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Jennicut

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36. Staying home with young children at first is a big adjustment, I have been there. It was lonely

Fri May 31, 2013, 10:01 AM

May 2013

at first. I stayed home with my baby as we had just moved and the job was an hour away. I tried part time but then ended up pregnant again and with my kids a year apart (like having twins, only more complicated) I stayed home. My husband helped less because I was home more. Stuff piled up and I missed adult contact. I missed being able to buy my own things without asking for money from someone else. But I adjusted and ended up enjoying that time with my girls. I would not say this man was a jerk. He just had to adjust to a new role.

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When mom earns more, it's tough on dad [View all] davidn3600 May 2013 OP

Who is this "Society" person, anyhow? FrodosPet May 2013 #1

social pressures still exist for women to stay home and take care of men and children cali May 2013 #2

Social pressures still INSIST that a working woman come home after a day of work to her 2nd job justiceischeap May 2013 #17

Not surprising marions ghost May 2013 #3

This needs to be filed under Le Taz Hot May 2013 #4

That's what I meant to say! cali May 2013 #5

cali, you and I may not always agree Le Taz Hot May 2013 #6

Totally agree. sibelian May 2013 #9

Did you read the entire article? Behind the Aegis May 2013 #10

Nope. Le Taz Hot May 2013 #12

Only partially. Behind the Aegis May 2013 #13

Yeah, OK. Le Taz Hot May 2013 #14

It isn't a difficult concept to understand. Behind the Aegis May 2013 #15

Yes, I understand the concept Le Taz Hot May 2013 #16

I said "Sexism runs both ways." Your response was "Yeah. OK. Wait Whut?" Behind the Aegis May 2013 #18

Yeah, I was there. Le Taz Hot May 2013 #19

Then why did you ask why I posted what I did? Behind the Aegis May 2013 #20

I think Matt Baggins #23 and #32 below explain what BTA was thinking. I could be wrong and am open stevenleser May 2013 #41

When my 2 children were young, I worked a madmom May 2013 #39

Yup. This is bs and he's just lazy. Dash87 May 2013 #22

Nice sexist comment there MattBaggins May 2013 #23

Haha how is that sexist? Dash87 May 2013 #29

He was most likely suffering from depression MattBaggins May 2013 #32

SUDDEN or DRAMATIC drop in activity usually means depression not laziness uponit7771 May 2013 #38

Great post! Thanks for making me think and reconsider my position. nt Demo_Chris May 2013 #33

deleted by me Hekate May 2013 #7

FFS sibelian May 2013 #8

Did you read the entire article? Behind the Aegis May 2013 #11

I read it but the point is the same... Phentex May 2013 #21

"Women traditionally have felt this for ages." MattBaggins May 2013 #26

No, he should not have to deal with it at all... Phentex May 2013 #27

I doubt it was about income MattBaggins May 2013 #28

That's probably true, but nearly every paragraph Phentex May 2013 #31

I think the author is wrong for doing that. MattBaggins May 2013 #34

Exactly! Phentex May 2013 #35

This is America Aegis. We berate people for depression. MattBaggins May 2013 #24

these days its tough on dad when she earns less, too HiPointDem May 2013 #25

there are other studies that show that stay at home fathers enjoy that role La Lioness Priyanka May 2013 #30

Staying home with young children at first is a big adjustment, I have been there. It was lonely Jennicut May 2013 #36

I'm offended that they jump back and forth between begin parents and just being married. Dawgs May 2013 #37

I am the sole wage earner in our family now and always earned more than my husband LibertyLover May 2013 #40

Oh boy. That does NOT sound healthy. Arugula Latte May 2013 #42