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EFerrari

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92. My judgment is clouded by having lived with a violent, manipulative husband

Sat Feb 11, 2012, 11:58 PM

Feb 2012

who was good at covering his traces to the point where people would feel sorry for him even though he had 125 lbs and a foot of height on me. He would have loved to be able to spin his out of control behavior on FB, let alone, make himself look good in the press. Which, he did, btw. I probably shouldn't even read these stories or post to these threads.

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Follow up to computer shooting Dad. [View all] TalkingDog Feb 2012 OP

Not really on the sense part LadyHawkAZ Feb 2012 #1

I missed the part about Social Services. Where is it in the text? TalkingDog Feb 2012 #2

Another post, newer LadyHawkAZ Feb 2012 #4

Oh great. The police are praising crap parenting? HuckleB Feb 2012 #6

The police are praising good parenting. former9thward Feb 2012 #34

What? HuckleB Feb 2012 #45

You may wish to stop, I'm not. former9thward Feb 2012 #102

Or maybe she's in on the whole thing. HuckleB Feb 2012 #8

Notice how that list DIDN"T include "molesting her"? Redstate Bluegirl Feb 2012 #10

No, but I TOTALLY noticed how YOU brought it up! Brickbat Feb 2012 #12

Here's a much longer excerpt of what he wrote about CPS tammywammy Feb 2012 #75

That was my thought as well LadyHawk Kookaburra Feb 2012 #37

Give the laptop to CHARITY? Why, that's not the MANLY way to do things. Zalatix Feb 2012 #86

If that's really what the daughter said ... I'm liking this kid REP Feb 2012 #3

after reading this, it makes me want to see what all the "to do" is about. i didnt go into the seabeyond Feb 2012 #9

i'd like to know what you think too arely staircase Feb 2012 #11

post 50 seabeyond Feb 2012 #51

Be sure to watch the un-edited version. nt riderinthestorm Feb 2012 #15

do you know of any way i can find it? nt seabeyond Feb 2012 #17

Here you go. riderinthestorm Feb 2012 #28

you know why i did not go into that thread and watch that video seabeyond Feb 2012 #50

LOL!! Put on your flame suit and prepare for action!! riderinthestorm Feb 2012 #54

my oldest has told me in some ways i am the hardest, toughest mom out of all his friends, he says, seabeyond Feb 2012 #57

Almost all of them push those lines. HuckleB Feb 2012 #59

see, it is comments like that. that is their job. no. there job is to develop into worthwhile seabeyond Feb 2012 #65

Yes, it is. HuckleB Feb 2012 #66

no, it isnt. and the child was told repeatedly what was allowed in the use of facebook seabeyond Feb 2012 #70

That's his claim. HuckleB Feb 2012 #73

Exactly. Nobody knows the reality. nt riderinthestorm Feb 2012 #78

oh, whatever. people are flippin with what they saw, taking it at face value. if it is all a lie seabeyond Feb 2012 #81

You can't judge a guy for parenting by youtube? HuckleB Feb 2012 #58

Nope. We do not have enough information. riderinthestorm Feb 2012 #68

Pure hogwash. HuckleB Feb 2012 #71

So you think parenting by youtube is ok? HuckleB Feb 2012 #56

oh bull.... firstly, it went onto the face book to go back to the kids friends and possibly seabeyond Feb 2012 #62

That's whole load of justification for something that is sick at its best. HuckleB Feb 2012 #64

bullshit. it is a whole lot of parenting that most parents dont take the time to do seabeyond Feb 2012 #67

Way to try to distract from your support for this sick parent. HuckleB Feb 2012 #69

i dont think so. i think the video was only the beginning. far beyond the lazy parent seabeyond Feb 2012 #72

If posting a video on youtube isn't indicative of bad parenting, then we're all in big trouble. HuckleB Feb 2012 #74

parenting.... i had both my boys watch the video. then we had a discussion about the video seabeyond Feb 2012 #79

this is as i suspected, just the girl seems less bratty to me now. nt arely staircase Feb 2012 #13

Hogwash. HuckleB Feb 2012 #5

I find it amazing that so many people see so many different things in this story. Brickbat Feb 2012 #7

I suspect the main differentiator is whether you're a parent or not. lumberjack_jeff Feb 2012 #14

I raised four girls LadyHawkAZ Feb 2012 #16

Exactly!!! HuckleB Feb 2012 #19

Are you serious? HuckleB Feb 2012 #18

Are you talking to me? lumberjack_jeff Feb 2012 #23

If that's not what you're saying, then clarify it. HuckleB Feb 2012 #32

Post 29. n/t lumberjack_jeff Feb 2012 #33

In other words, my assumption was correct. HuckleB Feb 2012 #42

I guess straw-man is the only language that some people are fluent in. n/t lumberjack_jeff Feb 2012 #85

Really? HuckleB Feb 2012 #98

Enjoy your break. lumberjack_jeff Feb 2012 #101

Yeah, I think that's one, but not the only one. People see what they want to see, I guess. Brickbat Feb 2012 #20

You mean, we see a guy who clearly wants attention, posting a ridiculous video on youtube? HuckleB Feb 2012 #21

That's what you see. Brickbat Feb 2012 #24

That's what I saw when I saw the video. HuckleB Feb 2012 #31

That's not what I saw when I saw the video. Brickbat Feb 2012 #35

That's quite sad. HuckleB Feb 2012 #41

No need to be sad. Brickbat Feb 2012 #46

Lucky kids. HuckleB Feb 2012 #49

"Or so you say." Brickbat Feb 2012 #52

Well, everyone is going by what this dufus dad says. HuckleB Feb 2012 #53

"Try again"? To do what? Convince you I'm a good parent? Convince you that the dad in the video Brickbat Feb 2012 #61

If you think this guy is ok, well... HuckleB Feb 2012 #63

Back at square one. Brickbat Feb 2012 #80

I raised a teen and never once found it necessary to execute her possessions. Fumesucker Feb 2012 #25

Very few people will emulate what he did. lumberjack_jeff Feb 2012 #29

There's frustration and then there's acting like a jackass.. Fumesucker Feb 2012 #36

Better yet, ask your dad to watch the video. lumberjack_jeff Feb 2012 #38

Wow! HuckleB Feb 2012 #43

Sure it is. lumberjack_jeff Feb 2012 #83

And the guy's kid. HuckleB Feb 2012 #93

I tried to send you a PM but it bounced back. Sorry, I should have asked first. nt riderinthestorm Feb 2012 #94

If it bounced back, it's likely your own fingers causing the problem. HuckleB Feb 2012 #97

Oh, okay. I'll try again. My story IS the real world. riderinthestorm Feb 2012 #99

Half the parents I know think it was funny hack89 Feb 2012 #104

Well, it certainly succeeded in its purpose.. Fumesucker Feb 2012 #84

I think it depends on if you were raised in a family with unreal expectations OKNancy Feb 2012 #26

Gosh, thanks for the generalization Missy Vixen Feb 2012 #30

we don't know much about this family, if the guy was a true abusive type JI7 Feb 2012 #22

Abusive types will brag to anyone who will listen LadyHawkAZ Feb 2012 #88

Yes. They learn to cover their tracks AND to get mileage out of their abusiveness. EFerrari Feb 2012 #91

He is an abusive violent asshole who is manipulating the situation EFerrari Feb 2012 #27

the more I read of this guy's FB posts, the more I think Terra Alta Feb 2012 #39

Here is one of four pictures from his facebook page. Swede Feb 2012 #40

I'm shocked. HuckleB Feb 2012 #44

You know, I asked on one of the other threads about whether he just likes to shoot shit riderinthestorm Feb 2012 #47

So? Upton Feb 2012 #55

Is the fact that he thinks posting a video on youtube because his daughter badmouthed him ... HuckleB Feb 2012 #60

it's that he shows his kids it's okay to use a gun to destroy something Terra Alta Feb 2012 #76

if he'd *really* wanted to make a point he'd have given it to one of her friends Occulus Feb 2012 #89

It's the belt buckle that gives it away - good catch. nt hack89 Feb 2012 #105

+1. nt riderinthestorm Feb 2012 #48

All right. I give up. HuckleB Feb 2012 #77

Good Riddance. We need fewer people who jump to conclusions based on flimsy info. TalkingDog Feb 2012 #87

The info is NOT flimsy. 2ndAmForComputers Feb 2012 #90

My judgment is clouded by having lived with a violent, manipulative husband EFerrari Feb 2012 #92

I am sooo sorry EFerrari! I completely understand where you are coming from riderinthestorm Feb 2012 #95

Good. I didn't think what he'd done was bad. Hey, bad is when your dad beats the crap out of you. Honeycombe8 Feb 2012 #82

I just thought it was funny. She needed taught, and Dad took her to school. TheManInTheMac Feb 2012 #96

I get this now....... Jello Biafra Feb 2012 #100

Well Said. Paladin Feb 2012 #103