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Hekate

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21. My daughter was born in 1975, my son in 1978

Reply to Just Saying (Original post)

Thu Aug 8, 2013, 05:09 PM

Aug 2013

Out of a sense of what was in their best interests I nursed them on-demand each for a bit over a year. It was lovely when it was lovely, but...

I had a nearly endless succession of clogged ducts and cracked nipples both times.

My diet was excellent, as was my base health. My desire to have these babies and nurse them was 100%. My then-husband was not exactly on-board and I was exhausted, but that's not so unusual. My breasts just did not want to co-operate.

At this moment I look back and wonder: Why in the name of the Great Mother did I allow myself to suffer so?

Hekate

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Most mothers should feel a sense of obligation to breastfeed their children. [View all] Just Saying Aug 2013 OP

guilting and shaming have become the latest tool in converting people to whatever cause someone is liberal_at_heart Aug 2013 #1

Bravo. Well said. RebelOne Aug 2013 #2

I failed at nursing my firstborn but was wildly successful with my second and third babies... CTyankee Aug 2013 #3

women aren't cows ... and breastfeeding isn't quite as natural as breathing ... srican69 Aug 2013 #4

She ever had any of them question her? Just Saying Aug 2013 #7

I tried with my 2nd and 3rd child Worried senior Aug 2013 #5

It's not for everybody, that's for certain Warpy Aug 2013 #6

I agree. Aristus Aug 2013 #8

Shaming doesn't accomplish what's intended Cairycat Aug 2013 #9

+1 nt Tree-Hugger Aug 2013 #16

"Breastfeeding is also healthier for mothers" NickB79 Aug 2013 #20

I was intolerant of breast milk Dash87 Aug 2013 #10

I couldn't agree more; what works best for the woman and her child is not my business. REP Aug 2013 #11

I remember reading about a father at a grocery store kiva Aug 2013 #12

That's awesome! Just Saying Aug 2013 #13

Beautiful. I did something similar once, and it felt good. Hekate Aug 2013 #24

! kiva Aug 2013 #25

Ordinarily I don't pipi_k Aug 2013 #27

Well, let's consider the context: breast feeding is best for the kid & for years KittyWampus Aug 2013 #14

For my daughter-in-law & my son it's also an economic issue SoCalDem Aug 2013 #19

Kudos on pipi_k Aug 2013 #28

and we used washcloths..not disposable wipes.. SoCalDem Aug 2013 #29

I frigging hate the mommy wars. Mothers need to quit fighting Butterbean Aug 2013 #15

Good post. Sheldon Cooper Aug 2013 #17

people should mind their own damn business TorchTheWitch Aug 2013 #18

My daughter was born in 1975, my son in 1978 Hekate Aug 2013 #21

It is a personal choice. I never felt an obligation or the desire to Autumn Aug 2013 #22

Your experience exactly mirrors mine. AngryOldDem Aug 2013 #23

My mom was always breastfeeding some kid. hunter Aug 2013 #26

Many women in this very thread have said it was painful and unpleasant REP Aug 2013 #30