Court orders mother to hand over nursing infant to father on weekends

[davidpdx]

272. +1

The only information provided in the story is about the mother. We know nothing about the father or the terms of the divorce. People are making a lot of bad assumptions based on one story so I tend to agree with you on the knee jerk part.

Divorces are bad enough on kids, but when two parents have such contempt for each other it is toxic. One of the few things I agree with that was said is that the kid will end up resenting one or both parents if it continues.

My own experience with my mother and father divorcing when I was 7 was pretty bad and they didn't get along for years before they finally put it behind them. The result was two fucked up children (I did eventually find my way). While I know the story from both sides now as an adult, there is no way as a child I would have understood.

I'll tell you two quick short stories about them burying the hatchet:

1) About 22 years ago my father had a severe stroke that left him paralyzed on the right side of his body (more on that in a second). When I graduated college my mother, father, then girlfriend, and my girlfriends's mother attended. This was at a NBA basketball stadium because there were so many people. I didn't see this happen, but my (then) girlfriend relayed it to me afterward. As they came down the steps my dad was having a tough time and my mom took his arm and helped him.

2) Unfortunately my father ended up in the hospital a little over two weeks before I graduated with my masters degree. He had another stroke and had been in ICU for a week. It was pretty apparent he was going down hill and was going to die. Right before my graduation my aunt flew in to see him in the hospital and my mother was in town. My mother went and saw him in the hospital and I could see that even despite all they'd been through how sad she was. He died about a week later.

The morale of the story is both of the parents need to start acting like adults.