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9. Though, not in the traditional

Thu Aug 1, 2013, 02:41 AM

Aug 2013

way abuse is usually considered. He's a Narcissist. And being the wife of a Narcissist is the most emotionally/psychologically abusive situation I've known. Worse than physical abuse that shows. It is always the wife's fault. These men are convincing, and cruel, and will stop at nothing to shame and blame and drive a woman to raving mad.

She's got a long haul ahead of her if what I suspect is true.

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Gag alert: Huma blames herself for Weiner's sexting [View all] Contrary1 Aug 2013 OP

I fear for her life olddots Aug 2013 #1

Throw her a rope. But ultimately, she needs to rescue herself. Gravitycollapse Aug 2013 #2

OMG....seriously? VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #17

Where the hell did that come from? Fawke Em Aug 2013 #40

This makes me really sad. n/t TDale313 Aug 2013 #3

My heart breaks for her. She loves him and he did this. I wish her the best. hrmjustin Aug 2013 #4

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Though, not in the traditional Control-Z Aug 2013 #9

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The whole thing reminds me of my father loyalsister Aug 2013 #11

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Fortunately, she did several years ago loyalsister Aug 2013 #14

Same here. laundry_queen Aug 2013 #43

except for being the child of one. cali Aug 2013 #29

There is a good chance laundry_queen Aug 2013 #44

It is truly abusive. It's so hard to leave them, because they win you over by being "the perfect man chimpymustgo Aug 2013 #34

And they tell you what they think you want to hear laundry_queen Aug 2013 #45

You make an excellent point. We need to educate everyone about personality disorders. chimpymustgo Aug 2013 #52

Didn't even bother Summer Hathaway Aug 2013 #6

She needs to leave him for the sake of the child Politicalboi Aug 2013 #7

you think she should prevent him from seeing their kid ? JI7 Aug 2013 #8

Poor thing.. wonder how she got Cha Aug 2013 #12

His inconsistencies drive me nuts! loyalsister Aug 2013 #15

Given her relationship with Hillary Maximumnegro Aug 2013 #16

^^^ 1 million + VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #19

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the FIRST thing an abuser does..... VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #21

Then why is she one of Hillary's closest aides Maximumnegro Aug 2013 #27

Because she is not...that is what I am saying... VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #47

As someone who went through it....but survived VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #22

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Thats the ONE thing that all abused women share....low self esteem! VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #24

Got this in 30 seconds off of Wikipedia... VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #25

Yup. There you go. She's been loyal to the Clintons and Weiner Maximumnegro Aug 2013 #28

Exactly....someone with low self esteem would do THOSE things.... VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #48

Would you consider she might have her own machinations in regards to Weiner's mayoral run? KittyWampus Aug 2013 #85

and not every marriage is about romantic love either....and that has only been VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #89

I think it's a dangerous misconception to believe that very smart, strong, successful women enough Aug 2013 #36

Thank you. laundry_queen Aug 2013 #46

But THAT is not how they are describing Huma are they? VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #49

and I never said that.....but low self esteem.....is another matter VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #51

a woman so strong that she blames herself for her shitbag husband's problems frylock Aug 2013 #53

She didnt do that....she second guessed herself....any woman would in her position... VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #58

yes, he's a shitbag.. frylock Aug 2013 #59

Watch this... VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #60

youtube is blocked at work.. frylock Aug 2013 #65

No its Dan Savage talking about Monogamy... VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #76

Are you suggesting that every single person who has ever sent an image of their junk to someone they VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #61

what i'm suggesting is anyone that sends a picture of their junk.. frylock Aug 2013 #63

ANYONE who did WOULD! VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #67

Furthermore... VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #62

As savage says..."the problem with monogamy is dick". VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #64

i don't give a fuck who he fucks.. frylock Aug 2013 #66

Big frapping deal....THATS his major crime? VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #68

look i'm done here.. frylock Aug 2013 #70

In fact I DON"T support him... VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #71

what would indicate to you that i'm a prude? frylock Aug 2013 #72

Perhaps the slut shaming "shitbag" statement might have something to do with it? VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #74

If a woman has a one night stand with a stranger and gets pregnant VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #75

what?!! referring to weiner as a shitbag is now slut shaming?!! frylock Aug 2013 #78

No your REASON for calling him a shitbag however is... VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #79

Look at what Hillary's own spouse did to her. MotherPetrie Aug 2013 #31

Good example given the connection BUT Maximumnegro Aug 2013 #39

What did Bill do to her? She seems happy to me... VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #77

When you famously get it on with a minion in your office, you are showing your spouse anything MotherPetrie Aug 2013 #87

OMG seriously? You act like this is a rare occurrence... VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #88

I bet he is one of those guys... SummerSnow Aug 2013 #18

That's one hell of a narrative you've constructed. This place is really weird with this stuff Ed Suspicious Aug 2013 #26

You're right. His philandering doesn't mean he hits his wife. SummerSnow Aug 2013 #32

She made a bad decision to marry him in the first place davidpdx Aug 2013 #30

She's not as bright as she's given credit for - lynne Aug 2013 #33

Now not only does she have low self esteem.....she has low intelligence too? VanillaRhapsody Aug 2013 #69

So if women become a little busier with childbirth... marions ghost Aug 2013 #35

She's also been busy working for Hillary Maximumnegro Aug 2013 #41

"according to her friends" says People Magazine. So.. n/t allin99 Aug 2013 #37

I think I read this once Nuclear Unicorn Aug 2013 #38

It is pretty clear now that she gets a thrill out of public humiliation AngryAmish Aug 2013 #42

lol, where can i get a wife like that. n/t. okieinpain Aug 2013 #50

I hope she heals well. nt ZombieHorde Aug 2013 #54

Hope it isn't true. Sounds just like reality show type like stupid gossip Whisp Aug 2013 #55

What happens if she says she's into what he does? MrSlayer Aug 2013 #56

If true, I've lost ALL respect for Huma Bake Aug 2013 #57

Still not sure why I should care. Warren DeMontague Aug 2013 #73

I feel badly for Huma BainsBane Aug 2013 #80

Definitely. But I'm not sure a glaring spotlight is really what she needs. Warren DeMontague Aug 2013 #81

Certainly all the press attention makes it worse BainsBane Aug 2013 #82

Sad, for sure. Warren DeMontague Aug 2013 #83

oh no BainsBane Aug 2013 #84

"Rango!" Warren DeMontague Aug 2013 #86