Let's make this clear: responding to your teenage child's words with violence is NOT OKAY.

[EFerrari]

220. Do you want to put it up, redqueen?

I think I've pretty much talked people's ear off.

Here's a post I found this morning about that chart and DV Dad:

This is the Domestic Violence Power and Control Wheel. Related trigger warnings apply (and note that it is based specifically on male/female relationships where the man is the abuser).

Note the following points included on the wheel:

-Displaying weapons

-Destruction of (victim’s) property

-Humiliation (of victim)

-Monitoring and controlling the victim

Now look at the section of the wheel on minimizing and denying.

One thing abusers are really good at is making their victims feel like no one is on their side. They isolate by triangling in third parties and then getting said third parties to back them up. In this case, this abusive father has brought in the entire fucking internet to yuk it up about his abuse, because if so many people can see it and think it’s admirable/funny/etc, it CAN’T be that bad! The message sent to the victim by this is: no one is going to help you. I’m right and you’re wrong and this is how it’s going to be forever.

If you think you’re not playing into the cycle of abuse YOURSELF when you laugh and and celebrate that video, you’re wrong. You are. That girl and her dad may never know it, but you CERTAINLY are.

http://transstingray.tumblr.com/post/17460707687/trigger-warning-child-abuse-more-on-that-dad-shoots

The story got a lot of attention on boards that deal with DV. Duh.