchair HiPointDem May 2013 #89

But you know what? His theater tickets probably cost more than her phone. cui bono May 2013 #87

and she was stealing from everyone around her and should have theft charges pressed against her dsc May 2013 #29

violent, destructive attention-seeking, lying asshole writers for the National Review. PeaceNikki May 2013 #32

As someone who performs in a chorus dsc May 2013 #33

and I hope he's arrested and charged. PeaceNikki May 2013 #35

and I hope he gets a jury of performers dsc May 2013 #38

I have less tolerance for violent destructive behavior. PeaceNikki May 2013 #39

the only physical abuse was by her dsc May 2013 #41

he physically took. it. from. her. PeaceNikki May 2013 #43

and.she.slapped.him.i.e.actually.did.hurt.him. HiPointDem May 2013 #90

I'm a performer Tien1985 May 2013 #49

Bull. SamReynolds May 2013 #45

thank you PeaceNikki May 2013 #47

most phones make noises when they get and send texts dsc May 2013 #54

Was hers? SamReynolds May 2013 #189

Have you ever sat next to or behind someone using a tablet or smart phone during a performance? GoneOffShore May 2013 #62

Yes, very much so. RudynJack May 2013 #63

The glow from the screen is intensely annoying. MadrasT May 2013 #106

I agree that people should cut the shit and enjoy the show. SamReynolds May 2013 #191

In what legal jurisdiction do you live? Tommy_Carcetti May 2013 #180

she was stealing the play that they bought the right to hear dsc May 2013 #181

Yeah, that's hardly a prosecutable offense. Tommy_Carcetti May 2013 #182

it should be dsc May 2013 #184

PeaceNikki, I am surprised that they didn't press charges. The man's real problem was the theater GiaGiovanni May 2013 #150

Well, this was in New York. smirkymonkey May 2013 #11

Can't disagree with that. AverageJoe90 May 2013 #17

Wow, nice work. Way to strike a blow for umm... civility? Marr May 2013 #12

her behavior was more than rude. it was trashy & aggressive. HiPointDem May 2013 #25

he's a violent asshole writer for the national review PeaceNikki May 2013 #26

and her behavior was trashy and aggressive. nothing he is changes her behavior, which was HiPointDem May 2013 #28

He is mildly violent at best... Pelican May 2013 #58

Absolutely-- but he comes off no better. Marr May 2013 #59

i think she actually comes off worse. because she started it and escalated it. HiPointDem May 2013 #68

Sick to death of self-entitled people and their cell phones in theaters distantearlywarning May 2013 #13

You think they're self-entitled? Williamson ended up being way worse!(no duh). AverageJoe90 May 2013 #18

He could have left and requested a refund Shankapotomus May 2013 #14

Noone gives a shit olddots May 2013 #15

Theaters should have something Politicalboi May 2013 #27

good idea. HiPointDem May 2013 #30

Actively jamming them's frowned upon for emergency reasons Posteritatis May 2013 #31

+1 Blue_Tires May 2013 #111

Jammers were/are legal in other countries in certain places (funeral parlors) but not here KurtNYC May 2013 #176

Simple ... Trajan May 2013 #34

The woman in question was not talking. SamReynolds May 2013 #48

then she should also be arrested for assault. KittyWampus May 2013 #116

Oh .. and the slapping part ? Trajan May 2013 #37

My sense of schoolyard justice tells me that the slapping produces offsetting penalties: petronius May 2013 #46

I don't believe he should pay for the phone mythology May 2013 #75

I wish more people would do this. Apophis May 2013 #44

Twelve dollars? I wish I could get theatre tickets for that. GoneOffShore May 2013 #143

He should be charged with destruction of property KingFlorez May 2013 #50

She slapped him. That's assault. (nt) Nye Bevan May 2013 #67

He still destroyed her property KingFlorez May 2013 #69

Offsetting penalties. lumberjack_jeff May 2013 #78

After she writes a letter of apology to every other audience member (nt) Nye Bevan May 2013 #84

Yeah, well, I think her spontaneous reaction to HIS THEFT will get HER off that hook. WinkyDink May 2013 #192

a new class of people - cellholes nt msongs May 2013 #52

+1 exactly flamingdem May 2013 #61

Ha ha ha ha, I like that term! Initech May 2013 #85

lol! Exactly. HappyMe May 2013 #95

It would probably be a better argument... Deep13 May 2013 #53

Reminds me of that Star Trek episode with Spock on the bus newmember May 2013 #55

Bit 'o trivia; The asshole punk with the boombox was played by Kirk Thatcher an AP that Egalitarian Thug May 2013 #86

Star Trek IV backscatter712 May 2013 #183

She slapped him. Arrest her for assault. Nye Bevan May 2013 #57

Good. Going to the movies costs almost as much as a new phone. Pragdem May 2013 #60

This wasn't a movie RudynJack May 2013 #64

Good LittleBlue May 2013 #71

... KG May 2013 #74

I once sat next to a heckler at an Arthur Rubinstein piano recital!! Manifestor_of_Light May 2013 #77

May also add > KittyWampus May 2013 #117

Hugh Jackman's method catchnrelease May 2013 #79

The whole time Hugh was yelling, 007 had already double tapped the guy(n/m) ProudToBeBlueInRhody May 2013 #131

A trio of assholes. X_Digger May 2013 #80

This illustrates the problem with cellphones and other electronics mindwalker_i May 2013 #81

Thank YOU! smirkymonkey May 2013 #146

"Can't they just shut the fuck up for a short time?" Lizzie Poppet May 2013 #153

The fault is with the theater. defacto7 May 2013 #83

Why should anyone RudynJack May 2013 #88

If there's one takeaway, it's that Williamson knows how to drum up publicity for his book PeaceNikki May 2013 #91

May his days be blessed and his name heaped with praise. aquart May 2013 #92

Yes, the charming conservative writer who trashes Gabby Giffords and praises Rand Paul. PeaceNikki May 2013 #93

He's an editor at the National Review. And a big asshole. He was on Morning Joe bragging CTyankee May 2013 #107

Nikki RudynJack May 2013 #125

I don't think he was wrong for being pissed, but definitely in the way he acted. PeaceNikki May 2013 #134

He should have gone to management instead of assaulting the woman Marrah_G May 2013 #99

Excellent Shrek May 2013 #103

I think this was a "Frasier" episode. woo me with science May 2013 #104

That's exactly what I thought of, too Blue_Tires May 2013 #110

Should have gotten a standing ovation badtoworse May 2013 #108

Hey, DU has got a new shiny object du jour! HughBeaumont May 2013 #109

except EVERYONE hates people who talk on cells during performances. KittyWampus May 2013 #118

I don't know ProudToBeBlueInRhody May 2013 #129

You know, buddy, you could be a little more considerate when you write posts like that. Warren DeMontague May 2013 #162

I must have been out those days . . . a rarity. HughBeaumont May 2013 #165

Snatching someones property is robbery simpify May 2013 #112

lethal force? OMG! You'd escalate this to DEATH SENTENCE! This thread is now classic. KittyWampus May 2013 #119

YEAH! MURICA FUCK YEAH! STAND YOUR GROUND!!! n/t backscatter712 May 2013 #186

Everyone who goes to a movie or theatre knows the rules by the time they own a phone stevenleser May 2013 #113

Riveting tale, champ. Dash87 May 2013 #114

I could see grabbing the phone but not throwing it. He should have taken it to management. randome May 2013 #115

He did go to management, they did nothing. n/t BuelahWitch May 2013 #159

I know we shouldn't behave like Williamson but part of me wishes more cellholes factored it in. Gidney N Cloyd May 2013 #121

When my daughter was performing with a local troupe... Xithras May 2013 #124

I think I probably would have left and asked for my money back... cynatnite May 2013 #127

Good for him...rudeness like that should be dealt with appropriately... joeybee12 May 2013 #128

Physical aggression is overkill here. He was lucky he wasn't arrested. GiaGiovanni May 2013 #149

Maybe he wanted to enjoy the show? Why should he have been the one joeybee12 May 2013 #167

Because that is what mature adults do, especially if they wanted to avoid assault charges GiaGiovanni May 2013 #171

Oh boy are you so far off base on this...amazing... joeybee12 May 2013 #174

Should have gone to Alamo Drafthouse ProudToBeBlueInRhody May 2013 #130

WOW just WOW npk May 2013 #132

+1 RudynJack May 2013 #140

+1000 smirkymonkey May 2013 #147

It's not about the phone. It's about the violent outburst. Not smart these days. GiaGiovanni May 2013 #152

While I don't condone what the man did... npk May 2013 #155

When you escalate from verbal argument to physical action, you don't know how it will be interpreted GiaGiovanni May 2013 #160

Many phones cost over $600. The woman was rude, but surely ecstatic May 2013 #188

Absolutely uncalled for on his part. Buns_of_Fire May 2013 #133

Sounds like she has a pretty unshakeable case against him. N.T. Donald Ian Rankin May 2013 #137

What's with the sexist drivel when he describes the women? Matariki May 2013 #141

He's a bloviating conservative asshole. PeaceNikki May 2013 #144

I agree he most likely is a conservative, but... npk May 2013 #156

Cell phones are insanely annoying, but those women could have filed criminal charges GiaGiovanni May 2013 #148

Good on him, I wouldn't do the same but good on him. n/t Kurska May 2013 #151

This is what happens Warpy May 2013 #154

My thoughts... alp227 May 2013 #157

In my mind, he's a hero customerserviceguy May 2013 #158

This was during a LIVE theatrical performance? cliffordu May 2013 #161

world needs more faraday shields. NuttyFluffers May 2013 #163

Hero my ass. XVI_Eyes May 2013 #164

although a natural strong opponent of the death penalty - I do believe an exception should be made Douglas Carpenter May 2013 #166

This is a story of asshole vs. asshole. rucky May 2013 #169

I would probably have stood up and clapped. hamsterjill May 2013 #175

Excellent bad behaviour. sibelian May 2013 #178

"Hero" is a huge stretch. Tommy_Carcetti May 2013 #179

ALL HAIL HIS FAMOUSLY FELINE AGILITY!!! backscatter712 May 2013 #187

Sorry, but this guy was an equal moron and now criminal! He should've notified ushers//Security. WinkyDink May 2013 #190