North Carolina Church Wanted “Only White People” as Greeters

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16. You are trying to be inclusive...

that's the important thing. Better that you assumed they wanted to join the church rather than immediately pegging them as there to mow the lawn. No harm. Everyone always used to think my Dad was rich, because he acted like he was. He dropped the right names and places and could affect an air of nobility. Actually he was poor as a church mouse, but a lot of people would roll out the red carpet when they thought he was rich (tells ya a lot about those kind of people...)

But --what about this use of the term "African American gentlemen?" As tho there are two types of AA men? I know you didn't mean anything bad by it and a lot of people say that, but it strikes me as "code" of some kind. I have never asked anyone, black or white, what they think of that usage--maybe you could discuss it in some church diversity group. Maybe others have opinions. It sounds weird to me as we never say "a white gentleman." It smacks of some kind of outside approval...

Just throwing that thought out as it occurred...no criticism meant.