Court orders mother to hand over nursing infant to father on weekends

[Ms. Toad]

429. My mother would have said she was not discouraging me -

but many of the things you have said in this thread remind me of things she said, or did, which were discouraging - or disrupted (or would have if my daughter had been cooperative) the nursing bond.

It wasn't that she consciously thought that breastfeeding was bad, but her experience was that it didn't work and it came out in a myriad of different ways which were, for the most part, unconscious reflections of the pain, uncertainty, and who knows what else her own attempts to breastfeed left her with.

From simple things - like suggesting it was abnormal for my daughter to nurse so long early on - and then to sleep so long (so I should wake her up to feed her), to more blatant things like insisting on (trying to) give her bottles of water to keep her from dehydrating and pacifiers. Fortunately, my daughter had enough sense to reject the latter two offerings.