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LadyHawkAZ

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48. And people are still defending him as some kind of

Mon Feb 13, 2012, 03:36 PM

Feb 2012

fantastic parent.

The kid is a spoiled lazy brat- no wait, the kid is defending Dad, so she's a brilliant young lady and we should listen to her. The police said he was a hero- no? he's out of their jurisdiction? The police must be lying to the media. It was only an object, that he paid for- well, sure, he paid for everything else she owns, including her, but that would have been DIFFERENT if he shot at the (walls, windows, phone, girl). But his wife supported him! But venting anger by shooting at valuable items is normal! But CPS didn't take her! But...

An abuser is still an abuser even when they have a teenager, even if frustration with a teenager is easy to relate to, even if his actions provide a vent for other parents. How hard is that to understand?

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Laptop Dad gets a visit from the authorities. (And they say "Meh!") [View all] Snake Alchemist Feb 2012 OP

K&R /nt SaintPete Feb 2012 #1

“Pay you for chores?” ... “Are you out of your mind?” seabeyond Feb 2012 #2

I got paid for some chores... JHB Feb 2012 #133

that is how we do it, exactly. seabeyond Feb 2012 #134

And sometimes the "pay" is just a minor perk reward JHB Feb 2012 #135

ah... nifty. very good. seabeyond Feb 2012 #136

An important issue in all of this, imho, randr Feb 2012 #3

here is an excuse for you Kali Feb 2012 #8

Okay, I pointed that out in another thread! My neighbor likes to shoot stuff (you know we're rural) riderinthestorm Feb 2012 #43

Watch the video and decide if he was upset or not for yourself randr Feb 2012 #83

I wasn't addressing the video (dial up - an 8 minute video would take all day to load) Kali Feb 2012 #89

Sorry you took my comment as "snarky" randr Feb 2012 #97

I enjoy shooting. It's fun and relieves stress. Bake Feb 2012 #95

i didnt see him vent his anger. i see a person who uses guns and chose the gun seabeyond Feb 2012 #10

I am not a gun nut. baldguy Feb 2012 #59

Hunter Thompson and William Burroughs did it Capitalocracy Feb 2012 #90

Burroughs also "accidentally" shot his wife in the head, 6000eliot Feb 2012 #107

You don't know what they said. This is very revealing. EFerrari Feb 2012 #4

Yeah, that's what it means. Snake Alchemist Feb 2012 #5

I can't help it if your post shows that he's a liar. EFerrari Feb 2012 #17

The dad posts over and over what other people say. Swede Feb 2012 #29

Yep. Hey DV Dad, manipulate much? EFerrari Feb 2012 #44

That's correct. We haven't. lumberjack_jeff Feb 2012 #94

Not sure where you see a lie. nt Snake Alchemist Feb 2012 #32

He's pretending the police went out there to congratulate him EFerrari Feb 2012 #37

Uh, no. Snake Alchemist Feb 2012 #39

And both the police and the city manager denied that. Sorry, he's a liar EFerrari Feb 2012 #40

I doubt any police department or city manager would confirm that to a news organization. Brickbat Feb 2012 #41

I would hope not. They're supposed to be trained to handle people like him. nt EFerrari Feb 2012 #45

And per their training they took no action. nt Snake Alchemist Feb 2012 #50

Going to check him out was an action. EFerrari Feb 2012 #53

Yep, they are required to check out any report whether true or not. nt Snake Alchemist Feb 2012 #55

I bet we won't see DV Dad confessing on the intertubes again any time soon. nt EFerrari Feb 2012 #61

Keep pounding that DV drum. Snake Alchemist Feb 2012 #62

Yes, they were sensible enough to pay DV Dad a call. Good for them. nt EFerrari Feb 2012 #80

And to say "Meh!" when they got there. nt Snake Alchemist Feb 2012 #84

Back where you started. You don't know what they said. EFerrari Feb 2012 #100

LOL. Meh isn't necessarily something said. It's also something that is done. Snake Alchemist Feb 2012 #112

So, let me get this straight. You are defending the actions of a guy EFerrari Feb 2012 #123

Just let me know your address. Snake Alchemist Feb 2012 #124

I'm not anonymous at DU or anywhere else. EFerrari Feb 2012 #126

it was genocide! nt Snake Alchemist Feb 2012 #132

Abuse is so hilarious. EFerrari Feb 2012 #137

Different set of cops, surely? Yo_Mama Feb 2012 #98

No, the city manager said neither the city nor the police department share EFerrari Feb 2012 #99

You're entitled to your opinion Yo_Mama Feb 2012 #101

You are entitled to your opinion but not to your own facts. EFerrari Feb 2012 #104

Domestic Violence oldhippie Feb 2012 #115

It absolutely is. Go look at any index that describes domestic violence ETA EFerrari Feb 2012 #118

Psychobabble written by folks paid to write psychobabble ... oldhippie Feb 2012 #120

Aka, professionals. nt EFerrari Feb 2012 #121

+1,000,000,000,000 HuckleB Feb 2012 #49

yeah he's an abuser.. sendero Feb 2012 #18

I didn't say he was a very smart abuser. EFerrari Feb 2012 #20

One more aspect--- JohnnyLib2 Feb 2012 #28

Yep. Some guys hide their tracks really well. EFerrari Feb 2012 #38

Too bad the whole world.. sendero Feb 2012 #67

What exactly are you objecting to? EFerrari Feb 2012 #68

Your "case".. sendero Feb 2012 #73

Excuse me, but objectively this guy destroyed his daughter's computer, (ETA) EFerrari Feb 2012 #74

You know what it is about your posts here... sendero Feb 2012 #76

It became my business when DV Dad posted his video to the intertubes to enlist support EFerrari Feb 2012 #78

people don't have to "deal with" abuse noiretextatique Feb 2012 #129

"Abuse". sendero Feb 2012 #143

Yep...of laptops. Lizzie Poppet Feb 2012 #27

He's an abuser Ricochet21 Feb 2012 #96

And people are still defending him as some kind of LadyHawkAZ Feb 2012 #48

Yep. It's amazng to watch all these folks siding with a bully. EFerrari Feb 2012 #51

Apparently, is far too difficult to understand, for far too many. HuckleB Feb 2012 #52

And that's the only option? Really? n/t PavePusher Feb 2012 #86

No, it's not the only option. HuckleB Feb 2012 #88

You make a good point Matariki Feb 2012 #57

He's constantly denying responsibility for everything. EFerrari Feb 2012 #64

You apparently haven't read the IT backstory. boppers Feb 2012 #127

When you claim taking a teens computer away is "abuse" Kellerfeller Feb 2012 #77

Except that isn't my claim. EFerrari Feb 2012 #79

"this abusive father has brought in the entire fucking internet to yuk it up about his abuse" Kellerfeller Feb 2012 #85

No, those weren't my words. That was a post made on a DV site EFerrari Feb 2012 #108

he didn't "take away" her computer...he shot it with a gun noiretextatique Feb 2012 #128

There is a not-insignificant difference between "taking" and destroying. n/t JHB Feb 2012 #141

You infer a great deal from that. Ikonoklast Feb 2012 #6

You can get CPS to come out for almost anything. Snake Alchemist Feb 2012 #7

Espcially when plastic is in danger! dmallind Feb 2012 #9

They take that very seriously. Snake Alchemist Feb 2012 #13

that was my limited experience during the period that I was trying to get custody of my niece Kali Feb 2012 #11

Exactly. Snake Alchemist Feb 2012 #12

In the middle of that kind of hell myself right now, Kali, round # 4.. K Gardner Feb 2012 #54

in our case the fuck-ups eventually abandoned her with us Kali Feb 2012 #71

Me personally, I wouldn't waste my ammunition or ruin ........ Bonhomme Richard Feb 2012 #14

Check out the stuff under "male privilege" in the chart posted in #18. nt EFerrari Feb 2012 #21

He is very lucky that bullet didn't ricochet into someone Marrah_G Feb 2012 #15

Not really. Snake Alchemist Feb 2012 #16

Somehow I doubt he was taking either into consideration Marrah_G Feb 2012 #19

A lot of people shoot JHP's with that in mind. Snake Alchemist Feb 2012 #31

omg ! Marrah_G Feb 2012 #33

Next thing you know you'll be reloading your own ammo. Snake Alchemist Feb 2012 #65

hehe Marrah_G Feb 2012 #72

Errr, I don't think there was anyone around in that video. Didn't see any serious anger either. PavePusher Feb 2012 #87

Shooting at an angle, through the laptop, into the ground? FarCenter Feb 2012 #22

Still firing a gun in anger is a bad thing Marrah_G Feb 2012 #23

I watched the video, and his wife and kids were not in the video FarCenter Feb 2012 #26

I watched the video too. DocMac Feb 2012 #46

You probably should have stopped at .... oldhippie Feb 2012 #30

I'm still entitled to my opinions Marrah_G Feb 2012 #34

Lucky? Um...no. Lizzie Poppet Feb 2012 #25

I've learned alot from this thread Marrah_G Feb 2012 #36

If the guy wanted to make a REAL point to his daughter Chorophyll Feb 2012 #24

Childish, petulant behavior from parents is rarely a criminal or civil offense... LanternWaste Feb 2012 #35

I really can't believe some internet warrior... NCTraveler Feb 2012 #42

How do you know it was an internet warrior EFerrari Feb 2012 #47

"after viewers of the video called with concerns about his actions" NCTraveler Feb 2012 #56

But you don't know who those viewers are. EFerrari Feb 2012 #58

I really don't think someone in social services would be foolish enough.... NCTraveler Feb 2012 #63

Definitely check out the chart I posted. EFerrari Feb 2012 #66

The graph is not applicable to this situation. NCTraveler Feb 2012 #75

You're right. Violent behavior between adults is even less acceptable EFerrari Feb 2012 #81

Not sure how this post references my post or the op. nt NCTraveler Feb 2012 #82

According to the LATimes, CPS did go check him out. EFerrari Feb 2012 #109

And they didn't immediately remove the child? Snake Alchemist Feb 2012 #111

CPS didn't go out there to give him a medal. nt EFerrari Feb 2012 #113

What did they go out there for? There is a specific reason and it's not what you think. nt Snake Alchemist Feb 2012 #114

LOL. Even the tough love people agree that this guy is a jackass. EFerrari Feb 2012 #116

So you couldn't answer the question? Snake Alchemist Feb 2012 #117

No, it was a stupid question. EFerrari Feb 2012 #119

How many calls does CPS need before they go out there? nt Snake Alchemist Feb 2012 #125

That guy is a shitty parent Matariki Feb 2012 #60

Thank you! hamsterjill Feb 2012 #69

I expect that people are defending him because every parent has been frustrated with their teens Matariki Feb 2012 #70

That's Stanly County for you. Terra Alta Feb 2012 #91

I bet we will NOT be seeing demonstrations of his parenting skills on YouTube anytime soon. The Midway Rebel Feb 2012 #92

This guy is a showboat and he's obviously narcissistic. It wouldn't Liquorice Feb 2012 #93

In other news, G.W. Bush and O.J. Simpson still free LadyHawkAZ Feb 2012 #102

Thread in GD says this guy is a Ron Paul supporter Kingofalldems Feb 2012 #103

That sounds so much like the story Mike and Debi Pearl tell about a visit from CPS LeftyMom Feb 2012 #105

My ex took some pictures I shot of one of his rampages, EFerrari Feb 2012 #110

Laptop Dad is insecure, enjoys humiliating daughter. Forces her to work for free at his clinic. limpyhobbler Feb 2012 #106

so he says Enrique Feb 2012 #122

for me brettdale Feb 2012 #130

DV Dad is a big wingnut: EFerrari Feb 2012 #139

and by the way brettdale Feb 2012 #131

How did he make a fortune? EFerrari Feb 2012 #138

youtube pays posters of videos that go viral LeftyMom Feb 2012 #145

Thanks, I had no idea. nt EFerrari Feb 2012 #147

I swear on this phone Sea-Dog Feb 2012 #140

"We have a complaint against Mr. Dell C. Puter, purported to live at this address..." JHB Feb 2012 #142

Sneaky freepers posing as Democrats love him Kingofalldems Feb 2012 #144

An utterly violent madman with guns and an anger problem is what this guy is. Liora24 Feb 2012 #146