Lazy? Addicted? my daughter's experience - mini study of who we are throwing under the bus

[No Vested Interest]

33. I thank God that my husband & I were in a position to buy a modest efficiency condo

for our daughter's use nearly twenty yrs ago, when her then residence in a bedroom of a large mansion, at modest rent, was no longer going to be available to her. Knowing her income would always be modest, we envisioned her having to move every year or so, and that she would be unable to afford a stable safe environment.

Although reasonably intelligent she had had a rough time making friends throughout her school days and holding jobs when a young adult. In recent years, a social worker calls her problem Asperger's, though she would not be typical, in that she's gregarious though compulsive. Also an adult diabetic.

To make a long story short, she was let go by the IRS a few years ago after many instances of tardiness. She was quickly okayed for SSI and now lives on that, paying me the bulk of the monthly condo fee, as well as $100/month on the 2004 Taurus I purchased for her last year. I pay her car and condo insurance and I and her brother are the ones she comes to when her monthly SSI runs out too soon.

She is not good at handling money; in addition she must pay at least something for her meds each month. It's not likely or realistic that she will be employed again, considering today's employment situation, and the fact that the lack of structure in her life has accentuated her psychological problems.

Like those writing in above, there are so many of these people in our nation, dependent to some degree on the kindness of family and on government programs. We who are able must remember the personal story and struggles of the many who limp along (figuratively) requiring, as the OP states, our empathy and kindness.