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26. I think you've described the monogamish perspective very well.

Tue Jul 23, 2013, 06:24 PM

Jul 2013

Despite having invited other people to our bed, I still consider us to be in a monogamous relationship. To me, monogamy isn't purely about sex, it's about giving a certain part of yourself to one person only. I'm not looking for a girlfriend or boyfriend, he's not looking for a girlfriend. We're just looking to have a good time. There is a line that we will not cross, and I can't explain it, but it's the emotional bond we have with each other. That, to me, is monogamy. The secrets that I share with only him. The conversations we have because we're best friends and lovers. That doesn't go beyond us. That's monogamy, to me.

I didn't plan on this thread becoming very serious but some very cool posters like yourself have made it so. What I was trying to say, in a silly-assed way, is that we shouldn't try to judge another person's relationship, that is something only the other person, or persons, in that relationship has a right to do.

You just said it much better.

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Are You Monogamish? [View all] last1standing Jul 2013 OP

LOL! I figured this would sink. last1standing Jul 2013 #1

I'm always up for righteous indignation sarisataka Jul 2013 #2

NO! YOU MUST DO AS I WANT, WHEN I WANT YOU TO DO IT! last1standing Jul 2013 #4

lol at the smilie reference, but your right about the thinking that anything different loli phabay Jul 2013 #5

It does show that we liberals aren't necessarily as progressive as we think. last1standing Jul 2013 #10

there is also a jealousy thing going as well, its like there must be sometjing wrong with me loli phabay Jul 2013 #15

good poll, be interesting to see the results if everybody would participate loli phabay Jul 2013 #3

Thanks. I can't imagine too many will answer the poll, though. last1standing Jul 2013 #9

I'm single... Agschmid Jul 2013 #6

question, if you where not single would you prefer monogamy or not loli phabay Jul 2013 #7

I'm a one man kind of man... Agschmid Jul 2013 #8

If I could ask, what do you think of Anthony Weiner? last1standing Jul 2013 #11

I think at this point... Agschmid Jul 2013 #13

From what I've read, married men who cheat are the worst carriers. last1standing Jul 2013 #16

But how many married men... Agschmid Jul 2013 #18

Many married men (and women) cheat with both sexes. last1standing Jul 2013 #21

Monogamish - good word Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2013 #12

I spelled it wrong but yes I like it. Agschmid Jul 2013 #14

yes, it is a most excellent word. Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2013 #17

Dan Savage gets the credit for coining it. last1standing Jul 2013 #19

thanks for the link Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2013 #22

This poll lacks a "polyamorous" option LadyHawkAZ Jul 2013 #20

You're absolutely right! last1standing Jul 2013 #23

Thanks! Fixed my vote! LadyHawkAZ Jul 2013 #24

I hate the term, but my husband and I are "swingers" Heddi Jul 2013 #25

I think you've described the monogamish perspective very well. last1standing Jul 2013 #26

you missed the option of sexually ravenous on your poll if your taking requests loli phabay Jul 2013 #28

Lol! I think that fits under the 'non-catagory' catagory. last1standing Jul 2013 #29

lol im not so sure i want to be in with the uncool kids. ;) loli phabay Jul 2013 #30

The sexually ravenous are never un-cool! last1standing Jul 2013 #31

yeah but now im in the group who only have sex dressed as klingons loli phabay Jul 2013 #34

I can't get it up without my Dr. Who scarf. last1standing Jul 2013 #40

oh crap now im conflicted dr who sex hot klingon sex not loli phabay Jul 2013 #42

It's all hot if you're doing it right. last1standing Jul 2013 #44

i agree this was a very cool reply, thats the thing with people who dont get it loli phabay Jul 2013 #32

Probably a bit of all of the above along with other factors. last1standing Jul 2013 #33

that's just it...we're happy, and it works for us Heddi Jul 2013 #35

pm sent, its okay its not an offer. lol loli phabay Jul 2013 #37

I think it's a conversation that people should have Heddi Jul 2013 #38

I'm Bi as well. last1standing Jul 2013 #43

The question I have grown rather bored with is the 'so what, do you toss a coin in the morning?" Heddi Jul 2013 #51

It's amazing how many 'non-judgmental' people have problems with us. last1standing Jul 2013 #52

great description and good for you loli phabay Jul 2013 #27

Thanks Heddi Jul 2013 #36

Given the amount of cheating going on... Yavin4 Jul 2013 #39

The statistics are somewhat grim for the monogamous lifestyle choice, aren't they? last1standing Jul 2013 #47

HOLY SHIT!! Mitt Romney joined DU and voted for polygomous!! madinmaryland Jul 2013 #41

Actually, a very cool, honest DUer voted polygamous. last1standing Jul 2013 #45

still lacking sexually ravenous imho loli phabay Jul 2013 #46

Maybe that should be listed as "All of the above." last1standing Jul 2013 #48

bingo now you get it loli phabay Jul 2013 #49

lol! You got it. last1standing Jul 2013 #50

"polyamorous" LadyHawkAZ Jul 2013 #53