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348. treestar, federal benefits are denied to LGBT people

You are thinking of a provision for certain (not all) Federal Employees to be able to share benefits with their partners just as other couples do. These are not the 'federal benefits' such as Social Security as we still can not name our partners to get survivor benefits, we still can not file to the IRS as anything but single and on and on and on....
What he did was a positive, but a tiny one, effecting only those in the employee of the government directly. Contractors can still screw us. As can any employer in 29 States, all of whom can simply say 'you are fired for being gay'.
Speaking about very important things without the proper education can seem arrogant and dismissive, even bigoted. Are you incapable of looking up the details of the order you speak of? No. So the 'question format' is an affectation.