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BainsBane

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4. There is a clear double standard when it comes to statutory rape

Fri May 24, 2013, 09:53 PM

May 2013

What is unusual about this case is that a woman is even charged. If the younger person had been male, I suspect she would not have been charged.

Think of all the cases of female teachers having sex with their male students and how the public reacts. When Debra Lefavre was charged with statutory rape for sex with a minor, many people cited her beauty as supposed evidence that the boy couldn't have been bothered by the relationship. Studies show that such relationships are just as traumatic for boys as girls, yet the public reacts like the boy is lucky. I find it very troubling. The law should be applied equally, regardless of gender or sexual orientation.

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18 yr old Male with 14 yr old female - DU would be clamoring for jail time [View all] FreakinDJ May 2013 OP

You're a DUer. Why would you be clamoring for jail time? nt ZombieHorde May 2013 #1

I didn't - and the scenerio I described has come up on DU before FreakinDJ May 2013 #3

Links, please. Ms. Toad May 2013 #57

I wouldn't be "clamoring for jail time." LuvNewcastle May 2013 #2

Nope. I remember too clearly what things were like when I was 14 Warpy May 2013 #22

DUers go off on tangents some times; I'm as guilty as LuvNewcastle May 2013 #33

They also possess jerking knees Warpy May 2013 #71

I too remember 14 jzola May 2013 #54

That's why maybe 21 or so should be the age cutoff, not 18 Warpy May 2013 #70

There is a clear double standard when it comes to statutory rape BainsBane May 2013 #4

If we are referring to Kate davidpdx May 2013 #28

This message was self-deleted by its author seaglass May 2013 #30

Does 'statutory rape' only apply to male/female relationships, then? randome May 2013 #37

no, not according to the written law BainsBane May 2013 #72

here we go quinnox May 2013 #5

I suspect if the boy were black and the parents of the girl publicly said dsc May 2013 #6

Doesn't matter - once you help them sneak out of the house FreakinDJ May 2013 #7

not if the parents don't press charges dsc May 2013 #9

the motive would be to seperate an Adult from a Child FreakinDJ May 2013 #12

this particular set seems to have a big problem having a gay daughter dsc May 2013 #13

And how many of your 18 year old classmates Ms. Toad May 2013 #58

the parents had to press charges to avoid becoming criminals themselves magical thyme May 2013 #34

did the third party make them utter homophobic non sense? dsc May 2013 #38

I haven't seen what homophobic non sense (sic) you refer to... magical thyme May 2013 #39

they said, among other things that they wouldn't have a homosexual daughter dsc May 2013 #40

you forgot the link. nt magical thyme May 2013 #41

it has been reported her and elsewhere over and over dsc May 2013 #43

a libelous claim by the mother of the accused is hardly a reliable source magical thyme May 2013 #45

and of course the victims parents wouldn't lie dsc May 2013 #47

you know no such thing. You still have not provided a link to your supposed quote. magical thyme May 2013 #49

People say lots of things - it doesn't make them true. Ms. Toad May 2013 #59

that certainly applies to Kaitlyn's parents magical thyme May 2013 #60

Re lies - pot, kettle. See my other post to you. Ms. Toad May 2013 #61

oh, so now you actually are calling me a liar. magical thyme May 2013 #66

"It's the law!" The cry of the authoritarian. backscatter712 May 2013 #63

+ 1 La Lioness Priyanka May 2013 #64

Where are they on record? roughrider101 May 2013 #84

When I was 18... bunnies May 2013 #8

When I was in high school Yo_Mama May 2013 #10

I teach high school Nevernose May 2013 #14

If I was a high school teacher I'd probably not want to know anything either davidpdx May 2013 #27

What if it had been Hitler with a unicorn? n/t Ian David May 2013 #11

Hitler would have head-butted Stalin killing him instantly, thus ending Communism. nt madinmaryland May 2013 #19

Then the unicorn would have given birth... Dr. Strange May 2013 #80

What if an 18 y/o male took a 14 y/o female to Olive Garden? Silent3 May 2013 #15

There has to be some breast-feeding going on also! nt madinmaryland May 2013 #20

On a bicycle... sweetloukillbot May 2013 #26

And a pit bull. nt justiceischeap May 2013 #31

And a 3D printed drone Aerows May 2013 #36

There would be high fives marshall May 2013 #21

What? LostOne4Ever May 2013 #16

Too bad the 14 year old wasn't emancipated. alp227 May 2013 #24

True LostOne4Ever May 2013 #69

She didn't keep her anywhere. One kid called another kid for a ride when she ScreamingMeemie May 2013 #17

18 yr old Male with 15 yr old female... madinmaryland May 2013 #18

In California - YES FreakinDJ May 2013 #29

18 and 14 per the police affidavit magical thyme May 2013 #50

would an 18 year-old male and 14 year-old male relationship be less acceptable than an 18 year-old Douglas Carpenter May 2013 #23

I Think you're right. dballance May 2013 #53

nope men are oppressed. lesbians are not. La Lioness Priyanka May 2013 #65

no I am asking if today's society would accept a same sex relationship between an 18-year-old male Douglas Carpenter May 2013 #74

yeah i think you are right. sorry i was really being sarcastic towards the op. not you. La Lioness Priyanka May 2013 #75

No booley May 2013 #25

I think the fact that they are both high school students justiceischeap May 2013 #32

not for statuatory rape. magical thyme May 2013 #35

I don't know... Xyzse May 2013 #42

Absolutely. Everybody here knows it. LisaL May 2013 #44

correctamundo nt Celldweller May 2013 #46

We are insignificant dots on a speck of dust, floating in virtual infinity... Pragdem May 2013 #48

Nonsense bowens43 May 2013 #51

...and trash this thread, too. Iggo May 2013 #52

I really have to agree with you. Illegal is Illegal - period. dballance May 2013 #55

The law is fucking brain-damaged. backscatter712 May 2013 #67

If you don't like the law then change it. Don't blame me for saying we should be law-abiding. dballance May 2013 #68

Nonsense. Ms. Toad May 2013 #56

Where's unrec when we need it? n/t backscatter712 May 2013 #62

And imagine if the 18yr old was a black male and the 14yr old was a white female. nt MzShellG May 2013 #73

Oh hells yes. I'd like to see someone try to deny it with a straight face, too. nt Poll_Blind May 2013 #76

I would not treestar May 2013 #77

You have a point - but in California the law states 2 yr age difference FreakinDJ May 2013 #81

Two years is way too close treestar May 2013 #83

No, I wouldn't Canuckistanian May 2013 #78

Not true. JimDandy May 2013 #79

I don't know about jail time... NaturalHigh May 2013 #82