*** Help a DUer *** Sunday, 8/4/13

[OneGrassRoot]

38. I appreciate your suggestion, boston bean...

and your concern. Truly.

But I don't think this was as much about one of the people being anonymous as it is personality conflicts.

Had I thought about including his DU name with this OP (remembering that when he first created the Wishlist post he wasn't a member at DU, so the previous OP I created -- from which I copy and paste -- had his name as Josh), this still would have happened. He did not ask me to NOT include his DU name, once he became a member in the interim.

It was an oversight on my part but, from my perspective, wasn't an egregious error. As we've said here, people could have PM'd me to ask (or PM'd to tell me he was banned overnight), and that would have likely prompted me to edit to include his DU name for people or remove the link.

Still, if the OP had his name, the exact same thing likely would have happened. Again, I want to stress that his DU name was not intentionally left out.

I have zero confidence that such "Help a DUer" OPs done in the future won't be subjected to the DUers' posts being examined and judged, and it being discussed publicly in the thread as to whether or not they are worthy.

The woo/skeptic example I gave upthread is the best example I can give. I can TOTALLY imagine people jumping in if they see someone they've disagreed with in any of the many woo/skeptic threads, saying, "Hey, so and so is a woo/skeptic, so you may want to be aware of that before helping them."

A simple thing with straightforward intentions now becomes a playground for witch hunts and judgment.

It's been harder and harder for these OPs to get attention anyway. It may be compassion fatigue...who knows.

If someone else wants to take over, they can. I choose to avoid the interpersonal conflicts here as much as possible, so this is the best choice for me, selfishly. I just won't jump into that minefield willingly now that the okay has been given to post publicly in the thread rather than contact me privately.

(Please also remember that I still have Glenn Beck-ites who stalk me here...and from the other sites as well...so I have NO doubt trolls would join with the express intent to derail these OPs.)

for you and your thoughtfulness, boston bean.