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denem

(11,045 posts) Fri Feb 17, 2012, 11:46 PM Feb 2012

OK. Do you think a couple should be able choose between having a daughter or son? [View all]

Note: I am not going into particular mechanics here, let alone IVF or abortion.

How many couples do you know who have had three boys or three girls, in the hope of having their first son son or daughter?

Today it's a vexed question. Tomorrow, not so much.

There will be a pill, injection or creme to maximize the opportunities of XY or YY sperm.

How many couples do you know who kept on going to get their first daughter or son?

AND, if selection is available, is it OK?

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OK. Do you think a couple should be able choose between having a daughter or son? [View all] denem Feb 2012 OP

We let the kids decide! jberryhill Feb 2012 #1

You are intelligent parents! nt MADem Feb 2012 #16

That would be fine with me. virgogal Feb 2012 #2

I think they should be able to choose whichever they want. CaliforniaPeggy Feb 2012 #3

My sister is a perfect example... JSnuffy Feb 2012 #4

I guesss I never understood the psychology of wanting a particular exboyfil Feb 2012 #14

It's a bit of a spread... JSnuffy Feb 2012 #18

That poor child. Darth_Kitten Feb 2012 #64

I think that's very common. Mariana Feb 2012 #71

It's very sad, and people may want to think WHY they want a child to begin with. Darth_Kitten Feb 2012 #76

This is a touchy issue with me. phylny Feb 2012 #46

Well, it's great to know your sister found her daughters so disappointing. Darth_Kitten Feb 2012 #63

That's a question each couple can make for themselves. Not any of my business. shraby Feb 2012 #5

'couples can make for themselves' = Yes denem Feb 2012 #9

I can see where having a choice Ilsa Feb 2012 #6

I have two friends at work abelenkpe Feb 2012 #7

Yes. It should be allowed. 2ndAmForComputers Feb 2012 #8

I think I would prefer that it not be prohibited ..... oldhippie Feb 2012 #51

What's the difference? 2ndAmForComputers Feb 2012 #54

There is a BIG difference ..... oldhippie Feb 2012 #57

I'm well aware of that. Obviously I used "allowed" as shorthand for "no law against it." 2ndAmForComputers Feb 2012 #59

I know a guy, who likes to be called Chas, who has four daughters. rug Feb 2012 #10

I take it that's a yes. denem Feb 2012 #12

Under the present circumstances it is. rug Feb 2012 #13

I wouldn't call that choosing. It's more like hoping or trying for the other gender. Honeycombe8 Feb 2012 #11

If the effectiveness of intervention is say 99&, denem Feb 2012 #19

There's no need to be rude. The OP asked a theoretical opinion question... Honeycombe8 Feb 2012 #60

Better question: Should everyone have an opinion on what every one else does? nt Bonobo Feb 2012 #15

++++++++++++++++++++++ uppityperson Feb 2012 #41

To be fair, it's the sort of question people should be asking themselves as well Posteritatis Feb 2012 #58

I knew a couple in the 60's Politicalboi Feb 2012 #17

i think it's stupid but i wouldn't support anything to ban their right to do so JI7 Feb 2012 #20

My neighbor growing up had 5 kids hoping for a boy. All girls. FarLeftFist Feb 2012 #21

At least now we know why women are outnumbering men. nt justiceischeap Feb 2012 #24

I dunno what it is... JSnuffy Feb 2012 #27

There was a documentary here laundry_queen Feb 2012 #31

If that trend were worldwide that would become VERY bad news for women. Zalatix Feb 2012 #35

Yep, pretty scary. nt laundry_queen Feb 2012 #37

A doctor once told me that females are the hardier embryo/zygote, so perhaps they survive SoCalDem Feb 2012 #70

Maybe it's that or perhaps a combination of those things. laundry_queen Feb 2012 #77

It's NONE OF MY BUSINESS. kestrel91316 Feb 2012 #22

I'm not a big fan of monkeying with nature justiceischeap Feb 2012 #23

You might want to think that through more... JHB Feb 2012 #49

Okay, how about I selectively disagree with monkeying with nature? justiceischeap Feb 2012 #53

I love it when people say stuff like this on the internet. (nt) Posteritatis Feb 2012 #55

I think it's a little creepy loyalsister Feb 2012 #25

No! MannyGoldstein Feb 2012 #26

In India, though illegal, it is not unheard of for sex selection to occur as a consequence of MADem Feb 2012 #28

I'm a big fan of judging actions by consequences. When sex selection was legal in India & China... Zalatix Feb 2012 #38

That is some fascinating research... MADem Feb 2012 #40

NOT a good idea. An India-China war could go nuclear. Zalatix Feb 2012 #43

Maybe not--particularly if both sides were interested in attrition. nt MADem Feb 2012 #45

It's difficult HeiressofBickworth Feb 2012 #29

This is already happening in India, China and other countries pnwmom Feb 2012 #30

I think you just have to accept what nature brings you. Jennicut Feb 2012 #32

I can't even imagine life without my daughters. juajen Feb 2012 #33

Not to nitpick (okay, nitpicking here) but I thought it was XX and XY... cherokeeprogressive Feb 2012 #34

I thought there was a way you could tilt the odds one way or the other, depending on the CTyankee Feb 2012 #36

The woman you worked for is a sexist, but no one dares criticize that crap. Zalatix Feb 2012 #44

The statement has sexist overtones at the very least... cherokeeprogressive Feb 2012 #72

It's already possible to select sex rather easily. LeftyMom Feb 2012 #39

Why should it be up to me? Warren DeMontague Feb 2012 #42

DING DING DING...We have ourselves a winner!! renie408 Feb 2012 #48

If they adopt, yes. JHB Feb 2012 #47

I do know pipi_k Feb 2012 #50

I view that question as someone else's moral dilemma. Not my problem. slackmaster Feb 2012 #52

NO treestar Feb 2012 #56

A tentative Yes, but with follow-up questions. Iggo Feb 2012 #61

If you have three kids of one gender... Darth_Kitten Feb 2012 #62

I'd rather they considered the number of children, not the gender. CrispyQ Feb 2012 #65

Yes! nt ecstatic Feb 2012 #66

yes, i do shanti Feb 2012 #67

Yes varelse Feb 2012 #68

Maybe it's okay if there is a need to have a child of an opposite gender to Cleita Feb 2012 #69

Yes. As you mentioned, it could lower our population growth. ZombieHorde Feb 2012 #73

Its bad to mess with nature to this degree. Just ask China. nt aaaaaa5a Feb 2012 #74

Given the direction this country is heading, avebury Feb 2012 #75