My 15 year old daughters reaction to "Laptop dad"

[elias7]

208. I see. The issue then is whether this is domestic violence or not.

I am certain you feel that it is, and I will not try to convince you otherwise. (But don't forget, mother said to put one bullet in the machine for her as well. So, now you have to deal with two abusive parents.)

I never get a sense of abuse here. First, that questionnaire you posted is non-scoreable in this case. From the little I can garner from him in this case from two posts, his score is 0-14.

I do not get the sense that he is primarily acting out of emotion and anger. I feel he has been methodical in his actions, from using his professional IT experience to verify a suspicion, posting a response to show his daughter that privacy is a non-issue when it comes to the internet, making the choice to take away/destroy her computer after this, her second major transgression, discussing it with her afterward in a rational matter.

Aside from his dramatic choice to use a gun to shoot the computer (with one bullet also for mother's request), this act was performed in a non-violent, almost comedic manner, meant to entertain and educate. I don't see that he was "throwing objects or breaking things when he is angry". That's not what I was seeing, but I can see how another person, especially one abused in the past, might disagree with me.

We are allowed to disagree...