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181. Do I qualify as an old man?

Fri Jun 21, 2013, 06:34 PM

Jun 2013

I'm 68, retired, work at a part-time job because retirement is not what it's cracked up to be.

My part-time job puts me in contact with LOTS of young people -- mid-teens to mid-twenties, mostly female.

I find the young women fun to be around. They all call me "Grandpa" and regale me with tales about their latest adventures I treat them with respect and would not even think about commenting on their dress . . . I do comment when they let slip a four-letter word and on occasion I have suggested to some of them they need to drop an abusive boyfriend.

Frankly, I'm glad I'm not a teenager today. Back when I was their age, all we had to worry about was getting caught smoking in the bathroom or drinking Coke spiked with Jack Daniels at a high school football game . . . we didn't have AIDS, meth, date rape drugs, or people attacking us on Facebook.

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Old Men---Please don't do this. [View all] trumad Jun 2013 OP

"Kind of". Damn, you're polite. Scuba Jun 2013 #1

Good advice to creepy old men. morningfog Jun 2013 #2

And they need to quit trying to pick up people young enough to be their children FrodosPet Jun 2013 #62

This was a topic on a radio show recently... Phentex Jun 2013 #64

If ever I'm tempted to flirt with a younger female, it always helps Flatulo Jun 2013 #114

A dozen years younger at 45, not too bad. Over fifteen or twenty years younger? maddiemom Jun 2013 #188

That's a tough double-standard to break. Indeed, there's even a not-so-flattering name for Flatulo Jun 2013 #215

I much enjoyed your reply. maddiemom Jun 2013 #244

I can't speak to your ex's motives, but I think many men enjoy the chase above all else. Flatulo Jun 2013 #259

~LOL to your last sentence! CrispyQ Jun 2013 #251

I remember that exact episode! When the old guy picked her up, he said something like... Flatulo Jun 2013 #257

I loved that show! CrispyQ Jun 2013 #260

Yeah, he was a handsome old gent, and perhaps they even used a stunt ass, but the point Flatulo Jun 2013 #262

I am 52 and in failing health. dotymed Jun 2013 #250

Funny you should mention that... I retired a few years ago with a bad back. I walk with a Flatulo Jun 2013 #258

Seriously man.... Johnny Noshoes Jun 2013 #115

I actually own a t-shirt older than the woman to whom I'm engaged. Codeine Jun 2013 #210

nt. Johnny Noshoes Jun 2013 #239

"Hell I've a clock radio that's over 30 years old." CrispyQ Jun 2013 #252

HAHA, it is they that do the hitting on, my dear! grahamhgreen Jun 2013 #128

I'm married to a man 20 years older than me. Neoma Jun 2013 #185

Hope he wasn't married at the time. Otherwise,good for you. maddiemom Jun 2013 #190

He's only been married to one woman, me! Neoma Jun 2013 #192

Not at all insulting. Just askin.' You're taking too personal offense maddiemom Jun 2013 #195

Think of how many times I've heard, "robbed the cradle." Neoma Jun 2013 #196

I think we were thinking in two different directions. Continued happiness to the two of you. maddiemom Jun 2013 #197

Thank you. Neoma Jun 2013 #198

Yup. Texasgal Jun 2013 #226

HA! My fiancee is twenty years younger than I am, and she doesn't seem disgusted by me at all. Codeine Jun 2013 #209

YMMV FrodosPet Jun 2013 #211

I don't see how some old codger looking at a young woman is close to rape Chemisse Jun 2013 #219

When one person finds the attention of another person to be scary Arkansas Granny Jun 2013 #242

It's kind of established that there is a limited expectation Flatulo Jun 2013 #264

If they were disgusted they would never respond. former9thward Jun 2013 #223

I'm lesbian and 33 today. Perfectly ok with a man 10 years either way hitting on me, but MillennialDem Jun 2013 #263

I think it's possible that what you may take as a 'response' to flirting is actually a reluctance to Flatulo Jun 2013 #268

How is that any more your business than fashion? RetroLounge Jun 2013 #229

Excuse me! Springslips Jun 2013 #245

MineralMan is not a creepy old man. Buzz Clik Jun 2013 #131

The only benefit to being old is Curmudgeonly Cantankerousness. Agnosticsherbet Jun 2013 #3

OMG! redqueen Jun 2013 #4

Thanks for referring to my thread. Here's a link to it: MineralMan Jun 2013 #5

Okay - giving Trumad JustAnotherGen Jun 2013 #28

I didn't make a reply to your original thread, but I have to agree with you on this one. Arkansas Granny Jun 2013 #44

I'm going to give you the same suggestion I gave MM in his thread. redqueen Jun 2013 #58

I didn't watch the movie, I'm not into that stuff, but I did watch the trailer. A Simple Game Jun 2013 #164

Young girls who use words like "slutty" can be excused due to ignorance. redqueen Jun 2013 #168

You pimp it but don't watch it? It's only about 2 minutes long. A Simple Game Jun 2013 #200

"Pimp", huh. Yeah, I see. redqueen Jun 2013 #204

Refusal to answer what question? As far as I can see you only asked two. A Simple Game Jun 2013 #207

You are seeing the trailer for that documentary as akin to triple x films? Okie dokie, then. Squinch Jun 2013 #265

I am seeing that trailer as akin to how pornographic films got their mainstream start, yes. A Simple Game Jun 2013 #266

Well, gosh. How odd of you. Squinch Jun 2013 #269

I must admit to being confused by some people's mixed signals on this issue. Bonobo Jun 2013 #228

From the trailer: CrispyQ Jun 2013 #255

Agreed. NaturalHigh Jun 2013 #214

For the record, I saw nothing wrong with your original thread and comments. kestrel91316 Jun 2013 #45

I completely agreed with you and leftynyc Jun 2013 #104

Even when I was a kid, I wasn't turned on by 12 year olds. MineralMan Jun 2013 #129

They called my mom into leftynyc Jun 2013 #180

Well, that is just pervy... MineralMan Jun 2013 #199

Mom was pissed.... leftynyc Jun 2013 #205

I didn't see anything wrong with your thread either. hamsterjill Jun 2013 #125

Thanks. I suppose it has to do with something other than MineralMan Jun 2013 #126

I agree on both counts. denverbill Jun 2013 #137

Me too calikid Jun 2013 #213

I second that. NaturalHigh Jun 2013 #232

BAD MineralMan! BAD! BAD! BAD! Buzz Clik Jun 2013 #133

Like water off a duck's back it flows. MineralMan Jun 2013 #147

Well, I've got a couple things to say about that: Buzz Clik Jun 2013 #151

Thanks, Buzz. I knew that. MineralMan Jun 2013 #155

That is the only way for "old guys" to survive around here. lumberjack_jeff Jun 2013 #157

"That someone who doesn't know me implies that I am one of those is irrelevant to me." morningfog Jun 2013 #203

Although I have to admit to feeling a bit puzzled BainsBane Jun 2013 #162

I thought it was about that TSA agent........... KentuckyWoman Jun 2013 #238

thank you quinnox Jun 2013 #6

Yep. I stayed out of MM's Aqualung thread. Hassin Bin Sober Jun 2013 #256

heh Sheldon Cooper Jun 2013 #7

You know what is kind of creepy trumad? snooper2 Jun 2013 #8

Post removed Post removed Jun 2013 #16

What do find objectionable about that? leftstreet Jun 2013 #17

Are those bathing suits? RILib Jun 2013 #19

They look like bathing suits to me Phentex Jun 2013 #66

They are LadyHawkAZ Jun 2013 #79

They are, but it's the rest of the outfit Warpy Jun 2013 #119

I'm having a disconnect RILib Jun 2013 #142

a posh pool party in Burbank... Phentex Jun 2013 #202

hmm, where did you find that photo? CTyankee Jun 2013 #20

google pictures snooper2 Jun 2013 #53

Okay, better. Rex Jun 2013 #100

Not all day, been on a conference call for 2.5 hours already snooper2 Jun 2013 #103

Ugh. That is way too long Rex Jun 2013 #108

. Rex Jun 2013 #98

The one on the left skydive forever Jun 2013 #22

No, you are not allowed ... brett_jv Jun 2013 #206

Seriously. The shiny purse is too much, as is the HUGH Headpiece on the right one, not to mention uppityperson Jun 2013 #71

To say nothing of the bichon frise! Scootaloo Jun 2013 #96

THAT'S MILEY CYRUS' little sister promoting bathing suits... Phentex Jun 2013 #82

There is desperation and then there is Devils Advocate. Rex Jun 2013 #94

They are swimming suits! Rex Jun 2013 #90

Cute dog. They both could use a trip to the orthodontist TrogL Jun 2013 #140

Ye Gods... derby378 Jun 2013 #161

And... OP's point proven. Hissyspit Jun 2013 #176

...and let them play with this... L0oniX Jun 2013 #253

Why can't people just mind their own BainsBane Jun 2013 #271

Whatever age and gender you are -- please don't do this jollyreaper2112 Jun 2013 #9

Hey you kids... RoccoR5955 Jun 2013 #10

And pass the butter! Initech Jun 2013 #25

Damn Recursion Jun 2013 #11

I'm trying to understand MrYikes Jun 2013 #12

+1 nt narnian60 Jun 2013 #21

how is what young people wear part of the screwed up mess that we're in? liberal_at_heart Jun 2013 #26

I not really supposed to comment, but MrYikes Jun 2013 #34

WHAT THE FUCK redqueen Jun 2013 #39

Getting raped was the women's fault for covering their breasts. Seriously, wtf uppityperson Jun 2013 #78

I don't think that was their point ... brett_jv Jun 2013 #208

Now I've seen it all here JustAnotherGen Jun 2013 #217

You are entitled to your opinion. I even think you are entitled to express your opinion, but I liberal_at_heart Jun 2013 #42

So, another 'men can't control themselves' comment. ismnotwasm Jun 2013 #43

ummm, that's MR Yikes to you. MrYikes Jun 2013 #50

If a man rapes a woman, then it is the man's fault, not the woman's. Period. Stop. 1monster Jun 2013 #47

"Rape increased quickly. It would be very easy to blame the men ... but ..." fishwax Jun 2013 #63

Yeah, actually maybe you SHOULD keep quiet Matariki Jun 2013 #67

... Sheldon Cooper Jun 2013 #92

"something else at work"? Men raped women because women covered their breasts? Wtf.nt uppityperson Jun 2013 #77

no they raped them because they started wearing push up bras apparently. Because no one in Africa liberal_at_heart Jun 2013 #85

That is a pants load of garbage. Rex Jun 2013 #106

That's a post-Panamax tankerload of garbage, not just a pantsload. Gah. (nt) Posteritatis Jun 2013 #175

Well it's legal to go topless in NYC so we will see how that works out. L0oniX Jun 2013 #254

+1 redqueen Jun 2013 #37

The ubiquitous voice of the authoritarian. Some of us have never listened to it, Egalitarian Thug Jun 2013 #32

+10 RC Jun 2013 #36

Was he a perv for noticing or just for commenting on it? tularetom Jun 2013 #13

Especially... madinmaryland Jun 2013 #14

. Guy Whitey Corngood Jun 2013 #15

Creepy indeed. The Link Jun 2013 #18

One does not need to sexualize children in order to see this society RadiationTherapy Jun 2013 #23

Black shoes and black sox SCVDem Jun 2013 #24

What's worse than that: riqster Jun 2013 #38

Nope, sandals with black dress socks dangling from sock suspenders Fumesucker Jun 2013 #75

Hey! Now you're getting personal jberryhill Jun 2013 #109

... tosh Jun 2013 #56

I don't have another pair of legs.. Half-Century Man Jun 2013 #224

But it's ok for young men to do it? cliffordu Jun 2013 #27

I thought you were going to say JustAnotherGen Jun 2013 #29

Some date back to this... Spitfire of ATJ Jun 2013 #30

I find 1920s fashion very sexy Recursion Jun 2013 #35

totally with you Recursion. Erotic art leaves room for the imagination. Porn gives you everything KittyWampus Jun 2013 #49

Thank you! totally agree Recursion Jun 2013 #55

I think both old and new styles can be sexy. There is nothing wrong with showing skin. There is liberal_at_heart Jun 2013 #54

Interesting POV. Doc Holliday Jun 2013 #139

I feel nothing says "tough guy" like a crotch around the knees.... Spitfire of ATJ Jun 2013 #171

Swimwear is already plural. RILib Jun 2013 #144

Unless is is meant to be worn during multiple swim sessions, in which case it is swimswears. lumberjack_jeff Jun 2013 #152

I'm gonna do the "drink, drank, drunk" thing next for sport. Spitfire of ATJ Jun 2013 #170

I sense some ageism in your comment. totodeinhere Jun 2013 #31

Specific to another post. Egalitarian Thug Jun 2013 #33

Thank you. I wasn't aware of that other thread. Perhaps the OP should have linked to totodeinhere Jun 2013 #41

Can't. We're all subject to the jury lotto. n/t Egalitarian Thug Jun 2013 #46

well, i am not a male, i am not elderly either, but i was in a kohl's recently by the juniors pansypoo53219 Jun 2013 #40

while it doesn't rank all that high on my give-a-fuck-o-meter, it is a fact dionysus Jun 2013 #48

^^^^THIS^^^^ cliffordu Jun 2013 #76

Rec this post. ^^^ nt Ilsa Jun 2013 #110

Does it "take a village to raise a child" or is that only a village of moms? lumberjack_jeff Jun 2013 #51

Only a village of young moms. enlightenment Jun 2013 #70

Especially older lesbians. Because that would be "creepy". Schema Thing Jun 2013 #120

It is up to the parents, so you can tell your kids how to dress. You cannot tell my kids how to liberal_at_heart Jun 2013 #80

Indeed I can't. But I can tell you as a parent when you're fucking up. n/t lumberjack_jeff Jun 2013 #143

and I can not give a shit, so we're both happy. liberal_at_heart Jun 2013 #225

you can say Trashy, though, although I would not recommend saying it out loud. RILib Jun 2013 #146

I'm an Old Man. H2O Man Jun 2013 #52

You sound like you have a great relationship with your daughters. liberal_at_heart Jun 2013 #57

However, advice about giving advice is always welcomed, and is indeed, your "fucking business" LanternWaste Jun 2013 #59

+1 and the really ironic thing in all this -trumad is not so young his own self Tuesday Afternoon Jun 2013 #145

Young people, please don't try to manipulate and control old people.. Wounded Bear Jun 2013 #60

Old men get to say whatever they want. FarCenter Jun 2013 #61

OMG YOU STOLE MY DAMNED POST La Lioness Priyanka Jun 2013 #65

... Phentex Jun 2013 #83

K&R uppityperson Jun 2013 #68

Really? Pelican Jun 2013 #69

you can judge all you want. Fortunately we live in America. Our girls and women can wear what liberal_at_heart Jun 2013 #73

There is a difference between can and should... Pelican Jun 2013 #88

I don't care what you think people should do. liberal_at_heart Jun 2013 #99

Good for you... Pelican Jun 2013 #105

That's an illusion of control. Nt galileoreloaded Jun 2013 #273

Even in America, childrens clothing is a reflection on the parenting he or she gets. n/t lumberjack_jeff Jun 2013 #154

Did you know that many prostitutes dress quite conseratively and look just like other people going uppityperson Jun 2013 #86

I'm not sure how to put this other than... Pelican Jun 2013 #91

It all depends on their marketing approach. FarCenter Jun 2013 #93

Glad to see it. Savannahmann Jun 2013 #72

Trumad, Your headline made me think you were going to post a pic of an old man in a Speedo.... Demoiselle Jun 2013 #74

This?? madinmaryland Jun 2013 #87

my eyes, my eyes. RILib Jun 2013 #150

Yes. And now I shall go and flush my eyes out with a hose for an hour or so. EEEwwwwwwwww! Demoiselle Jun 2013 #159

Stop posting this photo!!! Auggie Jun 2013 #173

I'm sorry I posted a picture of you.. madinmaryland Jun 2013 #183

That thing isn't human Auggie Jun 2013 #187

You have GOT to be kidding! radicalliberal Jun 2013 #184

Must forget image of... Half-Century Man Jun 2013 #220

I expected this shot in the flag at half mast whistler162 Jun 2013 #267

ROTFLMAO Autumn Jun 2013 #81

... LadyHawkAZ Jun 2013 #84

That is kinda creepy, now that I think about it. Rex Jun 2013 #89

I saw that... awoke_in_2003 Jun 2013 #95

I won't do that sarisataka Jun 2013 #97

now that is a healthy attitude towards one own daughter. I completely agree that it is our job as liberal_at_heart Jun 2013 #101

As much as I try to deny it sarisataka Jun 2013 #166

BAM! Sissyk Jun 2013 #117

There is obviously timdog44 Jun 2013 #102

Oh come on! Javaman Jun 2013 #107

Yeah, old men should just shut up. Ilsa Jun 2013 #111

I like being an old fart. I don't miss the mating games. Video below alfredo Jun 2013 #112

I have identified a "creepy old man" for you Savannahmann Jun 2013 #113

Hey, if they want to make a dirty old man's day, who am I to talk? TrogL Jun 2013 #116

You know what I find creepy? LittleBlue Jun 2013 #118

Can we add the dads in there too? DeadLetterOffice Jun 2013 #212

Yes LittleBlue Jun 2013 #218

I think making reference to attire that one saw in a public place on an bike man Jun 2013 #121

If there wasn't a post expressing rage in response to another post Puzzledtraveller Jun 2013 #127

... AzDar Jun 2013 #122

Hell to the yeah bigwillq Jun 2013 #123

LOL - Here's my advice - grahamhgreen Jun 2013 #124

Why the fuck are they all standing on their toes? MadrasT Jun 2013 #135

Because of the way it looks. redqueen Jun 2013 #148

Essentially, to attract men. They think it makes their calves look more toned, hence high heels, etc grahamhgreen Jun 2013 #149

The theory is RILib Jun 2013 #153

If this isn't CGI.. Half-Century Man Jun 2013 #222

As long as there's airbrushing, anyway. RedCappedBandit Jun 2013 #241

Actually, people are free to express their opinions about everything. Buzz Clik Jun 2013 #130

Would it be OK to say something if a parent allowed a 12 yr old to go nude in public? Major Nikon Jun 2013 #132

The answer is, and always will be: Buzz Clik Jun 2013 #136

... Major Nikon Jun 2013 #138

Old man here. Agree 100% I hate that shit. n/t broadcaster75201 Jun 2013 #134

Thanks, but Sherman A1 Jun 2013 #141

+1. Nice avatar. Buzz Clik Jun 2013 #156

Thank You Kindly! Sherman A1 Jun 2013 #174

I thought you were going to post something like this: Locrian Jun 2013 #158

K and f'ing R. Apophis Jun 2013 #160

Is it still OK if I tell those darn kids to GET OFF MY LAWN!? tclambert Jun 2013 #163

Is this you? SaveOurDemocracy Jun 2013 #167

How'd you get a picture of me? Are you with the NSA? tclambert Jun 2013 #243

Very much this. History shows the elder generation never likes the younger's choices. politicat Jun 2013 #165

Outstanding. redqueen Jun 2013 #169

but but but but this time it's *different!* Posteritatis Jun 2013 #177

And I love how I have friends who have advanced degrees in higher education Hissyspit Jun 2013 #178

Best post of the thread. LadyHawkAZ Jun 2013 #189

Thank you! *Blushes* politicat Jun 2013 #194

+1000000 liberal_at_heart Jun 2013 #227

Sorry this old lady is horrified Tumbulu Jun 2013 #172

Have you looked at much portraiture from before about 1825? politicat Jun 2013 #237

Beautiful post Tumbulu Jun 2013 #272

This message was self-deleted by its author Android3.14 Jun 2013 #179

Do I qualify as an old man? OldRedneck Jun 2013 #181

You don't sound old... Phentex Jun 2013 #201

What did I miss? W(here)TF is this coming from? maddiemom Jun 2013 #182

See if this works uppityperson Jun 2013 #221

Also, please don't call people racist because they disagree with you usGovOwesUs3Trillion Jun 2013 #186

I'm 48 and a gay man and am tired of seeing little girls dressed up like whores MNBrewer Jun 2013 #191

Who you calling old, punk?? edbermac Jun 2013 #193

How is common sense creepy? NaturalHigh Jun 2013 #216

Oh BS. One's should be free to give an opinion on anything... yawnmaster Jun 2013 #230

I like summer and spring GiveMeFreedom Jun 2013 #231

What makes one a creepy old man sulphurdunn Jun 2013 #233

But what if old men give fashion advice to YOUNGER men & telling teenage boys how to dress? alp227 Jun 2013 #234

I like it. But not too young. That's kinda creepy. ErikJ Jun 2013 #235

Post removed Post removed Jun 2013 #236

Old men Summer Hathaway Jun 2013 #240

Old Women---Please don't do this SHRED Jun 2013 #246

That WAS kind of creepy, now that you mention it. SammyWinstonJack Jun 2013 #247

So Clinton Kelly should STFU? One_Life_To_Give Jun 2013 #248

LOL! AsahinaKimi Jun 2013 #249

I agree. Old Men doing this is disgusting and creepy... madinmaryland Jun 2013 #261

I cross-posted this on www.puritanunderground.com rucky Jun 2013 #270