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9. Older poor people will have to double/triple up to share costs.

Reply to leftyladyfrommo (Original post)

Fri Jun 28, 2013, 10:59 AM

Jun 2013

My husband and I have already told our good friend that when she retires, she can come & live with us. She has no retirement and only has about 25K in her 401-k. Right now, her take home pay is about $1600 a month, but when she starts SS. her check will be in the low $800 range.

We are her safety net. Our house has 4 bedrooms & there are only 2 of us.

We've already told her she can stay with us & just chip in whatever she can.

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More on my friend who lost her food stamps. [View all] leftyladyfrommo Jun 2013 OP

Sorry if you mentioned this previously - does she have a home? closeupready Jun 2013 #1

No, she lives in an apartment. leftyladyfrommo Jun 2013 #3

Yes, a food pantry is an excellent idea. Some other ideas: closeupready Jun 2013 #13

These are ideas that could work but don't. In my case the nearest food pantry is Cleita Jun 2013 #44

Sounds like she needs a roommate. IdaBriggs Jun 2013 #2

No. One bedroom apartment. leftyladyfrommo Jun 2013 #4

If a one bedroom is $600, odds are a two bedroom is $800. IdaBriggs Jun 2013 #12

I know that would be one way to go. leftyladyfrommo Jun 2013 #19

Readjust your life to living with someone in a private home with food -- IdaBriggs Jun 2013 #21

I think you're confusing subsidized senior housing, marybourg Jun 2013 #36

I am aware of the differences. I am currently aware (in Michigan) IdaBriggs Jun 2013 #40

I think this poster is confusing real life with Cleita Jun 2013 #64

When are you ready to readjust your life Ida? Cleita Jun 2013 #63

I replied more down thread. IdaBriggs Jun 2013 #68

We aren't doing right by people JustAnotherGen Jun 2013 #5

Food stamps didn't bother her. leftyladyfrommo Jun 2013 #7

Please try JustAnotherGen Jun 2013 #11

it's also hard to be motivated to eat when you are Voice for Peace Jun 2013 #45

Especially in this day and age, you have NO control over your financial fate duffyduff Jun 2013 #6

I know. I got forced out of my job. leftyladyfrommo Jun 2013 #10

Does she have a car? Marrah_G Jun 2013 #8

She looked into that. leftyladyfrommo Jun 2013 #14

The thing about cutting hair at a nursing home Sissyk Jun 2013 #22

I have a friend who does this. MADem Jun 2013 #70

Older poor people will have to double/triple up to share costs. SoCalDem Jun 2013 #9

Bless your heart - you know how to be a true friend. closeupready Jun 2013 #15

I only have a tiny house. leftyladyfrommo Jun 2013 #17

This is what I see in MY own future, too. hamsterjill Jun 2013 #30

In some respects, it may actually be a good thing SoCalDem Jun 2013 #31

Yes, it actually could be a good thing. hamsterjill Jun 2013 #42

so.. that leaves another bedroom for another one of us... ? Voice for Peace Jun 2013 #47

It's a really small one... We even call it "the closet-room" SoCalDem Jun 2013 #59

I only have three cats, and a few personal items Voice for Peace Jun 2013 #60

I'm close to being in the same situation as your friend cali Jun 2013 #16

And trying to live with all of that "worry" is so difficult. leftyladyfrommo Jun 2013 #20

K & R !!! WillyT Jun 2013 #18

$1280 a month is about what I was taking home from my last full-time job. bunnies Jun 2013 #23

Those old guys with canes and crutches WILL hit on her.... Spitfire of ATJ Jun 2013 #24

You said she is getting SS. Is this her madmom Jun 2013 #25

Get her (and you also) xxqqqzme Jun 2013 #26

Good advice. glinda Jun 2013 #65

This is so sad. tofuandbeer Jun 2013 #27

Does she have transportation to a food bank? Glimmer of Hope Jun 2013 #28

I'm 66 and in better financial shape, but... TreasonousBastard Jun 2013 #29

Check with MARC Department of Aging Services LiberalEsto Jun 2013 #32

I am concerned that your friend has Menier's Syndrome and is still driving a car. 1monster Jun 2013 #33

Exactly. I'm prone to dizzy spells and vertigo myself. It's not Meuniers but so far doctors have Cleita Jun 2013 #53

Think, "Golden Girls" EC Jun 2013 #34

that sounds like a great idea hollysmom Jun 2013 #37

Yes, that's just fabulous. We can all move to Miami and live in a sitcom. Cleita Jun 2013 #54

She had to give up her shop, but could she make housecalls? LuciaMia Jun 2013 #35

Has it occurred to you that old people, can't quite do the work young people do? Cleita Jun 2013 #41

I've talked to her about this. leftyladyfrommo Jun 2013 #58

Well, she's an old woman. Who cares! Never mind that she spent most her life working for Cleita Jun 2013 #38

"people just don't want to go to an old hair dresser" frazzled Jun 2013 #39

I will say it again. Most old women are not Wonder Woman. We get old. We get weaker, Cleita Jun 2013 #43

Cleta, I understand.... LuciaMia Jun 2013 #46

I'm sure she wants to but can't. Starvation is not an option. We need activism, but we Cleita Jun 2013 #50

Yes, I am 63 (just four years younger than this woman) frazzled Jun 2013 #51

Good for you and all the old people who can do this. Many can not and a large portion of them Cleita Jun 2013 #52

The people that live in subsidized apartments are very active for the most part. appleannie1 Jun 2013 #48

I know many who replied don't mean to be heartless, but Cleita Jun 2013 #49

Financially they are getting out what they are supposed to, plus IdaBriggs Jun 2013 #61

Dear Ida. Cleita Jun 2013 #62

I am sorry if I came across mean. IdaBriggs Jun 2013 #67

I still wish you were a bit closer to xmas74 Jun 2013 #55

That would be great. n/t leftyladyfrommo Jun 2013 #57

I'll find out the name of the management company. xmas74 Jun 2013 #71

Thanks for all of the info. leftyladyfrommo Jun 2013 #56

Sometimes it is hard to do the paperwork as one gets older. Some one should help glinda Jun 2013 #66

Kick! Heidi Jun 2013 #69