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bvar22

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26. Addressing the "regrets" is a thouroughly natural process.

Mon Feb 27, 2012, 11:38 AM

Feb 2012

It is called Finishing Business, or Closure,
and I pray that I have that opportunity before I die.
It is an essential step on the path to Peace,
but only a step.
Not good to get stuck there.

In fact, addressing the "regrets" (or grieving) is a natural, healthy part of daily life,
though on a smaller scale. Saying "goodbye" is necessary before moving on.
Honoring the Losses brings wholeness,
though getting stuck in grief is not a healthy thing.
Balance is the key.

As a culture, we Americans never say "Goodbye" to anyone or anything.
and pay a price for it.

"He who grieves well, lives well."

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Nurse tells the Top 5 regrets of the dying. [View all] FarLeftFist Feb 2012 OP

I have the highest admiration and respect for pallliative care professionals rustydog Feb 2012 #1

"I wish that damn nosy nurse would stop asking me so many questions." Ikonoklast Feb 2012 #2

It's not that these nurses ask the dying patients these questions. It's when they Cal33 Feb 2012 #5

Excellent list!!! I bet many people go thought life leading their life for others, peer RKP5637 Feb 2012 #3

"I wish I'd spent more time at work. Morning Dew Feb 2012 #4

I am glad that I wasn’t drinking a soda when I read your post left is right Feb 2012 #6

Worrying... countryjake Feb 2012 #7

I feel very lucky after reading that list. dixiegrrrrl Feb 2012 #8

The dying should be thinking about all the joys in their life. Mumble Feb 2012 #9

Addressing the "regrets" is a thouroughly natural process. bvar22 Feb 2012 #26

What is the source of this info? Link? spooky3 Feb 2012 #10

Here is a link to a published source NNN0LHI Feb 2012 #21

thanks! spooky3 Feb 2012 #30

And the one percent are moving aggressively to ensure woo me with science Feb 2012 #11

I am all but #4. Edweird Feb 2012 #12

At end of life, some things become more clear. Festivito Feb 2012 #29

What I believe about myself counts for little in my relationships. Edweird Mar 2012 #40

I hope you are as happy as I read. Festivito Mar 2012 #41

I wish I'd had more sex. You can keep the bungee jumping. (n/t) Jim Lane Feb 2012 #13

These are my signature line at another site.... a kennedy Feb 2012 #14

#6: I wish I hadn't voted for George Bush. AcidBlack Feb 2012 #15

For me it was my errant vote for Ronald Reagan. Oh, what a mistake. Festivito Feb 2012 #31

I should clarify. AcidBlack Feb 2012 #34

Glad to hear you didn't. I wish I could say the same. /nt Festivito Feb 2012 #38

Even worse and more specifically, will this man have regrets? Uncle Joe Feb 2012 #37

Sir John Betjeman, Poet Laureate: Dead_Parrot Feb 2012 #16

FarLeftFist pennyfor Feb 2012 #17

do you have a link? or was this just a mass email? nt Javaman Feb 2012 #18

Here is a link... Javaman Feb 2012 #19

58 years old in a few more days and I have none of these regrets NNN0LHI Feb 2012 #20

A good friend died of cancer when we were both 23 years old. KurtNYC Feb 2012 #23

I try to live by Erma's Bombeck's regrets ... mntleo2 Feb 2012 #22

Yep! Yooperman Feb 2012 #24

Great advice. Beacool Feb 2012 #33

When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said,"Later. Now go get washed up for dinner" SunSeeker Apr 2014 #42

Thanks for posting! Yooperman Feb 2012 #25

Don't forget: jonthebru Feb 2012 #27

DURec...and a kick. bvar22 Feb 2012 #28

"I wish I lived my life with traditional family values." Evasporque Feb 2012 #32

Well, I think I should be good to go then Blue_In_AK Feb 2012 #35

Getting rid of that Ball and Chain B Calm Feb 2012 #36

I don't have the mentioned regrets R.Blue Feb 2012 #39

K & R SunSeeker Apr 2014 #43