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In reply to the discussion: What is with so many of you referring to Manning with male pronouns [View all]
Summer Hathaway
(2,770 posts)Who died and left you boss?
"What is with so many of you referring to Manning with male pronouns when you know full well that she requested female pronouns?"
Yes, Manning requested that. That in no way obligates anyone to comply with that request.
"How is that you feel ok to deny someone the right to use the pronoun they feel fits them the best?"
No one is denying Manning the right to use the pronoun she feels fits her best. But that's where her rights end. She has no right to expect or demand that other people use her pronoun of choice - and neither do you.
This whole OP smacks of someone who got up yesterday morning and immediately started combing DU for 'offenders' who are not complying with what YOU think is appropriate behavior, for the sole purpose of pouncing on them with a righteous yell of Ah ha! Caught you!
You have insinuated - actually it's more than mere insinuation - that anyone not using language that YOU approve of is too lazy to do so, or they are homophobes or transphobes, are "mocking" someone's transition, and/or are "defending transphobia".
Posters on this board have been talking about "Bradley" and "he" for a VERY long time - and within less than two days of Manning's request, you are vilifying anyone who hasn't adjusted their language to "Chelsea" and "her", as though every instance of anyone doing so is a deliberate attempt to be insensitive - or worse.
What is especially amusing is to see those who accuse others of being authoritarians insisting that everyone do EXACTLY as they are told by people like yourself - and DO IT RIGHT NOW, because they've been TOLD to do so. There will be no excuses accepted - you WILL lock-step, you WILL comply!
I could understand some here being accused of a lack of sensitivity IF, for example, a letter were being sent directly to Manning. But that's not the case here. We are people posting on a message board that, in all probability, Manning will never read, and never even be aware of.
People are free to use whatever "pronouns" they choose. Whether YOU think their choice of words is acceptable or not is YOUR problem, not theirs. And you can sit on your high horse and call those people whatever you choose to call them. But in your insufferable arrogance, you might remember that your personal opinion of anyone is just that - YOUR opinion - and you are in no position to dictate what other people do, or to accuse those whose opinions differ from yours of being homophobes, transphobes, or anything of the kind.
"Does anyone want to explain this to me?"
Several people have - e.g. sheer habit, not having yet adjusted to the new normal, etc. And in every case, you have belittled their attempts to explain their views.
"Authoritarians" - many of the responses in this thread are the living, breathing proof of being exactly that.
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