To whom do you give the most credit for the repeal of DOMA?

[Nuclear Unicorn]

48. And I believe you.

It isn't that you spoke anything untrue in your objection. I understand it, the alerter's objection as well.

I would, however, in rebuttal point out when SCOTUS rendered Brown v. Board of Education it was a predominantly white bench that did so. When the Civil Rights Act was passed in 1964 it was a predominantly white legislature that passed the bill and a white president that signed it. When women obtained suffrage it was by a process dominated by males. In other words, whites and males don't deserve a "blanket condemnation" any more than straights do.

Be that as it may, those who have lived at the short-end of those sticks may, at times, reflexively lash-out in overly broad terms. I understand it is an overly broad term. It isn't constructive and at times it can be hurtful.

However, I believe a quiet forgiveness is best. In a less heated moment I can speak to my friend as a friend. And my friend will respond as such. More importantly, my friend will realize -- though it remains unsaid -- that I valued their friendship more than I valued my sense of self (which is where the original offenses of bigotry were born in others). That alone will go farther in healing the wounds that even long-overdue legislation cannot cover.

That is my motivation for the verdict I offered and I hope all parties in this episode will choose to see it in the same light.