Anonymous on the case of lesbian girl charged with statutory rape.

[Ms. Toad]

61. Which is precisely why I don't think it should be a crime

Kids and circumstances are so different.

I would have been perfectly fine with an 18 year old (of either gender) at 14. I probably could have run circles around most of them by that age. My other siblings, not so much - and probably all of them were much more likely to actually have a sexual relationship with someone their age or older than I was.

In my case, being the target of a few bullies from 4th grade (or perhaps younger) through 7th grade - and figuring out how to move out of their sphere and be happy with myself despite their repeated attempts to bully me whenever our paths crossed - meant that by age 14 I was not likely to be coerced into a relationship I didn't want with a senior. My sister, on the other hand, had attachment issues because of her early childhood experiences before she was adopted by my parents. She has never in her adult life (until the last 6 months or so at 50+) not attached herself to the new man before the old was gone. At 14, 16, or even older, she could easily have been in a relationship by coercion rather than choice. But unless that relationship was with someone out of high school while she was still a high school student, criminalizing the behavior of one of the parties seems to me the wrong way to go about it.