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marlakay

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6. Its all about letting go of the past

Sun Jun 16, 2013, 04:22 PM

Jun 2013

And I know it's easier said than done because I had a very hard upbringing. Took me until after my dad died in 2000 to finally grow up in my 40's and 50's.

What I do now is try to live in the present as much as possible not past or future.

Today I haven't even been thinking of my dad, I guess I figure he is gone and I do things for my husband whose kids live two states away.

I am not super close to my mom so moms day use to be hard for me I couldn't in all honesty send a mushy card. So now I just get a pretty flowers one.

Our minds want to play the "what if" game. I have done it many times, what if my dad didn't drink? What if I reacted different to my brother? What if I didn't marry my first husband?

But we have the life that we have, so give up a kind word for a guy who gave you life.

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