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In reply to the discussion: Proof Glenn Greenwald hates Obama [View all]one_voice
(20,043 posts)term 'bugger' was a homophobic slur until I was on MIRT and I used it in this context 'wow he's a persistent lil bugger' Someone that was also on MIRT pm'd me and explained to me that it was in fact a homophobic slur, in a very nice non accusatory way. They believed based on what they'd seen from me that I didn't know it was a homophobic slur. I didn't.
The reason I didn't know it was because my granny used to call my brother an me lil buggers. She'd chase us down the hall saying get to bed you lil buggers and we'd run laughing. There were other contexts as wells, but never in a bad way. I'm certain my granny wasn't using what she knew to be a homophobic slur.
I'm grateful for that DU'er as we're now very good friends. My point being not everyone always knows when they're using a slur.
And before you ask, yes I have gay family and friends. It's just never come up before.