Curious about marriage versus long-term partnership logic thoughts.

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81. Yes and yes

OK, I'm the person who said in my other post that I've sworn off marriage and you directed me to this question/post.

Already had somewhat of a mini-experience with an injury here. He had a work injury and was out of work for 6 months. Ended up having back surgery after 3 months. We didn't know if it was going to be a permanent disability where he could no longer work (as a courier for FedEx) or not.

That didn't involve any long hospital stay, though. It was mostly at home.
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However, strangely enough, my ex-husband had the same injury (different disk, though), but NOT work related (no $$ from workers comp or Disability). Same surgery, same hospital, same surgeon. Same uncertainty about whether or not this would be permanently disabling .... and he is a self-employed drum tech (roadie) between tours at the time. We were already in the process of ending our marriage and I was house-hunting. I agreed to stay as long as needed until he recovered (because we did part as friends, the whole process of getting divorced was a pain in the butt, though).

During our marriage (and the 3 years before that where we lived together), my ex was out on the road for many weeks at a time and then would be home for long stretches. If your question is asking if the long separation of a hospital stay would kill the relationship, then my answer is no because it wasn't the long separations, in my case, that ended our marriage. We just "fell out of love" and went back to being friends, but that happened during a time where he was home for a VERY long stretch. The long absences might actually have been beneficial in that case.

I'm wondering if your real question is .... with which do you agree:
1) Absence makes the heart grow fonder
2) Out of sight, out of mind

Yes?