Court orders mother to hand over nursing infant to father on weekends

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329. I don't know all the details.

Since the parents aren't allowed to see each other, I don't know how the children are exchanged from one parent to another. Does a social worker or other third party have to pick up and drop off the children? Do the parents have to bring the children to a neutral location like a child services office? I don't know. Maybe the mother feared that the party taking charge of the 2-year-old would somehow force her to relinquish the 4-month-old as well. Maybe she is staging a general protest of the court's decision. Maybe she figured, "In for a penny, in for a pound," and if she's going to be violating a court order to stand her ground, she'll be in just as much trouble whether she complies with none of it or part of it. Maybe she feared leaving her daughter with the father when she knew the father would be angry at the mother. Or maybe she IS just a jerk using this issue to be vindictive toward the father and she doesn't really care about breastfeeding and doesn't really think that the court-ordered arrangements will be harmful to her child. I don't know. I wonder about why the parents wouldn't be allowed to see each other. If there was a history of domestic abuse, I would expect there to be a restraining order against one party and I would expect that party to be denied visitation of the children, though maybe I'm wrong about that.

None of that changes my basic opinion that the court in this case was wrong to order weekend visits for a still-breastfeeding, 4-month-old infant.

And none of that changes my opinion that the misogyny of many on DU is well on display in this thread. It's misogynistic to ASSUME that the mother's only possible motivation here is to jerk the father around. It's misogynistic to insist that there are simple, easy solutions to this that the mother could employ if only she chose. People who are saying this simply do not know much about breastfeeding. This is why it's a bad thing when legislative decisions that affect women are made by groups composed entirely of male legislators. People often don't even know that they don't know something.