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(14,337 posts) Tue May 28, 2013, 01:23 PM May 2013

These posts about "Minors" pissed me off [View all]

It seems to me that a LOT of parents don't want to let go of their CONTROL.

Let me first state that I am 64 years old and raised two daughters who are now adults aged 29 and 34. Me? I graduated HS at 17. I was hired out of school at the headquarters of an International Corporation in NYC. Why did they hire a MINOR? Should my PARENTS have any say on this? After I was hired, I moved out. MINOR? Should my PARENTS have stopped me? I was SELF-SUPPORTING. Minor, Minor, MINOR!!!! Ask parents PERMISSION?????

My own older daughter skipped a grade in school. She turned 17 in February of her Senior year. MINOR when she graduated also. You DO AS WE SAY? Nope. She was out of HS and could do what she wanted as far as we were concerned. End of story. Her life, and we as her parents were not about to CONTROL what she did after HIGH SCHOOL.

I know what some will say. About Freshman and Sophomores. Well, 17 year old JUNIORS, and even some 17 year old SENIORS, are still legally Minors, as are COLLEGE Freshmen, and WORKING "Minors". CONTROL your kids lives? Give it UP. You can't. You will have a far better relationship with them if you learn to LET THEM GO.

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These posts about "Minors" pissed me off [View all] HockeyMom May 2013 OP

Parents have a duty to protect their children. Letting your 14 year old get fucked isn't... JVS May 2013 #1

Yeah, abstinence ONLY! The choice of informed progressives everywhere! Taverner May 2013 #21

Nice strawman. JVS May 2013 #35

How is sticking with the discussion a "strawman"? Matariki May 2013 #106

Look up strawman. JVS May 2013 #113

No, the point is that some 14 year olds will have sex Matariki May 2013 #125

Still a strawman. It addresses a statement I didn't make. And your point sucks. JVS May 2013 #126

Perhaps the age of consent should be birth FrodosPet May 2013 #38

Yes, but as you see in these threads, people don't want it LadyHawkAZ May 2013 #128

Abstinance only does ignore the reality of teen behavior FrodosPet May 2013 #129

I agree completely n/t LadyHawkAZ May 2013 #130

If that's the standard, then a lot of parents are failing justiceischeap May 2013 #68

A lot of parents suck. That's no surprise. JVS May 2013 #93

Spoken like a teenager. You have no adolescent children I presume? nt Ed Suspicious May 2013 #102

No, I don't have any adolescent children or children of any kind justiceischeap May 2013 #110

It's amazing the transformation one's attitude makes when one is tasked with bringing a few little Ed Suspicious May 2013 #111

I'd like to think my parents brought me up right justiceischeap May 2013 #112

The answer that always bugs me is "well its the law" Drale May 2013 #2

yea really who needs laws let's just let everyone do what they "feel" is right or what "makes sense" leftyohiolib May 2013 #11

Yeah, those pesky laws are really just guidelines ... oldhippie May 2013 #34

Or a nation who drives an average of 3.5 miles over the posted speed-limit... LanternWaste May 2013 #57

Yep...sex with a 14 year old is just like speeding. zeemike May 2013 #62

Really? And you can speak to the mental health of children, can you? WinkyDink May 2013 #45

As someone who went through the mental health system Drale May 2013 #50

This is about the legal understanding of CONSENT. AtheistCrusader May 2013 #56

The Basketball Coach Sought Out The Younger Girls Parents DallasNE May 2013 #72

That's not the OP's point, and your line of question is not germane to the general consent idea. AtheistCrusader May 2013 #86

Here Are A Couple Of Official Reports DallasNE May 2013 #88

The affadavit is unclear if there was one or two AtheistCrusader May 2013 #89

When my son was fifteen he was sought out by a company truedelphi May 2013 #3

That NYC corporation didn't ask my PARENTS Permission HockeyMom May 2013 #6

Frankly, the answer is YES. SORRY it's not YOUR answer. WinkyDink May 2013 #46

Uh, under the law currently, yes. Yo_Mama May 2013 #115

Ah, poor middle-class Americans. HERVEPA May 2013 #40

justice is justice is justice. truedelphi May 2013 #55

Illegal immigration is way down, by the way. HERVEPA May 2013 #87

You do realize my original statement was not an attack on truedelphi May 2013 #134

I went to work at 14, got a special work permit from the state. DiverDave May 2013 #132

When your daughters were 14, did you let them go sleepover with their boyfriends? msanthrope May 2013 #4

My older daughter was a lesbian HockeyMom May 2013 #16

if she wasnt gay would you let your 14 year old child have sex with an 18 yeaR old man leftyohiolib May 2013 #32

that's what i thought the response would be leftyohiolib May 2013 #84

At 14? nt msanthrope May 2013 #39

Why does that surprise you? markpkessinger May 2013 #127

I think you misapprehend my question. msanthrope May 2013 #133

The 14 Year Old Ran Away From Home DallasNE May 2013 #75

Just because you graduated from HS doesn't mean you are mature enough rl6214 May 2013 #5

I didn't turn 18 until 6 months after HS HockeyMom May 2013 #12

So you wait until you are 18 to move out rl6214 May 2013 #19

I did get an apartment at 17 HockeyMom May 2013 #24

Where did I say they can't hire you? rl6214 May 2013 #30

Stop the repetitiveness. WE GET IT. IN 1966 YOU GOT HIRED, AND YOUR PARENTS HAD NO SAY. WinkyDink May 2013 #48

i don't understand what your story has to do with the 14-year-old in this case. HiPointDem May 2013 #83

I'm 63. Guess what? Times have changed. That company TODAY would be in big trouble. WinkyDink May 2013 #47

today it's a nonissue b/c workers comp and elehhhhna May 2013 #66

Hear, hear! HappyMe May 2013 #7

well, this is rather silly. cali May 2013 #8

thank-you - the hypocritical nonsense that sometimes goes on on this board is blinding leftyohiolib May 2013 #17

Ya ain't gonna change em if you wait till they are teens to try. L0oniX May 2013 #9

17? Mr. X May 2013 #10

Did they move out when they were 14? The Link May 2013 #13

Unless a teen has been emancipated demwing May 2013 #14

Why should a 17 year old HS Grad HockeyMom May 2013 #18

Let your 17 year old cause a serious accident, Throckmorton May 2013 #25

Living in Manhattan I didn't drive HockeyMom May 2013 #119

OK, I wasn't aware that auto accidents were the only ones a minor could be sued for. Throckmorton May 2013 #124

I had to have parental permission to join the Navy at 17 FrodosPet May 2013 #42

Apparently so HockeyMom May 2013 #120

We have gone backwards in time. truedelphi May 2013 #54

Do you realise how absurd this sounds? wercal May 2013 #81

Our 17 year old older daughter enlisting in the Military HockeyMom May 2013 #82

It's not about "ultimate control", it's about providing a safe environment for children to become Ed Suspicious May 2013 #104

Well, it's the law NY that they do Yo_Mama May 2013 #117

So after I, or my daughter, graduated HS at 17 HockeyMom May 2013 #20

why are you so angry? demwing May 2013 #22

Yes, you do. AtheistCrusader May 2013 #58

How do you decide which words to make all caps? dems_rightnow May 2013 #15

... Sheldon Cooper May 2013 #37

A 14 year old is not 17. bravenak May 2013 #23

Emancipated = Court HockeyMom May 2013 #27

Without emancipation you are still in the custody of your parents or legal guardian. bravenak May 2013 #33

How about a 17 year old and a 20 year old? HockeyMom May 2013 #60

17 year olds are able to legally consent. bravenak May 2013 #76

Age Of Consent Varies By State DallasNE May 2013 #92

Nebraska is 17 tammywammy May 2013 #96

MY Bad DallasNE May 2013 #118

17 is the age of consent in texas arely staircase May 2013 #85

Fuck, I know a 61 year old still living with his parents. Fuddnik May 2013 #63

Not all 17 year olds are the same. Wait Wut May 2013 #26

I didn't ask my parents permission for anything HockeyMom May 2013 #29

It bugs you that your kids ask your opinios and talk to you about their life??? HERVEPA May 2013 #41

I didn't know how to read that. Wait Wut May 2013 #43

Yeh. My kids also. Doesn't mean they always take it, but do value my opinion. HERVEPA May 2013 #49

Wow, I hope I don't bother my mother... a la izquierda May 2013 #135

My dad hired his 16 yr. old brother for his construction biz loyalsister May 2013 #28

I raised to children, a boy and a girl. Skidmore May 2013 #31

Sorry but not everything is about your experiences. randome May 2013 #36

Wow. Why this rant about " PARENTAL CONTROL"? I've seen only threads about the LAW. WinkyDink May 2013 #44

is adolescense a concept ? olddots May 2013 #51

Yeah, I'm not sure how you judge maturity, but apart from very low functioning individuals, 10 year Ed Suspicious May 2013 #108

Well people who get pissed off, piss me off demwing May 2013 #52

Wow, no words! You don't get it! n-t Logical May 2013 #53

Agreed. Sadly many parents are the Kyle's mom types LittleBlue May 2013 #59

Thank you HockeyMom May 2013 #64

Good point LittleBlue May 2013 #73

You sure do get pissed off a lot. Sissyk May 2013 #61

It isn't 1967 anymore Motown_Johnny May 2013 #65

Seriously. Sheldon Cooper May 2013 #69

I wouldn't go that far. Motown_Johnny May 2013 #70

And that's not a good thing. jeff47 May 2013 #74

My younger daughter was 17 years old 12 year ago HockeyMom May 2013 #79

I can only imagine how you feel about pit bull threads LostOne4Ever May 2013 #67

My point is the difference between 17 and 18 HockeyMom May 2013 #80

You really seem to be missing the point on the age issue. As children age, we as parents loosen the Ed Suspicious May 2013 #109

Yep, it's a control issue LadyHawkAZ May 2013 #71

Fortunately, as a righteous champion of public decency I know what's morally best for everyone. nt Demo_Chris May 2013 #77

I don't get what all the offended parties are on about either, on this issue enki23 May 2013 #78

... Iggo May 2013 #90

I'm the father of two daughters aged 28 and 31 olddots May 2013 #91

Perhaps the numbers come into play here. SOME, but not all, minors can succeed/survive/thrive on bike man May 2013 #94

So you're saying the 18 year old should be treated as any other adult muriel_volestrangler May 2013 #95

Minor status exists to protect children One_Life_To_Give May 2013 #97

Yes, but after graduation, those laws don't apply HockeyMom May 2013 #99

But you can't operate machinery One_Life_To_Give May 2013 #100

Article about Florida's 2007 Romeo and Juliet Law HockeyMom May 2013 #98

This message was self-deleted by its author seaglass May 2013 #103

Then with that 4 year difference HockeyMom May 2013 #121

This message was self-deleted by its author seaglass May 2013 #122

After a long hard day in the mines, working hard and risking their lives... Silent3 May 2013 #101

Completely wrong. Zoeisright May 2013 #105

This might just be the most absurd thread I have read all month! Marrah_G May 2013 #107

Every time I see this thread-title I think of Galaxy Quest: kentauros May 2013 #114

DU, as a whole, suffers from an extreme case of borderline personality disorder. Jamastiene May 2013 #116

Precisely why statutory rape laws Ms. Toad May 2013 #123

You got to raise your kids your way, I get to raise mine my way. GreenEyedLefty May 2013 #131