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In reply to the discussion: Calling Bradley Manning a She---Educate me DU. [View all]noamnety
(20,234 posts)GLAAD has a good resource here: http://www.glaad.org/reference/transgender
You can scroll down to the section called "NAMES, PRONOUN USAGE & DESCRIPTIONS."
Some excerpts:
"Always use a transgender person's chosen name. Often transgender people cannot afford a legal name change or are not yet old enough to change their name legally. They should be afforded the same respect for their chosen name as anyone else who lives by a name other than their birth name (e.g., celebrities)." - so in this case, Chelsea Manning is the proper form of address.
"Whenever possible, ask transgender people which pronoun they would like you to use. A person who identifies as a certain gender, whether or not that person has taken hormones or had some form of surgery, should be referred to using the pronouns appropriate for that gender." - so in this case, the proper pronoun is "she."
Although you personally seem to have made up your own rules for qualifications (must be able to afford and have access to surgery), be aware that your personally made up set of rules does not match society's standards for acceptability.