OK. Do you think a couple should be able choose between having a daughter or son?

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46. This is a touchy issue with me.

We had two girls, and I wanted another child (not necessarily a boy, but another child). My husband was fine with the two girls. We talked back and forth for a while and decided to go for it.

Throughout my pregnancy, it was amazing how many people assumed we were "trying for a boy." When our third daughter was born, we were thrilled, as was everyone else in our family.

And still, people made assumptions. One mother (of two girls!) asked me at Kindergarten pickup, "Were you really disappointed that you didn't have a boy?"

At this point, I was sorta fed up and answered, "Yep, we've decided we're giving her away and we're gonna try again until we get it right."

So, back to the OP's point, it matters not to me what other people do. Our three daughters are the light of our lives - all different, all wonderful. Having two brothers whom I love dearly, I envy our girls their sisters and love having them around. My husband loves it, and we get to tease him that he's lived in the "House of Hormones," but he wouldn't have it any other way. We joke that we'll probably have six grandsons and will be aching for a granddaughter.

I think in general that you have the child you were meant to have, whether that child is born to you, adopted, or fostered.