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In reply to the discussion: The $38,000 hand bag: if you had more money, how would your lifestyle change? [View all]Zorra
(27,670 posts)54. I have a great life, and have more than I need, which is relatively little.
I have seen first hand, close up and personal, all too often, what having too much money does to some people.
When Power Goes To Your Head, It May Shut Out Your Heart
by Chris Benderev
August 10, 2013 7:41 AM
"What we're finding is power diminishes all varieties of empathy," says Dacher Keltner, a social psychologist at University of California, Berkeley, not involved in the new study. He says these results fit a trend within psychological research.
"Whether you're with a team at work [or] your family dinner, all of that hinges on how we adapt our behaviors to the behaviors of other people," he says. "And power takes a bite out of that ability, which is too bad."
The good news, Keltner says, is an emerging field of research that suggests powerful people who begin to forget their subordinates can be coached back to their compassionate selves.
by Chris Benderev
August 10, 2013 7:41 AM
"What we're finding is power diminishes all varieties of empathy," says Dacher Keltner, a social psychologist at University of California, Berkeley, not involved in the new study. He says these results fit a trend within psychological research.
"Whether you're with a team at work [or] your family dinner, all of that hinges on how we adapt our behaviors to the behaviors of other people," he says. "And power takes a bite out of that ability, which is too bad."
The good news, Keltner says, is an emerging field of research that suggests powerful people who begin to forget their subordinates can be coached back to their compassionate selves.
That said, I am quite sure that I would travel more if I had more money. One thing that is really a lot of fun to do when traveling in Third World countries is to walk the streets of cities and towns and give money to the folks who are sitting on the sidewalks begging. Especially the single moms, blind folks, and folks with no legs, etc. Seriously, it is a major hoot, I highly recommend it. It's actually kind of selfish, in a way, because the relief, disbelief, and joy you see when a desperate person gets a 200 peso note in their cup is a total endorphin rush.
But, well, ya know, if someone desperately feels that they need to own a $30,000 pair of shoes, or eat a $10,000 dish of caviar extracted from fish that are going extinct, who am I to criticize?
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The $38,000 hand bag: if you had more money, how would your lifestyle change? [View all]
hedgehog
Aug 2013
OP
Actually, what this amounts to is YOU determining how much is appropriate for others.
KittyWampus
Aug 2013
#76
wow.. $100 could go a long way for someone, and you would waste it on 1 dinner? wow..
GalaxyHunter
Aug 2013
#42
Yes, I do know what a nominal number is and we are not talking about those.
Bunnahabhain
Aug 2013
#127
If I had that money I would use it to hire unemployed union people to fix homes for the homeless....
midnight
Aug 2013
#179
Oh, this has been brought up plenty of times. And there are DU'ers who DO begrudge someone
KittyWampus
Aug 2013
#80
If you had no debts, health care wasn't an issue, if you had lottery level money
hedgehog
Aug 2013
#6
She is a celeb with a movie coming out. Anything that gets her name in the papers.
reformist2
Aug 2013
#113
Odd-- I saw a series on... Discovery, I believe... that covered exactly that topic.
Marr
Aug 2013
#89
I agree that Oprah has done a lot of good - not only with her money but in how she earned it -
hedgehog
Aug 2013
#27
One thing that has always bothered me about some of the "good" things Oprah does is . . .
markpkessinger
Aug 2013
#61
I'd build a more efficient house, not bigger, just better. Bigger tractor and welder maybe.
1-Old-Man
Aug 2013
#36
Not like that... I would never want to live like the top 1%, but I'd surely like to have the money
hlthe2b
Aug 2013
#46
I am basically a hermit, not much change except I wouldn't worry about being able to pay bills,
Mnemosyne
Aug 2013
#60
I would like to have a few mil. I would open up non kill shelters for stray dogs and cats
darkangel218
Aug 2013
#72
Not much, probably. Just would have more peace of mind about ability to pay for long-term health
MotherPetrie
Aug 2013
#85
Yes - I am offended that such a purse exists! It's a prime example of conspicuous consumption!
hedgehog
Aug 2013
#121
If I were a multi-millionaire I still would never buy clothing or accessories that cost 38 grand
arely staircase
Aug 2013
#122
unless the hand bag contains a genie that would grant me three wishes - I cannot see ever spending
Douglas Carpenter
Aug 2013
#124
I would buy an electric car, have solar panels installed and maybe a windmill
Rosa Luxemburg
Aug 2013
#137
I'm not a "thing" person or a status person, over the years when my income has increased
Luminous Animal
Aug 2013
#140
Besides the money, I just need a Volcanic Island, an underground lair, a bevy of
Katashi_itto
Aug 2013
#147