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forestpath

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48. What about NICKNAMES? Lots of people use multiple variations of

Sun Aug 25, 2013, 10:49 AM

Aug 2013

their given names. I do. I can't imagine your reaction to my given name, which has multiple variations and I'm called by many of them by different relatives, friends, coworkers...I shudder to think how that kind of situation would affect you.

And - is jollyreaper2112 your real name? If not, how do you handle the confusion of having a posting name different from your actual name and knowing when to use each one? It must take a spreadsheet!!!!

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I am not transphobic, I hate name changes [View all] jollyreaper2112 Aug 2013 OP

Why did Constantinople get the works? Liberal Veteran Aug 2013 #1

I blame the song. n/t winter is coming Aug 2013 #2

That's nobody's business but the Turks! nomorenomore08 Aug 2013 #16

Even old New York, was once New Amsterdam. backscatter712 Aug 2013 #65

Chelsea Manning doesn't have gender confusion issues, but by all means, myrna minx Aug 2013 #3

Giving the benefit of the doubt here... NYC_SKP Aug 2013 #7

agreed, I hate self righteousness treestar Aug 2013 #62

It's not mockery jollyreaper2112 Aug 2013 #8

Refusing to use the gender pronoun she has requested Ms. Toad Aug 2013 #10

This post sounds like some low rent whiny Jerry Seinfeld-esque riff at the expense of trans people. myrna minx Aug 2013 #12

What if someone just doesn't like Manning and takes any opportunity to ignore his/her requests Synthesize Aug 2013 #25

It's the same Tien1985 Aug 2013 #27

Good analogy. n/t Ms. Toad Aug 2013 #31

Using the "wrong" pronoun pipi_k Aug 2013 #45

AUTOMATED MESSAGE: Results of your Jury Service Orrex Aug 2013 #57

On what reasoning do you base your prejudice? nt Zorra Aug 2013 #71

How you treat Manning as to this request Ms. Toad Aug 2013 #28

Not to trivialize pipi_k Aug 2013 #47

I do - in each of those cases. Ms. Toad Aug 2013 #50

I don't see pipi_k Aug 2013 #58

You demonstrate a curious over-reliance on scare quotes. Orrex Aug 2013 #60

Using a pronoun other than the pronoun requested is disrespectful Ms. Toad Aug 2013 #61

What principle? Bigotry? BainsBane Aug 2013 #80

Post removed Post removed Aug 2013 #82

Then you can do that but keep it to yourself. NYC_SKP Aug 2013 #85

Insulting not only to trans* members of DU but also to many others among us. NYC_SKP Aug 2013 #84

I agree. Ms. Toad Aug 2013 #86

As I said elsewhere - why name yourself after a football club dipsydoodle Aug 2013 #33

As a trans woman myself, it's silly to go through life with a male name MillennialDem Aug 2013 #4

Oh, I dunno... pipi_k Aug 2013 #49

Also it is not gender confusion. She knows she is a woman in her brain. The body MillennialDem Aug 2013 #5

It's not confusion, it's a disorder Bay Boy Aug 2013 #37

It will be called gender dysphoria in the DSM V and is no longer a disorder, it is MillennialDem Aug 2013 #38

I agree n/t Bay Boy Aug 2013 #40

Chelsea Stadium? Oh wait, it's MetLife Stadium now... DontTreadOnMe Aug 2013 #6

It also has nothing to do with Phobia. Mr.Bill Aug 2013 #9

Wow. How on earth do you cope when people you know get married and forestpath Aug 2013 #11

+1000! theHandpuppet Aug 2013 #24

+1 JustAnotherGen Aug 2013 #26

It's trying jollyreaper2112 Aug 2013 #42

What about NICKNAMES? Lots of people use multiple variations of forestpath Aug 2013 #48

everytime someone gets married its like PTSD over here La Lioness Priyanka Aug 2013 #77

I still call it Bombay. And Burma. BlueStreak Aug 2013 #13

Makes you sound like a Republican. GeorgeGist Aug 2013 #22

So then, you're an idiot. flvegan Aug 2013 #14

+1 BOG PERSON Aug 2013 #18

I think Prince is back to Prince now quinnox Aug 2013 #15

And you started an OP just for this? How bored *are* you tonight? nomorenomore08 Aug 2013 #17

I'm not crazy about them either but I'll gladly make the effort for a transgendered person steve2470 Aug 2013 #19

"I am not transphobic" handmade34 Aug 2013 #20

constant name changing... R. Daneel Olivaw Aug 2013 #21

Narrow minded BS. GeorgeGist Aug 2013 #23

Huh? gollygee Aug 2013 #29

Name changes aren't strange in the least. LuvNewcastle Aug 2013 #30

I'm on my third DU name. City Lights Aug 2013 #32

Do you find you have a general fear of change, or is it just name changes? nt Zorra Aug 2013 #34

Have you ever mentioned this at a wedding where names change most of the time? Bluenorthwest Aug 2013 #35

Yes UtahLib Aug 2013 #36

Other people's names are all about you? Brickbat Aug 2013 #39

I'm not transphobic, therefore it's okay for me to exhibit transphobic behavior. Iggo Aug 2013 #41

Well it's hard to adjust to these name changes gollygee Aug 2013 #43

.. La Lioness Priyanka Aug 2013 #76

Noted, jollyreaper. Btw how did your parents decide on that name? nolabear Aug 2013 #44

"he's got gender confusion problems" burnodo Aug 2013 #46

Where I am "Mary" can become "Starlight". It's annoying. nt rrneck Aug 2013 #51

And your real name is rrneck? Bluenorthwest Aug 2013 #70

I have little patience for affectation. rrneck Aug 2013 #73

Constantinople? War Horse Aug 2013 #52

Byzantium, anyone? n/t SwankyXomb Aug 2013 #55

So your Mommy named you jollyreaper2112? Or is that a name that you, like, picked? Bluenorthwest Aug 2013 #53

So you're against women changing their surnames when they marry, right? Gormy Cuss Aug 2013 #54

It's interesting that "once" means "constant" now. Posteritatis Aug 2013 #56

I interpreted it pipi_k Aug 2013 #59

You mean like 95% of couples getting married? Many of them do marry a few times.... Bluenorthwest Aug 2013 #69

Whine, whine, whine lunatica Aug 2013 #63

You not okay with most women changing their name when they get married? Stinky The Clown Aug 2013 #64

OMG! Chelsea changed her name once! Everybody panic and pout! n/t backscatter712 Aug 2013 #66

I am totally with you on this! noamnety Aug 2013 #67

Manning doesn't have gender confusion problems. Manning is Transgendered. bluestate10 Aug 2013 #68

You'll be changing your user name to you birth name soon then, yes LanternWaste Aug 2013 #72

Gender confusion problems? Marrah_G Aug 2013 #74

constant name changing? is she doing it every 5 mins? La Lioness Priyanka Aug 2013 #75

Yusuf Islam is the name Cat Stevens took. MADem Aug 2013 #78

"gender confusion problems" ForgoTheConsequence Aug 2013 #79

Then just use "Manning" Union Scribe Aug 2013 #81

I only have problems if it's difficult to pronounce or spell FloridaJudy Aug 2013 #83