Gag alert: Huma blames herself for Weiner's sexting

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45. And they tell you what they think you want to hear

That was always the worst. The promises, the twisting of my own words to make it my fault, the manipulating of your emotions for you to believe everything was NORMAL, that the situation was NORMAL. And then - telling me that it would be okay, that he was 'working on things' and the promises of a better life in the near future...the consoling that said, "even if it was your fault, we'll work through this...together." while continuing the behavior and continuing to emotionally abuse...they get you on their side first. And it's not all bad times. You are led to believe that emotional abuse is violent, continuous, dished out by monsters. No, you can have a great marriage 95% of the time, but that 5% is horrible. But just because 95% is great, it does not negate the fact that you are abused. Most people just don't realize they are in an abusive situation because it does not reflect what we are told an abusive situation looks like. Most people can't wrap their brains around that the person they love and is warm, funny and loving MOST of the time is an abusive asshole. They make excuses. "They were tired, overworked, stressed..."

I really wish they would teach how to recognize abuse in schools. It would've saved me years of torment.