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Phentex

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22. I would not call you kept, you are a partner...

Fri May 31, 2013, 09:58 AM

May 2013

and I hate when someone calls a woman "kept" too.

Sometimes, it's skill set, sometimes it's personality but people have to work the situation out for themselves. I know men who love to do laundry and dishes. They enjoy vacuuming or whatever. My sister's husband is like this. However, he hates repair work and yard work. My sister loves gardening and taking care of the yard. It works for them. He stayed at home with their daughter for the first three years of her life and they were all happy.

If people divide the household as they see fit and everyone is happy, then who cares who does what? However, when one person feels taken advantage of, then there's trouble. And I don't think money should ever be a factor in determining someone's worth, but sadly that's what often happens.

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I'm a stay at home husband, or as I call it, a "kept man"... [View all] Recursion May 2013 OP

Sounds like the kind of life I would love... sibelian May 2013 #1

I definitely consider housework torture. Lucky Luciano May 2013 #28

Thanks for your perspective. Sheldon Cooper May 2013 #2

It's a "many" thing, I grant Recursion May 2013 #5

23 yrs Navy Sea Bee 4Q2u2 May 2013 #14

My wife is also a total slob fitman May 2013 #36

Reminds me of this from Jane Austen's Emma: treestar May 2013 #13

Damn, I need to find and marry a man like you! Loved this post! Kicked!!! Liberal_Stalwart71 May 2013 #3

That's sweet, but don't try to replicate this. You have the right solution for you, out there Recursion May 2013 #6

What a great read and insightful piece. Thank you. n/t reflection May 2013 #4

Not only are men willing to put up with more "filth", they are willing to wear the same underwear kelliekat44 May 2013 #7

OK, I'll come clean: even I do that Recursion May 2013 #8

ok. I'll give you that. kelliekat44 May 2013 #9

Nice stereo type MattBaggins May 2013 #23

Look--there's a reason underwear has two sides. msanthrope May 2013 #37

I'm home a lot myself. Inkfreak May 2013 #10

What a great Mom ! marions ghost May 2013 #17

Sounds like a fine life to me. If you're both happy... Triana May 2013 #11

Mr. Dixie was a house husband for many years dixiegrrrrl May 2013 #12

Ha! My husband is the same way ellie May 2013 #15

My wife runs me out of the kitchen madokie May 2013 #16

Division of labor along skill lines marions ghost May 2013 #19

I run my husband out of the kitchen too... a la izquierda May 2013 #35

I think there are men out there that are house husbands NewJeffCT May 2013 #18

Huzzah and Semper Fi JaneFordA May 2013 #20

You sound like a gem. Jennicut May 2013 #21

I would not call you kept, you are a partner... Phentex May 2013 #22

I absolutely promise not to try to replicate that! DFW May 2013 #24

I think that's awesome! hamsterjill May 2013 #25

Great post.. My son spent 5 years in the Navy and became a neat freak.. mountain grammy May 2013 #26

What a treasure of a human being and man you are. Unfortunately one in a million. northoftheborder May 2013 #27

My father did all the cleaning, my mom did all the cooking, my brother and I did laundry xtraxritical May 2013 #29

well there's no need to be nasty. I'm sure he is simply commenting on the comments liberal_at_heart May 2013 #34

This post is in part a response to this thread: Arugula Latte May 2013 #39

"Desperate to get your name on a post?" DU Courtesy Fail. IdaBriggs May 2013 #40

Are you kidding? Are you new here? xtraxritical May 2013 #42

Well, I've been here 10 years longer than you have, and I agree with every word of Ida's post. 11 Bravo May 2013 #45

Don't fuck with Ida. DCKit Jun 2013 #51

not all of us fit the stereotype. liberal_at_heart May 2013 #30

I too struggle with cleaning Skittles May 2013 #47

i have always let my wife/gf pay the bills galileoreloaded May 2013 #31

You have a wife and a girlfriend paying the bills? IdaBriggs May 2013 #41

was married, now w girlfriend galileoreloaded May 2013 #43

that was kpete May 2013 #32

I think your great and it's to bad you don't have children yet. southernyankeebelle May 2013 #33

You make me want to be a better person. DCKit Jun 2013 #52

While never in the military, like you I SCRUB the house rl6214 May 2013 #38

She has some secret Benghazi recipe? ashling May 2013 #44

you want I should kick your kept ass, Recursion? Skittles May 2013 #46

You are obviously manly enough to man-up and pull your weight in your marriage, indepat May 2013 #48

wonderful post Liberal_in_LA May 2013 #49

You are the stay at home partner, not the "kept man" tavalon May 2013 #50

I am not a stay at home dad ProdigalJunkMail Jun 2013 #53