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LWolf

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14. The last time I got married,

Sun Aug 25, 2013, 03:07 PM

Aug 2013

my sons walked me down the aisle, one on either side, and then stood at the altar (no attendants at that wedding,) one on either side.

They weren't there to "give me away." They were there to witness, to participate, and, most of all to support me.

Eleven years later when the marriage ended, they were there again. They were there to move all of my stuff out, to fix up the new place, to hold me when I cried, and to help me get up and move forward.

It's a quaint phrase..."to give away." We never, though, give away those we love. It's time that the phrase, and the intent, evolves.

You can say that you are there, as always, to love and support her, and to walk forward into the next stage of her life with her.

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Something different on a Sunday afternoon, giving away a bride... [View all] hootinholler Aug 2013 OP

Did your daugher ask you to do this? Brickbat Aug 2013 #1

Indeed she has asked hootinholler Aug 2013 #3

It's not about ownership any more. Voice for Peace Aug 2013 #5

+1 - this post made me tear up. cbayer Aug 2013 #7

Might want to? ROFLMAO hootinholler Aug 2013 #10

I thought if you get it all out this week Voice for Peace Aug 2013 #17

It's a strategy then. hootinholler Aug 2013 #23

As to what you say when asked who gives your daughter to be married, winter is coming Aug 2013 #19

+1 Arctic Dave Aug 2013 #12

Congratulations, Dad! leveymg Aug 2013 #2

Thank you Mark! hootinholler Aug 2013 #4

Looking forward to that. leveymg Aug 2013 #6

I will be the mother of the groom next Spring, and I start cbayer Aug 2013 #8

I was totally cool until last week hootinholler Aug 2013 #11

I will think of you next week and want to send my best wishes to cbayer Aug 2013 #15

Thank you very much! hootinholler Aug 2013 #16

Here's an idea: coffeenap Aug 2013 #9

my folks raised me the same way fizzgig Aug 2013 #13

+1. My brother gave me away (my dad was dead). To us, it wasn't a property thing, either. winter is coming Aug 2013 #20

My goal with my kids has been hootinholler Aug 2013 #21

And then they tell you you're doing a great job. n/t winter is coming Aug 2013 #22

The last time I got married, LWolf Aug 2013 #14

I think your wording sounds just fine. The other thing you could consider pnwmom Aug 2013 #18

I was at a wedding last weekend. The father of the bride's answer to "who gives this woman..." was Chiyo-chichi Aug 2013 #24

I *really* like that MadrasT Aug 2013 #25

I like that. hootinholler Aug 2013 #26