Curious about marriage versus long-term partnership logic thoughts.

[lindysalsagal]

35. This from a happily divorced woman: Emotional marriage is unstable, and financial marriage

can become a real problem.

The decision to marry is really 2 questions:

1. Do I want to own this person's financial liabilities, and have to negotiate about finances with my love?

2. Do I want to emotionally dedicate myself to one person and take on his/her strengths and weaknesses and family?

Because, take if from someone who's been there, done that, the certificate doesn't buy you one more day together. It's not an insurance policy, and neither are the kids.

Ok, you might think this is not very positive or romantic, but you asked.

As I get older, I understand more and more why some couples don't make it legal, because it means that every day, each person has chosen to be together. That will always be more romantic and inspirational than an official government certificate.

I also have to remind you that he's not "yours." If you don't believe that you are his property, then you have to accept that he's not yours, either. That kind of thinking will backfire on you some day. I don't doubt his commitment to you, or his feelings. I don't even know you.