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matthews

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50. Why would a mother with a very ill child NOT want her to know who her father

Thu Jul 25, 2013, 12:20 AM

Jul 2013

is if he could do something to save her life? That just does not make senses whatsoever.

And it's a good thing that you did. Apparently the father wasn't all that upset (I mean about you telling her who he was). And I would think that he would be the only one with a right to be upset, no one else.

You're the kind of person I would want for a cousin. The rest of the family who were willing to see me suffer could go to hell. Those other people should hang their heads in shame. You're the only one who showed any decency or compassion in the whole mess (beside the father, or course).

Sometimes people have to make hard decisions. The way they chose says a lot about them. You are a person of character and compassion. And also the only one with an ounce of brains.

You should be proud of what you did. If I were in a fix like that, I certainly hope that I would have a cousin or a friend exactly like you who would help me like you helped your cousin.

You did good. You did very very good.

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Now I'm the bad guy... [View all] SummerSnow Jul 2013 OP

If he's a match they'll quiet down. JNelson6563 Jul 2013 #1

This message was self-deleted by its author LumosMaxima Jul 2013 #2

You did EXACTLY the right thing, and thank you! CaliforniaPeggy Jul 2013 #3

agreed. the mom is so selfish she is putting her own shit over her daughter's life roguevalley Jul 2013 #19

+1, there's no other way to say it! Scootaloo Jul 2013 #28

In my opinion you did the right thing. (n/t) spin Jul 2013 #4

It sounds like the whole extended family knew who it was, everyone but her??? reformist2 Jul 2013 #5

... and was willing to let her die by ignoring that he might be a needed match. DRoseDARs Jul 2013 #38

Tell the family to take a flying fornication at a rolling doughnut Warpy Jul 2013 #6

jesus caught a lot of shit for doing the right thing, too elehhhhna Jul 2013 #7

I'm glad you did what you did w/o knowing the particulars. The two babylonsister Jul 2013 #8

You did the right thing. Being a mom does not entitle someone to cooperation in a cover-up. JVS Jul 2013 #9

You & her dad may have saved her life Triana Jul 2013 #10

There is only so many ways to say "you did the right thing" izzybeans Jul 2013 #11

Well done. Baitball Blogger Jul 2013 #12

And even if he's not a match, she is sick. She could die. DevonRex Jul 2013 #13

Exactly. At 30, the daughter's rights begin to trump the mother's Yo_Mama Jul 2013 #21

To know she DevonRex Jul 2013 #40

You are not the bad guy. prole_for_peace Jul 2013 #14

I'm on YOUR side. n/t cherokeeprogressive Jul 2013 #15

You did the right thing, you are not the bad guy Bettie Jul 2013 #16

Just as there is a time to lie, there is a time to break promises. randome Jul 2013 #17

My question is why would they let her die instead Cleita Jul 2013 #18

If he's a match, you may have saved her life Yo_Mama Jul 2013 #20

Another thing, too... awoke_in_2003 Jul 2013 #33

Congrats on being the only one who did the right thing! ManiacJoe Jul 2013 #22

PS: The mind your business thing Yo_Mama Jul 2013 #23

Yup. n/t jtuck004 Jul 2013 #44

You made the correct decision. They_Live Jul 2013 #24

Never having been in your situation I can't say how I'd react. Savannahmann Jul 2013 #25

You did the right thing...my sister-in-law passed away a few years ago.. HipChick Jul 2013 #26

You did the right thing dusty trails Jul 2013 #27

one's pride before one's living child is wrong. you did right. NuttyFluffers Jul 2013 #29

You did right Spirochete Jul 2013 #30

The right thing was done. Obviously if anyone had been in her shoes they would have done southernyankeebelle Jul 2013 #31

You followed your heart Aerows Jul 2013 #32

Nope. You're the good guy in all that Captain Stern Jul 2013 #34

Sometimes doing the right thing gets you nothing but crap hobbit709 Jul 2013 #35

What a sweet and wonderful thing you did. flying_wahini Jul 2013 #36

Wow, sounds like they want your cousin to die. How incredibly cruel of them and kind of you. nt valerief Jul 2013 #37

You did good. If you're religious, I think that Jesus would approve. nt Buns_of_Fire Jul 2013 #39

You totally did the right thing! avebury Jul 2013 #41

No. . .you did the right thing. You can look yourself in the mirror and say Nanjing to Seoul Jul 2013 #42

Sorry to be rude in your time of need... Rebellious Republican Jul 2013 #43

You. Done. Good. DeSwiss Jul 2013 #45

If you're the bad guy, then you're Spiderman Kennah Jul 2013 #46

my heaven05 Jul 2013 #47

You are definitely NOT the bad guy. elleng Jul 2013 #48

the mother is the bad guy and the one who is wrong JI7 Jul 2013 #49

Why would a mother with a very ill child NOT want her to know who her father matthews Jul 2013 #50

You minded you business, it is the rest of the family that refused to The Second Stone Jul 2013 #51

There's a saying - you are ohheckyeah Jul 2013 #52

i think you're the hero in the story and so does everyone else here. good job. n/t orleans Jul 2013 #53

Sounds like a wonderful thing for those two. roody Jul 2013 #54